{"id":392,"date":"2015-01-22T06:00:06","date_gmt":"2015-01-22T12:00:06","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.patheos.com\/community\/inspiration\/?p=392"},"modified":"2015-03-13T20:29:38","modified_gmt":"2015-03-14T02:29:38","slug":"getting-beyond-the-need-to-blame","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/inspiration\/2015\/01\/getting-beyond-the-need-to-blame\/","title":{"rendered":"Getting beyond the need to blame"},"content":{"rendered":"<!DOCTYPE html PUBLIC \"-\/\/W3C\/\/DTD HTML 4.0 Transitional\/\/EN\" \"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/TR\/REC-html40\/loose.dtd\">\n<html><head><meta http-equiv=\"content-type\" content=\"text\/html; charset=utf-8\"><meta http-equiv=\"content-type\" content=\"text\/html; charset=utf-8\"><\/head><body><p>Do you want to transform a problem into an opportunity? One crucial part of that is getting beyond the need to focus on who is to blame. Sure, you need to know what caused the problem and, yes, there are certainly people who are responsible. It is important to understand what led to the situation so that you can avoid similar problems in the future.<\/p>\n<p>Dwelling on blame, however, is nothing but a waste of time and energy. Hold people responsible, but don\u2019t hold a grudge. There is nothing to be gained by it. The energy put into blaming and resentment can always be put to better use. Focus on turning the situation into a positive, rather than perpetuating the negative.<\/p>\n<p>Experience the freedom that forgiveness can bring. There is certainly no need to allow others to take advantage of you. Forgiving doesn\u2019t mean that what they did was right or that you are encouraging them to do it again. It just means that you\u2019re ready to put your focus on to something positive and productive, rather than something negative and destructive. Get past the blame and get on with turning the problem into an opportunity. When you succeed at bringing about a positive outcome, you may even find yourself surprisingly grateful to the person whom you initially wished to blame.<\/p>\n<p>Turning problems into opportunities does not mean that the problem is something you find acceptable or desirable. It just means that you are committed to make the very best of every situation, including the positive and the negative situations.<\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Do you want to transform a problem into an opportunity? One crucial part of that is getting beyond the need to focus on who is to blame. Sure, you need to know what caused the problem and, yes, there are certainly people who are responsible. 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