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\u00a0 $\"\"$ As I walked into the room filled with kids, \u201cBOOM\u201d went the RPG as the kid blew up his opponent\u2019s head in \u201cCall of Duty 2\u2033 and screamed, \u201cHell yeah, that\u2019s a streak of ten!\u201d I was at someone\u2019s house for dinner with my parents. It was just me- neither my brother or sister accompanied us this evening. We were one of the first guests to arrive and our host told me to go upstairs to the kids\u2019 room where all the kids were hanging out. She didn\u2019t introduce me to her son or show me where the room was, even though this was my first time at her place. In this room, I saw two kids on a tv playing \u201cCall of Duty\u201d, one on a PC playing an XBox game with a PS3 controller and three kids on their iPods. As I walked in I said \u201cSalams\u201d and didn\u2019t get more than a murmur back. More and more kids kept coming, and they all seemed to know each other and they were all really good at video games. I tried talking to one kid who was watching and not really playing a game, and all his responses were \u201cyeah\u201d, \u201cunh hunh\u201d and \u201cyep\u201d, and when I realized he wasn\u2019t really listening to me, I stopped talking but he still kept saying those words for a while before he turned around, looked at me and realized I had stopped talking a while back. Interestingly he didn\u2019t even feel bad about it. I think he was kind of relieved I had shut up! I felt weirded out at the fact that I was a new guest and no one gave me a second look. Finally I couldn\u2019t take it any more and I said \u201cGive me the remote and let me play.\u201d They looked at me like, \u201cNow you are talking\u201d but since I was so bad at the game, another kid took the controller from me and said \u201clet me get you some kills!\u201d Later on he said \u201cwanna know why I took the controller from you? Because you freakin suck!\u201d<\/p>\n

Our host came up once the entire evening and asked who had prayed Maghreb, and every single kid, regardless of whether or not they actually prayed, raised their hand. She said \u201cgood job\u201d and left! Was I dreaming? Such big hypocrites I thought. That was the most adult contact we had all evening. In our house my parents keep telling us how to put the guest before us, and here I was, I didn\u2019t even know who my host is! I figured out my host by seeing his picture on the refrigerator when we went downstairs to get dinner.<\/p>\n

Everyone thinks homeschoolers are super smart, shy, and unsocial. But now days \u201csocial\u201d is totally different. Social means popularity, partying and playing video games. I thought social meant talking, interacting, and actually having full attention with each other. People now have head sets to yell at each other in MW3 (Modern Warfare 3), Call of Duty, and other shooter games. There are modes so you can play kids online and there\u2019s so much cursing that every other word is the \u2018F\u2019 word. How is this social? How is being plugged in and yelling at someone you don\u2019t know, can\u2019t see and want to kill, being \u201csocial\u201d? How is having a party when your friends or possible friends come over, where you don\u2019t talk with them or enjoy their company being \u201csocial\u201d? I, the homeschooled child, was the one trying to be social and yet they call us unsocial!<\/p>\n

by: Ridwan Rasheed, 11<\/p>\n

Greetings parents. I had my son write this piece to help him articulate his feelings and thoughts about a recent encounter with friends. The point was not to complain or to criticize a generous host, but rather to help us think about how we are raising our kids. It\u2019s not uncommon to see kids disengaged from adult conversations and gatherings; yet it is even more uncommon to see adults and children participate in discussions or social events together. If we separate the socialization of our children from us, how do we then teach them to become generous hosts themselves? How do we set an example for our children to be inclusive and respectful if they don\u2019t see us adults do this? If their world is one of anger, rage, destruction and violence, albeit through a screen, how can they connect with reality of generosity, compassion, hospitality and magnanimity?<\/p>\n

During khtubas our children hear about the evils of video games and computer games and the newest technological devices plugging them in, but I\u2019ve seen young men and women plugged in to these devices during the very same khtubas! Video games today make their player virtually commit more sins in fifteen minutes than ever possible in real life. Critics and experts (like Dr. Leonard Sax in his book, Boys Adrift) have written about how video games are abrasive, sexist, racist, demonic and sinful- even to the own comfort of the game writers. We as a faith community cannot allow this destructive media into our children\u2019s lives. One parent told me that the Wii game console they recently purchased is for the physical education of her son. This way he can practice his tennis, even while sitting in the living room! I am truly afraid we are raising a generation of youth who are disconnected with reality by being connected into an outlet. I understand technology is an excellent babysitter, I also see how it\u2019s part of our daily lives, but it cannot replace relationships and that is what we need to teach our children to get plugged into first. We cannot afford to lose our children, our biggest amanah, for a few hours of \u201cme\u201d time or the false premise that an electronic machine will teach better than hard work and practice. We have to be inclusive in our conversations with our younger generation and teach, by example, generosity, compassion, integrity and all the virtues we want our next generation to possess. If what we sow is what we will reap, let us sow the best in character, morals, attitudes and ideas,so that we may reap the benefits- collectively!<\/p>\n

Shaheen Rasheed<\/p>\n

Shaheen Rasheed is an educator and education consultant living in the San Francisco Bay Area with her husband four home educated children. She teaches, consults and blogs actively about education and raising children and has been published internationally as well. Visit her at \u00a0www.soulfulstudies.com<\/a> \u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n

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