{"id":4704,"date":"2016-03-03T15:43:12","date_gmt":"2016-03-03T20:43:12","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/admin.patheos.com\/blogs\/jenniferfitz\/?p=4704"},"modified":"2016-03-03T19:38:21","modified_gmt":"2016-03-04T00:38:21","slug":"veil-induced-fascination-with-your-neighbors-interior-life","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/jenniferfitz\/2016\/03\/veil-induced-fascination-with-your-neighbors-interior-life\/","title":{"rendered":"Veil-Induced Fascination With Your Neighbor&#8217;s Interior Life"},"content":{"rendered":"<!DOCTYPE html PUBLIC \"-\/\/W3C\/\/DTD HTML 4.0 Transitional\/\/EN\" \"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/TR\/REC-html40\/loose.dtd\">\n<html><head><meta http-equiv=\"content-type\" content=\"text\/html; charset=utf-8\"><meta http-equiv=\"content-type\" content=\"text\/html; charset=utf-8\"><\/head><body><p>Let me tell you about something lovely that happened to me in real life: I was at supper at church, and I met this lady who could out-trad all the trads. \u00a0I was glad to finally meet her, because I love her wardrobe and never get a chance to say so. \u00a0Anyway, she comes up and says hello and chats for a bit, and voices a few opinions on matters which Catholics are free to disagree about it, and which not everyone at the table shared.<\/p>\n<p>Can you\u00a0guess what happened?<\/p>\n<p>Try to guess.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s crazy.<\/p>\n<p>.<\/p>\n<p>.<\/p>\n<p>.<\/p>\n<p>Nothing.<\/p>\n<p>Nothing happened, that\u2019s what. \u00a0Because Catholics are free to disagree about these matters. \u00a0Normal, sane, friendly Catholics can have supper together and disagree about things and still get along just fine.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\">***<\/p>\n<p>This was a particularly poignant moment because just earlier in the day I\u2019d watched Catholics on social media start foaming at the mouth over the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/jenniferfitz\/2016\/01\/chapel-veils-and-the-end-of-choice\/\" target=\"_blank\" class=\" decorated-link\">v-word<\/a>. \u00a0Before we talk about what this has to do with your moral life, let\u2019s review:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Catholic women are not required to cover their heads during Mass at this time. \u00a0This is an indisputable point, links below.<\/li>\n<li>Catholics are free to hold any opinion on whether women\u00a0<em>should<\/em> be so required, ie whether canon law ought to be changed or not, for any reason at all.<\/li>\n<li>Catholics are free to hold any opinion on whether the current canon law is right or wrong for\u00a0some enduring theological reason.<\/li>\n<li>Catholics are free to hold any opinion on whether the custom of women covering their heads ought to be more-widely or less-widely practiced.<\/li>\n<li>Catholics are free to hold any opinion on what theological significance the practice might or might not have.<\/li>\n<li>Catholic women are free to cover their heads in church or not, for any reason or no reason at all. \u00a0Men aren\u2019t so lucky, sorry guys.<\/li>\n<li>Catholics are free to like or not like their neighbor\u2019s choice of clothing, but they should generally keep their mouths shut in the latter case.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Therefore it is perfectly acceptable to posit an argument or theory for or against this particular practice. \u00a0It is acceptable to promote the practice if you favor it, and try to persuade others to your point of view; it is likewise acceptable to make arguments against the practice.<\/p>\n<p>It is not, however, acceptable for Christians to cast aspersions on the motives of their neighbors.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\">***<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">Our interior motives for an action are in fact important to the state of our soul. \u00a0If we are doing something out of pride or rebellion or superiority or indifference, we need to reassess our motives. \u00a0This does not necessarily mean the corresponding outward action needs to be shelved. \u00a0I might give money to the food bank out of some sinful desire, but the feeding of the hungry isn\u2019t where I\u2019ve erred. \u00a0Let me clean up my interior life but continue to carry on the work of mercy.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">The interior life of our neighbor, however, is none of our business.* \u00a0If our friend is engaged in some perfectly acceptable behavior, it is none of our concern what her reasons might be.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\">***<\/p>\n<p>To cast aspersions on other people\u2019s motives\u00a0is a sin against charity. \u00a0When our Lord says \u201c<a href=\"https:\/\/www.biblegateway.com\/passage\/?search=Matthew%207&amp;version=RSVCE\" target=\"_blank\" class=\" decorated-link\" rel=\"nofollow\">Judge not lest you be judged<\/a>,\u201d this is in fact what He is referring to. \u00a0Admonishing the sinner is indeed a work of mercy, but it assumes we know what the sin actually is. \u00a0When we attribute ill-intentions to our neighbor\u2019s innocent actions, we are making up sins. \u00a0We are fabricating lies about our neighbor.<\/p>\n<p>Cut it out.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"\" src=\"https:\/\/upload.wikimedia.org\/wikipedia\/commons\/thumb\/5\/52\/Friedrich_von_Amerling_M%C3%A4dchen_im_Profil_mit_schwarzer_Mantille.jpg\/498px-Friedrich_von_Amerling_M%C3%A4dchen_im_Profil_mit_schwarzer_Mantille.jpg\" alt=\"File:Friedrich von Amerling M\u00e4dchen im Profil mit schwarzer Mantille.jpg\" width=\"335\" height=\"403\"><\/p>\n<p>Related Links:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Jimmy Akin:\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/jimmyakin.com\/2012\/07\/do-women-need-to-wear-head-coverings-at-mass.html\" target=\"_blank\" class=\" decorated-link\" rel=\"nofollow\">Do Women Need to Wear Headcoverings at Mass?<\/a>, <a href=\"http:\/\/jimmyakin.com\/2004\/07\/head_coverings_.html\" target=\"_blank\" class=\" decorated-link\" rel=\"nofollow\">Headcoverings at Mass<\/a>, and <a href=\"http:\/\/jimmyakin.com\/2011\/04\/womens-head-coverings-wont-say-i-told-you-so-but.html\" target=\"_blank\" class=\" decorated-link\" rel=\"nofollow\">Women\u2019s Headcoverings at Mass, I Won\u2019t Say I Told You So But . . .<\/a><\/li>\n<li>Dr. Ed Peters:\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/www.canonlaw.info\/2006\/09\/vatican-ii-canon-1262-and-chapel-veils.html\" target=\"_blank\" class=\" decorated-link\" rel=\"nofollow\">Vatican II, Canon 1262, and chapel veils<\/a><\/li>\n<li>Msgr. Pope: <a href=\"http:\/\/blog.adw.org\/2014\/07\/sinful-curiosity-is-at-the-root-of-many-sins\/\" target=\"_blank\" class=\" decorated-link\" rel=\"nofollow\">Sinful Curiosity is at the Root of Many Sins<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>*If she wants to make it your business, she\u2019ll bring it to your attention. \u00a0At which point it ceases to be an interior state, doesn\u2019t it?<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><em>Artwork: Friedrich von Amerling [Public domain], <a href=\"https:\/\/commons.wikimedia.org\/wiki\/File%3AFriedrich_von_Amerling_M%C3%A4dchen_im_Profil_mit_schwarzer_Mantille.jpg\" class=\" decorated-link\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow\">via Wikimedia Commons<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Let me tell you about something lovely that happened to me in real life: I was at supper at church, and I met this lady who could out-trad all the trads. \u00a0I was glad to finally meet her, because I love her wardrobe and never get a chance to say so. \u00a0Anyway, she comes up [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1209,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[44],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-4704","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-church-craziness"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v21.1 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>Veil-Induced Fascination With Your Neighbor&#039;s Interior Life<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"Let me tell you about something lovely that happened to me in real life: I was at supper at church, and I met this lady who could out-trad all the trads.\" \/>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/jenniferfitz\/2016\/03\/veil-induced-fascination-with-your-neighbors-interior-life\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"Veil-Induced Fascination With Your Neighbor&#039;s Interior Life\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"Let me tell you about something lovely that happened to me in real life: I was at supper at church, and I met this lady who could out-trad all the trads.\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:url\" content=\"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/jenniferfitz\/2016\/03\/veil-induced-fascination-with-your-neighbors-interior-life\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:site_name\" content=\"Sticking the Corners\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:author\" content=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/JenFitz.Writes\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:published_time\" content=\"2016-03-03T20:43:12+00:00\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:modified_time\" content=\"2016-03-04T00:38:21+00:00\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:image\" content=\"https:\/\/upload.wikimedia.org\/wikipedia\/commons\/thumb\/5\/52\/Friedrich_von_Amerling_M%C3%A4dchen_im_Profil_mit_schwarzer_Mantille.jpg\/498px-Friedrich_von_Amerling_M%C3%A4dchen_im_Profil_mit_schwarzer_Mantille.jpg\" \/>\n<meta name=\"author\" content=\"Jennifer Fitz\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:card\" content=\"summary_large_image\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:creator\" content=\"@Jennifer_Fitz\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:label1\" content=\"Written by\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:data1\" content=\"Jennifer Fitz\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:label2\" content=\"Est. reading time\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:data2\" content=\"3 minutes\" \/>\n<script type=\"application\/ld+json\" class=\"yoast-schema-graph\">{\"@context\":\"https:\/\/schema.org\",\"@graph\":[{\"@type\":\"WebPage\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/jenniferfitz\/2016\/03\/veil-induced-fascination-with-your-neighbors-interior-life\/\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/jenniferfitz\/2016\/03\/veil-induced-fascination-with-your-neighbors-interior-life\/\",\"name\":\"Veil-Induced Fascination With Your Neighbor's Interior Life\",\"isPartOf\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/jenniferfitz\/#website\"},\"datePublished\":\"2016-03-03T20:43:12+00:00\",\"dateModified\":\"2016-03-04T00:38:21+00:00\",\"author\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/jenniferfitz\/#\/schema\/person\/a1a80a6198996fd8f065088c38a255c3\"},\"description\":\"Let me tell you about something lovely that happened to me in real life: I was at supper at church, and I met this lady who could out-trad all the trads.\",\"breadcrumb\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/jenniferfitz\/2016\/03\/veil-induced-fascination-with-your-neighbors-interior-life\/#breadcrumb\"},\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\",\"potentialAction\":[{\"@type\":\"ReadAction\",\"target\":[\"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/jenniferfitz\/2016\/03\/veil-induced-fascination-with-your-neighbors-interior-life\/\"]}]},{\"@type\":\"BreadcrumbList\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/jenniferfitz\/2016\/03\/veil-induced-fascination-with-your-neighbors-interior-life\/#breadcrumb\",\"itemListElement\":[{\"@type\":\"ListItem\",\"position\":1,\"name\":\"Home\",\"item\":\"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/jenniferfitz\/\"},{\"@type\":\"ListItem\",\"position\":2,\"name\":\"Veil-Induced Fascination With Your Neighbor&#8217;s Interior Life\"}]},{\"@type\":\"WebSite\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/jenniferfitz\/#website\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/jenniferfitz\/\",\"name\":\"Sticking the Corners\",\"description\":\"Live it like you mean it.\",\"potentialAction\":[{\"@type\":\"SearchAction\",\"target\":{\"@type\":\"EntryPoint\",\"urlTemplate\":\"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/jenniferfitz\/?s={search_term_string}\"},\"query-input\":\"required name=search_term_string\"}],\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\"},{\"@type\":\"Person\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/jenniferfitz\/#\/schema\/person\/a1a80a6198996fd8f065088c38a255c3\",\"name\":\"Jennifer Fitz\",\"image\":{\"@type\":\"ImageObject\",\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/jenniferfitz\/#\/schema\/person\/image\/\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/3aa95bdcebf0f9f0962d1a672129e152?s=96&d=mm&r=g\",\"contentUrl\":\"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/3aa95bdcebf0f9f0962d1a672129e152?s=96&d=mm&r=g\",\"caption\":\"Jennifer Fitz\"},\"description\":\"Jennifer Fitz is the mother of four fantabulous children, and author of Classroom Management for Catechists. She writes online for Patheos and for the Catholic Conspiracy. When she isn't blogging, teaching, or complaining about something, she likes to play outside.\",\"sameAs\":[\"http:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/jenniferfitz\/\",\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/JenFitz.Writes\/\",\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/Jennifer_Fitz\"],\"url\":\"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/jenniferfitz\/author\/jenniferfitz\/\"}]}<\/script>\n<!-- \/ Yoast SEO plugin. -->","yoast_head_json":{"title":"Veil-Induced Fascination With Your Neighbor's Interior Life","description":"Let me tell you about something lovely that happened to me in real life: I was at supper at church, and I met this lady who could out-trad all the trads.","robots":{"index":"index","follow":"follow","max-snippet":"max-snippet:-1","max-image-preview":"max-image-preview:large","max-video-preview":"max-video-preview:-1"},"canonical":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/jenniferfitz\/2016\/03\/veil-induced-fascination-with-your-neighbors-interior-life\/","og_locale":"en_US","og_type":"article","og_title":"Veil-Induced Fascination With Your Neighbor's Interior Life","og_description":"Let me tell you about something lovely that happened to me in real life: I was at supper at church, and I met this lady who could out-trad all the trads.","og_url":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/jenniferfitz\/2016\/03\/veil-induced-fascination-with-your-neighbors-interior-life\/","og_site_name":"Sticking the Corners","article_author":"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/JenFitz.Writes\/","article_published_time":"2016-03-03T20:43:12+00:00","article_modified_time":"2016-03-04T00:38:21+00:00","og_image":[{"url":"https:\/\/upload.wikimedia.org\/wikipedia\/commons\/thumb\/5\/52\/Friedrich_von_Amerling_M%C3%A4dchen_im_Profil_mit_schwarzer_Mantille.jpg\/498px-Friedrich_von_Amerling_M%C3%A4dchen_im_Profil_mit_schwarzer_Mantille.jpg"}],"author":"Jennifer Fitz","twitter_card":"summary_large_image","twitter_creator":"@Jennifer_Fitz","twitter_misc":{"Written by":"Jennifer Fitz","Est. reading time":"3 minutes"},"schema":{"@context":"https:\/\/schema.org","@graph":[{"@type":"WebPage","@id":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/jenniferfitz\/2016\/03\/veil-induced-fascination-with-your-neighbors-interior-life\/","url":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/jenniferfitz\/2016\/03\/veil-induced-fascination-with-your-neighbors-interior-life\/","name":"Veil-Induced Fascination With Your Neighbor's Interior Life","isPartOf":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/jenniferfitz\/#website"},"datePublished":"2016-03-03T20:43:12+00:00","dateModified":"2016-03-04T00:38:21+00:00","author":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/jenniferfitz\/#\/schema\/person\/a1a80a6198996fd8f065088c38a255c3"},"description":"Let me tell you about something lovely that happened to me in real life: I was at supper at church, and I met this lady who could out-trad all the trads.","breadcrumb":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/jenniferfitz\/2016\/03\/veil-induced-fascination-with-your-neighbors-interior-life\/#breadcrumb"},"inLanguage":"en-US","potentialAction":[{"@type":"ReadAction","target":["https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/jenniferfitz\/2016\/03\/veil-induced-fascination-with-your-neighbors-interior-life\/"]}]},{"@type":"BreadcrumbList","@id":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/jenniferfitz\/2016\/03\/veil-induced-fascination-with-your-neighbors-interior-life\/#breadcrumb","itemListElement":[{"@type":"ListItem","position":1,"name":"Home","item":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/jenniferfitz\/"},{"@type":"ListItem","position":2,"name":"Veil-Induced Fascination With Your Neighbor&#8217;s Interior Life"}]},{"@type":"WebSite","@id":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/jenniferfitz\/#website","url":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/jenniferfitz\/","name":"Sticking the Corners","description":"Live it like you mean it.","potentialAction":[{"@type":"SearchAction","target":{"@type":"EntryPoint","urlTemplate":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/jenniferfitz\/?s={search_term_string}"},"query-input":"required name=search_term_string"}],"inLanguage":"en-US"},{"@type":"Person","@id":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/jenniferfitz\/#\/schema\/person\/a1a80a6198996fd8f065088c38a255c3","name":"Jennifer Fitz","image":{"@type":"ImageObject","inLanguage":"en-US","@id":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/jenniferfitz\/#\/schema\/person\/image\/","url":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/3aa95bdcebf0f9f0962d1a672129e152?s=96&d=mm&r=g","contentUrl":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/3aa95bdcebf0f9f0962d1a672129e152?s=96&d=mm&r=g","caption":"Jennifer Fitz"},"description":"Jennifer Fitz is the mother of four fantabulous children, and author of Classroom Management for Catechists. She writes online for Patheos and for the Catholic Conspiracy. When she isn't blogging, teaching, or complaining about something, she likes to play outside.","sameAs":["http:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/jenniferfitz\/","https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/JenFitz.Writes\/","https:\/\/twitter.com\/Jennifer_Fitz"],"url":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/jenniferfitz\/author\/jenniferfitz\/"}]}},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/jenniferfitz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4704","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/jenniferfitz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/jenniferfitz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/jenniferfitz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1209"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/jenniferfitz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=4704"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/jenniferfitz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4704\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/jenniferfitz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=4704"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/jenniferfitz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=4704"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/jenniferfitz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=4704"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}