{"id":106343,"date":"2013-06-06T09:21:53","date_gmt":"2013-06-06T13:21:53","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/getreligion\/?p=106343"},"modified":"2013-06-06T09:28:51","modified_gmt":"2013-06-06T13:28:51","slug":"when-a-pastor-has-an-affair-and-nobodys-talking","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/getreligion\/2013\/06\/when-a-pastor-has-an-affair-and-nobodys-talking\/","title":{"rendered":"When a pastor has an affair and nobody’s talking"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<\/head>

A megachurch pastor resigns after admitting<\/a> an affair.<\/p>\n

That sounds like a news story, right?<\/p>\n

Only problem: Outside of an official church statement, nobody seems to be talking. Not the pastor. Not the congregation\u2019s leaders. Not anybody close to the situation, really.<\/p>\n

What\u2019s a reporter to do?<\/p>\n

Well, a creative journalist could do worse than to follow the lead of Orlando Sentinel<\/em> writer Jeff Kunerth, who recently turned the above lemon of a scenario into not one but two pitchers of enterprising newspaper lemonade.<\/p>\n

A GetReligion colleague shared this headline with our team this week, although the story<\/a> is a couple weeks old:<\/p>\n

Disgraced pastors who repent face long road back, experts say<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

The lede:<\/p>\n

In a letter read to the congregation at Discovery Church, Pastor David Loveless admitted adultery, deceit, sinfulness, selfishness, broken trust and a violation of \u201ceverything I knew to be true and right.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cI am broken beyond description,\u201d he wrote.<\/p>\n

Loveless resigned last month from the Orlando church he founded 29 years ago and, like many fallen preachers before him, now begins a restoration process. It won\u2019t be easy, say experts.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Do you see what Kunerth did there?<\/p>\n

He took the limited public facts available and used them as a peg for a larger story: It won\u2019t be easy, say experts.<\/em><\/p>\n

Keep reading, and the Sentinel<\/em> story provides insight from four experts, including this one:<\/p>\n

<\/p>\n

Pastor Ron Johnson, who has counseled more than 20 ministers in crisis, said restoration takes at least two years. But many fallen ministers are unable or unwilling to do the work necessary to achieve true spiritual restoration.<\/p>\n

\u201cThere\u2019s a lack of humility,\u201d said Johnson, senior pastor of One Church in Longwood. \u201cMost of these guys get into sexual sin not because they have runaway lust. Most have runaway pride.\u201d<\/p>\n

One of the major problems is that many cannot humble themselves in a three-stage process that involves repentance, reconciliation and restoration, Johnson said. The process takes them back to where they began, before they built their congregations into megachurches, wrote books, spoke at conferences. Before all the love and adoration of those who filled the pews and the collection plates.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

The pride issue is one that has gained notoriety<\/a> among pastors on a national level, not just in Florida. So it\u2019s certainly an important angle for a religion story.<\/p>\n

Earlier \u2014 again, with the pastor and church at the center not talking \u2014 Kunerth produced a meaty story<\/a> with this headline:<\/p>\n

Discovery Church illustrates how power of pulpit can lead pastors to affairs<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

A bit of that story:<\/p>\n

It has nothing to do with anything in the water and all to do with the pressures, adorations and temptations that come from being a high-profile pastor in a large church, say experts and fellow pastors.<\/p>\n

\u201cYou\u2019re a brilliant preacher, you are a wonderful pastoral person in times of crisis, you can raise money, you can administer a staff, you have a vast array of gifts,\u201d said David Swanson, senior pastor of\u00a0First Presbyterian Church of Orlando. \u201cThat\u2019s a lot for one person to carry.\u201d<\/p>\n

That high position of respect and responsibility can elevate a pastor to the point of isolation, Swanson said. Without trusted confidants who can listen to the pastor\u2019s own doubts and burdens \u2014 and steer him back in line when he wavers \u2014 the megachurch pastor can be susceptible to his own impulses.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Alas, both stories would be better if the actual pastor and church \u2014 and the \u201cother woman\u201d \u2014 involved were talking. The wide-angle view of such a scenario would be more compelling with some tight, up-close pictures of this specific situation.<\/p>\n

But given the lemon the reporter was dealt, these pitchers of lemonade end up tasting pretty sweet anyway.<\/p>\n

Image via Shutterstock<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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