{"id":8723,"date":"2016-09-06T18:30:28","date_gmt":"2016-09-06T10:30:28","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/admin.patheos.com\/blogs\/jacksonwu\/?p=8723"},"modified":"2016-08-28T20:43:55","modified_gmt":"2016-08-28T12:43:55","slug":"if-you-give-praise-you-and-they-will-lose-face","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/jacksonwu\/2016\/09\/06\/if-you-give-praise-you-and-they-will-lose-face\/","title":{"rendered":"If you give praise, you and they will lose face."},"content":{"rendered":"<!DOCTYPE html PUBLIC \"-\/\/W3C\/\/DTD HTML 4.0 Transitional\/\/EN\" \"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/TR\/REC-html40\/loose.dtd\">\n<html><head><meta http-equiv=\"content-type\" content=\"text\/html; charset=utf-8\"><meta http-equiv=\"content-type\" content=\"text\/html; charset=utf-8\"><\/head><body><div class=\"zemanta-getty-img\">\n<div class=\"getty embed image\" style=\"background-color: #fff; display: inline-block; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue',Helvetica,Arial,sans-serif; color: #a7a7a7; font-size: 11px; width: 100%; max-width: 509px;\">\n<div style=\"padding: 0; margin: 0; text-align: left;\"><a style=\"color: #a7a7a7; text-decoration: none; font-weight: normal !important; border: none; display: inline-block;\" href=\"http:\/\/www.gettyimages.com\/detail\/574744413\" target=\"_blank\" class=\" decorated-link\" rel=\"nofollow\">Embed from Getty Images<\/a><\/div>\n<div style=\"overflow: hidden; position: relative; height: 0; padding: 66.601179% 0 0 0; width: 100%;\"><iframe loading=\"lazy\" style=\"display: inline-block; position: absolute; top: 0px; left: 0px; width: 568px; height: 378px; margin: 0px;\" src=\"\/\/embed.gettyimages.com\/embed\/574744413?et=il9vKWTyRols28mRn30UTg&amp;sig=_2bW7Jo8qsJJhwFrRxEzNSGks5xOW_3lQ7_1UO_QKfQ=\" width=\"509\" height=\"339\" frameborder=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\"><\/iframe><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p>Working in strong honor-shame cultures should make us rethink assumptions about leading others. For example, here are a few quotes from <a href=\"http:\/\/www.bbc.com\/capital\/story\/20160822-why-you-dont-give-praise-in-japan\" target=\"_blank\" class=\" decorated-link\" rel=\"nofollow\">this BBC article<\/a>:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>\u201cIf you don\u2019t hear from your Japanese manager, you\u2019re doing well.\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><p>\u201cIf you go around and keep telling your employees \u2018terrific job,\u2019 they\u2019re going to wonder what\u2019s wrong. Because, they\u2019ll think, what\u2019s terrific about doing your job? That\u2019s what you\u2019re supposed to do.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>For foreign managers, the temptation may be to reply with accolades, congratulating them on finishing 32% of the project. But don\u2019t, Schweitzer cautions. \u201cIf you reply and tell them good job, <strong>you will lose face and they will lose face<\/strong>. Just say thank you or don\u2019t reply at all.\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>After <a href=\"http:\/\/www.bbc.com\/capital\/story\/20160822-why-you-dont-give-praise-in-japan\" target=\"_blank\" class=\" decorated-link\" rel=\"nofollow\">reading the article<\/a>, I\u2019d be curious if anyone else has similar experiences. Drop a comment if so.<\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Embed from Getty Images Working in strong honor-shame cultures should make us rethink assumptions about leading others. For example, here are a few quotes from this BBC article: \u201cIf you don\u2019t hear from your Japanese manager, you\u2019re doing well.\u201d \u201cIf you go around and keep telling your employees \u2018terrific job,\u2019 they\u2019re going to wonder what\u2019s [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2368,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[4,8],"tags":[2159,158],"class_list":["post-8723","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-chinese-church","category-honor-shame-face","tag-japanese-culture","tag-leadership"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v21.1 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>If you give praise, you and they will lose face.<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"Embed from Getty Images Working in strong honor-shame cultures should make us rethink assumptions about leading others. 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