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So this is something of a vent after a frustrating day at work. <\/p>\n

I work in our international group, and coordinate valuations from other countries for our clients. \u00a0Today was a deadline, and we\u2019d been chasing our actuaries in the Netherlands, who had said two weeks ago, that they\u2019d have results by last week. \u00a0Now, yesterday, I finally got the reply from them that, not only did they not have the results, but they hadn\u2019t even finished cleaning the input data, because, they said, \u201cthey have other clients, too.\u201d <\/p>\n

Now maybe I just have the misfortune to be dealing with a couple screw-ups (we had similar issues last year), or maybe the entire office is short-staffed, but these women (because both my contacts are women) seem to leave early and aren\u2019t accessible after-hours, and it just leads me to wonder if what I\u2019m experiencing is the consequence of what I\u2019ve read in the past, that women in the Netherlands may not be marrying as often, and aren\u2019t having as many kids, but they\u2019re still quite happy to work part-time, with the financial support of their partners\/boyfriends, if they\u2019re unmarried. \u00a0(See here<\/a> and here<\/a> for some articles from 2010.) Are my Dutch actuarial colleagues just not committed to the job, and if they don\u2019t get it done by the end of the day, they just finish it up the next day, regardless of deadline?<\/p>\n

(And this is not a European-wide issue \u2014 I have female colleagues in Scotland, Spain, Germany, and so on.)<\/p>\n

But that\u2019s the reality \u2014 all family-friendly policies aside, the work has to get done. \u00a0It\u2019s fine to simply take on fewer projects to begin with, assign more people to a team, and so on, but can you really tell a client, \u201cI\u2019ll send over the results next week instead\u201d?<\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"