yeah, you know how it goes, when the people who say it\u2019s a crisis act like it\u2019s a crisis. \u00a0It\u2019s a cute throw-away line, but the bottom line ought to be that people who worry about boys being victimized by unjust sexual assault allegations ought to be telling boys, not just, \u201cdon\u2019t rape,\u201d but \u201cdon\u2019t hook up with girls.\u201d<\/p>\n
Yes, it\u2019s old-fashioned, but the only way for a college kid to protect himself from the risk of being expelled and putting his future in jeopardy is go back to some pretty old-fashioned sexual behavior: \u00a0Don\u2019t have sex with a girl that you just met. \u00a0Don\u2019t even go to third base with her. \u00a0Even second base is somewhat iffy. \u00a0Don\u2019t have sex with a \u201cfriend with benefits.\u201d \u00a0Don\u2019t have sex with that cute chick from your history class that turned out to be at your friend\u2019s party, no matter how willing she seems to be. \u00a0The rules don\u2019t change if you\u2019ve been drinking, or if she\u2019s been drinking, or if both or neither of you have. \u00a0If you walk her back to her dorm room, be a gentleman. \u00a0You can probably make out with her, and then you can call her up and ask her out on a date, or two or there or more, and take her out to dinner and a movie. \u00a0 <\/p>\n
Is that a double-standard? \u00a0Perhaps so, in the same way as, if he gets her pregnant, it\u2019s she and not he that gets to choose whether she has the baby, and he\u2019s on the hook for 18 years of child support.<\/p>\n
And, even with respect to the sexual-assault issue, and whether he\u2019s accorded due process, yes, it\u2019s true that it\u2019s unjust and a violation of due-process rights to convict the male, and not the female, half of the pair for seemingly-consensual sex. \u00a0But isn\u2019t is as appropriate to give men common-sense advice on how to protect themselves, as it is to tell women not to get wasted at frat parties? <\/p>\n