{"id":4372,"date":"2012-07-05T05:00:23","date_gmt":"2012-07-05T09:00:23","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/growmama.com\/?p=4372"},"modified":"2013-07-07T09:22:47","modified_gmt":"2013-07-07T13:22:47","slug":"four-decades-of-wisdom","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/growmama\/motherhood\/four-decades-of-wisdom\/","title":{"rendered":"Four Decades of Wisdom"},"content":{"rendered":"<!DOCTYPE html PUBLIC \"-\/\/W3C\/\/DTD HTML 4.0 Transitional\/\/EN\" \"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/TR\/REC-html40\/loose.dtd\">\n<html><head><meta http-equiv=\"content-type\" content=\"text\/html; charset=utf-8\"><meta http-equiv=\"content-type\" content=\"text\/html; charset=utf-8\"><\/head><body><p><span style=\"font-size: small\"><span style=\"font-family: Times New Roman\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft size-medium wp-image-4374\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-media.patheos.com\/blogs\/sites\/362\/2012\/06\/reading_glass_1.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"240\" height=\"217\">I\u2019m at the library fingering through rows of novels to relax with over the weekend.\u00a0 The only problem is I left my reading glasses at home.\u00a0 I squint; I back my head away from the book spines to focus. Now I\u2019m getting dizzy.\u00a0 Finally, I pluck a book off the shelf and carry it to the checkout desk. Welcome to 40 years old.\u00a0 <\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: Times New Roman;font-size: small\">I was bewildered for several years in my early forties when I read the words in Quran, on medicine bottles and in reading books and could barely decipher them.\u00a0 Why are the words so tiny I wondered?\u00a0 The reality was my eyesight was on the decline. Vision loss is just another reminder that my body is wearing down and soon I\u2019ll be returning to my Lord. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: Times New Roman;font-size: small\">Although I know I will not be here forever, I do hope for a healthy quality of life. One of the greatest challenges I have as I age is maintaining my health. Because people in their 40\u2019s increasingly are being diagnosed with diabetes and hypertension, I find myself making stronger efforts to eat healthy foods and exercise regularly.\u00a0 I discovered another important reason to be extra conscious of my health during my forties: <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: small\"><span style=\"font-family: Times New Roman\">Two years ago I received a wonderful, unexpected surprise.\u00a0 I became pregnant with my eleventh child.\u00a0 I was absolutely convinced that my youngest girl was my last, for none of the friends and relatives I grew up with nor my present acquaintances had delivered babies in their mid-forties (or at least that I recall.) \u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: Times New Roman;font-size: small\">One of my primary apprehensions during this last pregnancy was dealing with the health complications that accompany old age. I was constantly concerned about developing gestational diabetes and hypertension, which can seriously affect the health of the baby. So I had to be particularly vigilant about eating well and maintaining my doctor appointments. \u00a0\u00a0To complicate the situation even further, I found that I fell into the category of mothers more likely to deliver a Down Syndrome baby, as this condition is more common with older mothers than younger ones.\u00a0This presented frequent anxiety for me as well.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: Times New Roman;font-size: small\">Being a middle-aged mother isn\u2019t all gloom and doom, though. \u00a0There are abundant positives in raising my younger children while I\u2019m older.\u00a0 Because I\u2019ve had plenty of experience with my older kids, I now feel more secure in my childrearing skills. \u00a0I know now what works and what doesn\u2019t.\u00a0 I know what\u2019s worth spending my time on and what\u2019s a waste of time. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: small\"><span style=\"font-family: Times New Roman\">But eventually the child birthing years do end.\u00a0 This is why I think the forties are an opportune time in my life to pursue some of my long held ambitions. For many years I\u2019ve had a desire to start my own business.\u00a0 Earlier this year I started a home based copywriting business called Payless Writing Service.\u00a0 I compose resumes, produce press releases and newsletters, and write copy for brochures, web sites and other business related material.\u00a0 <\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: Times New Roman;font-size: small\">I\u2019ve found developing and pursuing my business to be an enormous stress reducer.\u00a0 On occasion when I get frustrated or troubled, I go to my computer and get to work on establishing my business. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: Times New Roman;font-size: small\">Sometimes after dropping off my seventh child at college and driving back home, I turn off the motor and slowly swing my legs out of my car.\u00a0 I\u2019m anticipating the stiffness I will feel in my upper thighs and hips as I shuffle along the sidewalk and up my walkway after the forty-minute drive.\u00a0 I know my body is indeed wearing down\u2026which is a thankful reminder that this is not my place of rest\u2026the hereafter is. <\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: right\"><span style=\"font-family: Times New Roman;font-size: small\">Grandma Jeddah<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: Times New Roman;font-size: small\"><em>Grandma Jeddah is the author of \u201c\u00a0Discipline without Disrespecting: Discover the Hidden Secrets of How to Effectively Discipline your Muslim Child\u2014And Keep your Peace of Mind While at It.\u201d She also blogs at <a href=\"http:\/\/www.grandmajeddah.com\/\" class=\" decorated-link\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow\">grandmajeddah.blogspot.com<\/a><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I\u2019m at the library fingering through rows of novels to relax with over the weekend.\u00a0 The only problem is I left my reading glasses at home.\u00a0 I squint; I back my head away from the book spines to focus. 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