{"id":2834,"date":"2011-10-21T05:00:43","date_gmt":"2011-10-21T09:00:43","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/growmama.com\/?p=2834"},"modified":"2011-10-21T05:00:43","modified_gmt":"2011-10-21T09:00:43","slug":"the-best-innate-quality","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/growmama\/motherhood\/the-best-innate-quality\/","title":{"rendered":"The Best Innate Quality"},"content":{"rendered":"<!DOCTYPE html PUBLIC \"-\/\/W3C\/\/DTD HTML 4.0 Transitional\/\/EN\" \"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/TR\/REC-html40\/loose.dtd\">\n<html><head><meta http-equiv=\"content-type\" content=\"text\/html; charset=utf-8\"><meta http-equiv=\"content-type\" content=\"text\/html; charset=utf-8\"><\/head><body><p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft\" src=\"https:\/\/static.guim.co.uk\/sys-images\/Lifeandhealth\/Pix\/pictures\/2008\/11\/05\/oyster1.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"331\" height=\"198\">Has it occurred to you that in children\u2019s fashion, as the size gets bigger the clothes get skimpier? As a mom to two young girls, my biggest challenge has been to find clothes that compliment the innate nature of our children \u2013 which is to be modest. Due to the images that are flashed across shopping centers, magazines and television channels, children are quickly becoming desensitized and get mixed messages when their inner being wants them to behave a certain way but the world around them doesn\u2019t.<\/p>\n<p>Along with instilling the pillars of faith, it is critical for us to also educate them on modesty and its importance in Islam.<\/p>\n<p>Abdullah ibn Umar narrated that the Prophet (pbuh) said: \u201cIndeed hayaa (modesty) and faith are Companions. When one of them is lifted, the other leaves as well.\u201d (Baihaqi)<\/p>\n<p>Tips on nurturing hayaa in our children:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Dress them in modest clothes from a young age.<\/strong> Treat them like adults and encourage them to keep their awrah covered at all times.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Respect their privacy<\/strong> and give them their space when they need it.\n<p>Teach them to avoid exposing themselves in front of their siblings.\u00a0 This rules out family bubble baths, showers etc.<\/p><\/li>\n<li><strong>Make them aware of Allah\u2019s presence.\u00a0<\/strong> Irrespective of where they are or what they are doing, their actions are being recorded. The sense of responsibility will bring with it a need for always wanting to please Allah.\u00a0 This in turn will make them feel ashamed of committing sins and help them endeavor to steer clear to the best of their ability.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Encourage them to keep learning and seeking knowledge<\/strong>, as the more time they spend in doing acts of good, the stronger their commitment to their deen becomes. This in turn inculcates the qualities of self-consciousness and discipline.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Practice what you preach!<\/strong> Make hayaa of utmost importance in your house. Just because your children are young (under the age of reasoning) it doesn\u2019t mean you can walk around in revealing clothes (leave them to the confines of your bedroom). Children do as you do, not as you say!<\/li>\n<li><strong>Help them form a circle of righteous friends.<\/strong> Peer influence plays a powerful role in shaping the character of our children.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Avoid labeling their behavior.<\/strong> Shyness for the greater part is a good trait to have but sometimes it can be a hindrance. Deal with such situations tactfully. For example, if your child is shy of public speaking try not to swoop down on them and force them to \u2018give it a go\u2019 but instead do it in baby steps. Perhaps take them with you to the pharmacy or grocery store and ask them to interact with the sales assistant. Short but regular bursts of \u2018confidence training\u2019 will do them more good than trying to push them to speak in front of an audience at first go, and probably worsening their fears instead of diminishing it.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Narrated Abdullah ibn Umar, The Prophet (saws) passed by a man who was admonishing his brother regarding hayaa and was saying, \u201cYou are very shy, and I am afraid that might harm you.\u201d On that, Allah\u2019s Apostle said, \u201cLeave him, for hayaa is (a part) of faith.\u201d (Bukhari)<\/p>\n<p>I look forward to reading your tips and advice on the same, inshaAllah.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: right\">Nabeela Wahid<\/p>\n<p><em>Nabeela\u00a0 lives with her husband in Melbourne, Australia and is the mother of three young children. 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