Recently I received the ultimate backhanded compliment, from a former colleague I came to know in my first church ministry job. Back then I was a 25-year-old seminary graduate plotting revival everywhere I went. Now I am a 34-year-old pastor asking her for a recommendation for a hospice chaplaincy. She expressed surprise at my interest in the job. I explained that the chaplaincy would allow me to grow as a listener and to be with people in painful but potentially sacred moments. She said, \u201cYou certainly are different from what I remember.\u201d<\/p>\n
It was meant as a kindness. Yet it felt like receiving the \u201cMost Improved Player\u201d trophy, which I may or may not have won on my first-grade grade basketball team. The subtext of that trophy is: \u201cYou\u2019re still awful, and you will always ride the bench, but we don\u2019t feel as embarrassed to have you on the team as we once did.\u201d My colleague had just handed me the ecclesial version, the \u201cMost Improved Pastor\u201d trophy, on which the words are engraved: \u201cYou\u2019re not the hard-hearted, un-teachable egomaniac you used to be. You should never be a senior pastor, but we can probably trust you not to bring about the demise of Christianity in this country.\u201d<\/p>\n
If there were an awards banquet for the Most Improved Pastor trophy, I would tell the crowd what I told my former colleague that day: \u201cThank you. I\u2019ve been in a lot of therapy.\u201d And I would mean it.<\/p>\n
After only the spiritual disciplines and my marriage, I would give the greatest credit for my personal and pastoral growth to the numerous therapy sessions I have received over the last seven years. Whenever I interact with young pastors or those aspiring to pastoral ministry, my first suggestion is to find a good therapist. The recently publicized\u00a0statistics<\/a> on pastoral burnout, depression, and job turnover have convinced me that the sooner pastors make themselves comfortable on the therapist\u2019s couch, the better it will be for them and for the churches they serve\u2026.<\/p><\/blockquote>\nAnd you can click on the link at the top of this page to read the rest of this excellent advice.<\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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