Just Us

Just Us February 18, 2014

Lindsey and I have been on a “just us” long weekend and will be heading home later today. We’ve stayed in a Colonial cottage on the edge of Gorham’s Bluff (extreme Northeast Alabama). Below us, there is a 3,400 acre reservoir and a great view of the Tennessee River. We have enjoyed gorgeous sunsets each night and tons of quality time together.

We left our two-year-old at home with some other folks he adores, so this truly has been just us.

The morning of day two, I woke up early and was praying/meditating/listening and then began to write. Turns out it was a love letter to Lindsey. I began to tell her how beautiful she is and how much I love just her. The two of us are very busy people and it’s much easier to see her as mother, cooker, cleaner, wife, the one I make babies with, than just her.

I am in love with Lindsey. Just her. She is beautiful. All those years ago, I fell in love with a super hot girl who was creative, contemplative, & compassionate…and I met her again this weekend.

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I had to choke back tears a few times this weekend, just looking at her. Looking at the gorgeous lines that make her back so beautiful. Looking in her eyes that were the lightest gray/green on Sunday. Listening to her hum while she made bows or read a book by Fannie Flagg.

We spent time doing nothing. We were just together. No cell service until we went into Chattanooga one night. Talk about QUIET!

And then God…

He reminded me that it’s the same way with Him. We give ourselves all these titles: pastor, worship leader, speaker, blogger, the one who is always funny, the person who’s always happy, the girl who lets nothing get to her. All these roles. All these expectations. We do it and it seems natural and necessary, when all God is saying is just “Be mine” (Dang, should have written this on the 14th!).

But seriously.

Strip away the titles and you will find that you are just as loved and celebrated by God.

We become so busy performing that we forget to just be.

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  • Absolutely love this! Makes us remember to focus on what’s important rather than just life’s demands(:

  • Absolutely love this! Makes us remember to focus on what’s important rather than just life’s demands(:

  • Nice one Steve. We need to make time to focus more on our first loves. As a family with 3 kids, we sometimes allow them to consume us completely, making us miss each other. We sleep next to each other, etc. but we miss each other. Breakaways are important.

    In the same way with God. We get consumed with church and serving and end up missing God in it all.

    Thanks for the reminder, as I really need to make some time for me and God, without technology around. Now to simply find some time where I can leave the kids with other people, also overly busy with their own lives, so me and God, and me and my wife can reconnect.

    • Thanks for stopping by, my friend!

      I’ve had this idea of a network/parenting community of sorts, where you and three or four other couples that you know very well and would trust your children with create a contract (verbal…casual) so that each couple is guaranteed at least one “off night/date night” per month. This also means that each couple agrees to keep their own children plus the kids of one other couple at least once per month. It’s a sort of Date-Rotate!

  • Nice one Steve. We need to make time to focus more on our first loves. As a family with 3 kids, we sometimes allow them to consume us completely, making us miss each other. We sleep next to each other, etc. but we miss each other. Breakaways are important.

    In the same way with God. We get consumed with church and serving and end up missing God in it all.

    Thanks for the reminder, as I really need to make some time for me and God, without technology around. Now to simply find some time where I can leave the kids with other people, also overly busy with their own lives, so me and God, and me and my wife can reconnect.

    • Thanks for stopping by, my friend!

      I’ve had this idea of a network/parenting community of sorts, where you and three or four other couples that you know very well and would trust your children with create a contract (verbal…casual) so that each couple is guaranteed at least one “off night/date night” per month. This also means that each couple agrees to keep their own children plus the kids of one other couple at least once per month. It’s a sort of Date-Rotate!

  • Hi Steve
    I am enjoying your blog so much. Thanks for sharing your weekend with us. I salute the people who constantly hold up the right pictures concerning marriage and other important issues the world has distorted! So I salute you….. 🙂
    Rolain

    • Well my goodness! Thank you! I appreciate you reading so very much! That means a ton.

  • Hi Steve
    I am enjoying your blog so much. Thanks for sharing your weekend with us. I salute the people who constantly hold up the right pictures concerning marriage and other important issues the world has distorted! So I salute you….. 🙂
    Rolain

    • Well my goodness! Thank you! I appreciate you reading so very much! That means a ton.