{"id":340,"date":"2014-08-03T21:17:00","date_gmt":"2014-08-03T21:17:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/admin.patheos.com\/blogs\/janetheactuary\/2014\/08\/back-from-vacation-part-1-update-on-dad.html"},"modified":"2014-08-03T21:17:00","modified_gmt":"2014-08-03T21:17:00","slug":"back-from-vacation-part-1-update-on-dad","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/janetheactuary\/2014\/08\/back-from-vacation-part-1-update-on-dad.html","title":{"rendered":"Back from “Vacation,” part 1: update on Dad"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<\/head>

\u201cVacation\u201d is in quotation marks intentionally, because the largest part of our somewhat-shortened week was spent at my parents\u2019 house, and this part of the week was, well, less than relaxing, with the bulk of the time spent visiting with Dad in the rehab facility and helping Mom out at home.<\/p>\n

For new readers, Dad has been hospitalized, then in a rehab facility, then hospitalized again, and now in another rehab facility, recovering from a fall and subsequent head injury, and now working on focus\/memory and overall strength. \u00a0Here\u2019s\u00a0a bit of background from June<\/a>.<\/p>\n

We hadn\u2019t been able to visit since Easter, though I\u2019d been talking to my parents, and I knew that my mom was quite concerned that my dad wasn\u2019t eating much and was losing a lot of weight (or, in my dad\u2019s point of view, he just wasn\u2019t all that hungry, needed to lose weight anyway, and mom is just nagging him), but it was still startling to see just how much he\u2019d changed: thinner, especially in the face, a very short haircut due to the recent surgery, and, well, in a wheelchair \u2014 though by the end of the three days that we were there, I\u2019d kind of gotten used to his new appearance (which in a way, looked more like the Dad from old pictures when he and Mom were young, so familiar in a way), and was less bothered by the wheelchair because, in a way, it gave him more mobility than his last round of rehab, two years ago, when he spent much of the day, when not at therapy, sitting in a chair anyway. \u00a0And he\u2019s not unable to walk \u2014 at our last visit, he surprised us by rolling over to his walker and walking into the bathroom.<\/p>\n

But Dad has changed mentally, too. \u00a0He\u2019s always been the one handling the investments, while Mom handles the day-to-day bill paying. \u00a0With my parents\u2019 permission, my husband looked at some parts of their finances to make sure everything was in order \u2014 and there are some issues, nothing severe enough to think they can\u2019t manage their money, but they probably ought to have some oversight. \u00a0It\u2019s also clear that his mental sharpness and his memory and overall understanding, while much improved from the first days after his accident, are still a far ways from normal. <\/p>\n

The ironic thing is that, for years and years, he\u2019s said that he\u2019d leave the house only when he\u2019s carried out (meaning, directly to the funeral home), but now, though he hasn\u2019t come out and said so directly, he has implied that he\u2019d be perfectly willing to move to a condo or senior residence of some kind, only to have it turn out that now Mom is the roadblock, unwilling to consider other options even if a move would improve her own quality of life as well as Dad\u2019s \u2014 and she has difficulty keeping the house up, and we spent a fair amount of time helping to sort things out (and, just before our arrival, my sister-in-law and her teenage daughter were visiting and did a lot of cleaning), and the boys helped with lots of yardwork. \u00a0Happily the youngest is now old enough that he doesn\u2019t need a lot of direct supervision (though he played on the iPad and watched a lot more TV than he otherwise would have been allowed), and we took them mini-golfing one day and to a movie the next (Guardians of the Galaxy, which we decided would be OK for the frequently-fearful 7-year-old after reading several reviews that it was lighter and less intense than other recent superhero movies, despite its PG-13 rating).<\/p>\n

So that was my week.<\/p>\n

How was yours?<\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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