{"id":2433,"date":"2015-07-21T07:52:24","date_gmt":"2015-07-21T13:52:24","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/admin.patheos.com\/blogs\/janetheactuary\/?p=2433"},"modified":"2015-07-20T22:52:44","modified_gmt":"2015-07-21T04:52:44","slug":"marriage-and-debt-score-one-for-atlantic-readers","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/janetheactuary\/2015\/07\/marriage-and-debt-score-one-for-atlantic-readers.html","title":{"rendered":"Marriage and debt: score one for Atlantic readers"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<\/head>

The article itself<\/a> is fairly mundane, about the impact that a person\u2019s debt, student loans in particular, has on their prospects for marriage, or for a successful marriage. \u00a0The author pretty much presumed that each spouse continues to manage their own finances, and that the disputes that arise are from one spouse having more discretionary income than the other.<\/p>\n

But the comments \u2014 as I\u2019m reading them, anyway, now \u2014 are quite interesting and thoughtful.<\/p>\n

Taran Wanderer says,<\/p>\n

If you want to merge two lives together, with all the rewards and challenges that entails (I highly recommend this route, btw), then you need to do a complete and total merger. Two people\u2019s debts become one couple\u2019s debts. Two people\u2019s income become one couple\u2019s income.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

and Cartier2028,<\/p>\n

If you are going to get married, you are naturally merging finances, both income and debt included. If you are not comfortable working together as a team through both good and bad, you have no business getting married.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Ardea offers a different perspective:<\/p>\n

That\u2019s the problem: Not all individuals are that good at managing money. I keep my accounts separate from my husband because he has a habit of bleeding it all away and not saving. So it is much better for the entire family for him to have his own account and very specific responsibilities he has to pay for, and for me to take care of all the rest. \u00a0[She also provides backstory \u2014 her husband isn\u2019t much of a partner, in her telling, but she says, in reply to another comment, that she\u2019s trying to make the best of it.]<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

So go read this, and then please tell me what you think.<\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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