{"id":5119,"date":"2017-09-28T15:34:23","date_gmt":"2017-09-28T22:34:23","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/admin.patheos.com\/blogs\/irreverin\/?p=5119"},"modified":"2017-10-02T11:48:41","modified_gmt":"2017-10-02T18:48:41","slug":"wide-awake-true-confessions-avoiding-bedtime","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/irreverin\/2017\/09\/wide-awake-true-confessions-avoiding-bedtime\/","title":{"rendered":"Wide Awake: True Confessions of a Bedtime Hater"},"content":{"rendered":"<!DOCTYPE html PUBLIC \"-\/\/W3C\/\/DTD HTML 4.0 Transitional\/\/EN\" \"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/TR\/REC-html40\/loose.dtd\">\n<html><head><meta http-equiv=\"content-type\" content=\"text\/html; charset=utf-8\"><meta http-equiv=\"content-type\" content=\"text\/html; charset=utf-8\"><\/head><body><p>\u201cI rarely get tired.\u201d \u201cI\u2019m fine on 5 hours of sleep.\u201d \u201cI am fueled by caffeine and the Holy Spirit!\u201d Or my favorite: \u201c<em>Life is too short to sleep.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<p>This has been my mantra for years. Life\u2019s too short to sleep. I\u2019ll sleep when I\u2019m dead. I\u2019m not tired. Really.<\/p>\n<p>Except, just lately, I\u2019ve acknowledged that \u201cI don\u2019t get tired <em>often<\/em>, but when I do, I hit it pretty hard.\u201d And then I had to kind of admit that my qualifying statement\u2013\u201cbut when I do\u201d\u2013was becoming more the rule than the exception. I started to hear my own insistence of\u00a0<em>i\u2019m not tired i\u2019m not tired i\u2019m not tired\u00a0<\/em>as the manic testimony of a toddler who is just this side of an epic pre-naptime meltdown.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m tired. There. I admit it. Maybe my body has figured out it\u2019s about to be 40 and it is rebelling against me, but I\u2019m ready to own up. I\u2019m tired. All over, bone deep tired.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-5120\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-media.patheos.com\/blogs\/sites\/333\/2017\/09\/pexels-photo-271897.jpeg\" alt=\"pexels-photo-271897\" width=\"640\" height=\"424\"><\/p>\n<p>Trouble is,\u00a0I\u2019m not <em>sleepy<\/em>. And there is a difference. Because people who are sleepy GO TO SLEEP. They just lay right down and fall right into it, no pills or fancy rituals or anything. I will never understand this. I am not a good sleeper. When I\u2019m tired, sleep is the last thing I want to do. I wouldn\u2019t call myself an insomniac. I get to sleep eventually. But it\u2019s not easy, and it\u2019s not something I look forward to. When I\u2019m tired, what I want is downtime. Reading; chatting with friends online, or texting my brother and vicariously enjoying his traveling musician life; or maybe binge-watching Netflix and drinking wine from a box, whatever.<\/p>\n<p>Which is why,\u00a0when I finally recognized and acknowledged my fatigue, I started offering myself radical self-care in every other way imaginable. Sleep seemed like this radical last-ditch option, the newfangled experimental procedure that you employ when the grim-faced doctor comes and tells you there\u2019s no other way. \u201cI\u2019m sorry ma\u2019am, I know it\u2019s not the news you hoped for\u2026 But we\u2019ve tried everything else, and there\u2019s nothing left to do except just lay down and close your eyes for a few hours. There\u2019s never an easy way to break that to a patient.\u201d Seriously, I have done everything else. Exercise? Almost every day. Green vegetables? I might turn into a kale and spinach smoothie. Massage? All over it. Therapist? <em>On speed dial.<\/em> Aromatherapy? Bring on that lavender oil. Play along some soothing new age-y music while we\u2019re at it, and I\u2019m so zen you just wouldn\u2019t believe.<\/p>\n<p>But going to bed early? Miss me with that.<\/p>\n<p>Why am I sharing this public confessional? Because I read <a href=\"https:\/\/www.theguardian.com\/lifeandstyle\/2017\/sep\/24\/why-lack-of-sleep-health-worst-enemy-matthew-walker-why-we-sleep\" class=\" decorated-link\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow\">this article yesterday\u2013The Shorter Your Sleep, the Shorter Your Life.<\/a>\u00a0And it has totally scared me straight. Overnight, I\u2019ve gone from \u201clife is too short to sleep\u201d to \u201cIf I don\u2019t sleep, my life will be too short.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>How can one article completely change my sleep philosophy? Well for one thing, it contains all sorts of alarming statistics\u2013based on actual science\u2013 about all the ways that sleep deprivation totally wrecks your body, your cognitive state, and your mental health too. Awesome.<\/p>\n<p>It\u00a0also offers some speculation on why such a high number of Americans are trying to get by on less than 7 hours of sleep at night. The short answer: electric lights, digital devices, alcohol and caffeine. Our usage of all these things has ramped up in the past few decades and made us a nation of walking zombies. It is affecting not just our health, but our relationships, and the very fabric of our society. In fact, the more I think about it, a national epidemic of sleep deprivation is probably the true heart of our healthcare crisis.<\/p>\n<p>But I think the most powerful effect of this article was its timing in my own life. It offered some very direct answers to the lingering internal question I\u2019ve been holding lately, which is:\u00a0<em>why are none of these things I\u2019m doing for\u00a0my body making me feel better?\u00a0<\/em>Well, because I\u2019m withholding the one thing that my body is trying to tell me it wants.<\/p>\n<p>With that in mind, I had to recognize the convicting truth of this statement: \u201cIn the developed world,\u00a0sleep is strongly associated with weakness, even shame. We have stigmatised sleep with the label of laziness. We want to seem busy, and one way we express that is by proclaiming how little sleep we\u2019re getting. It\u2019s a badge of honor.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Well, hell. That sounds a little too close to home, doesn\u2019t it?<\/p>\n<p>It also sounds, ironically,\u00a0like the kind of thinking that I preach against ALL THE DANG TIME. I am constantly telling my people\u00a0that we are embodied beings,\u00a0<em>so much more\u00a0<\/em>than anything we can accomplish or produce. And yet, here I am, spinning my wheels long into the night and wondering why I feel so dang tired all the time. This article was a blessed\u00a0wake-up call for me. Or rather, a<em> go-the-f***-to-sleep<\/em> call. It is a glaring testament to some of the ways that I do not quite practice what I preach; a reminder that, while I know better,\u00a0I do not always embody and internalize what I know to be true about the nature of God, and the nature of embodiment.<\/p>\n<p>There you have it. My public confession is my accountability. I\u2019m ready to call this what it is\u2013a spiritual sickness\u2013and offer myself the only real antidote available, which is rest. I\u2019m going to get\u00a0off of this hamster wheel\u00a0of toxic, caffeinated\u00a0productivity, and maybe let\u00a0my body catch up to the rest of me. It is just my wild hunch that many of you might be on the same vicious treadmill. Let\u2019s hop off together, and aim to stick around awhile longer for the people we love.<\/p>\n<p>I make this shift grudgingly. I am a night owl, and I hate giving up that window of down time to a state of non-awesomeness. I find sleep boring and un-fun (yes, Enneagram people, I am a 7. Full stop, no wing ambiguities). As much as I like to think I\u2019m avoiding sleep to more fully enjoy my waking moments, I know deep down I am just programmed to think I should be\u00a0<em>doing\u00a0<\/em>something, every second. Having had a mirror held up to that particular dysfunction, I can\u2019t un-see it. So, I\u2019ll\u00a0resign myself to the pillow and let it have me for awhile.<\/p>\n<p>Now that I think of it\u2026 one night a couple weeks ago, in some rare fluke of whatever, I slept for NINE hours.\u00a0\u00a0I could not help but notice that I felt amazing the next day. I accomplished more before noon than I normally would in a day. And I was like, \u201cwow, crazy,\u201d scarcely acknowledging that maybe it was because I was functioning like an actual human-being and not an espresso fueled robot.<\/p>\n<p>My goal is to have more nights like that, and more good days to follow. I\u2019ll let you know how it goes. But it might be awhile. I have a feeling that once I lay down, I may not get up again for awhile.<\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>We&#8217;ve become a nation of walking zombies. 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