{"id":27524,"date":"2012-05-24T10:30:01","date_gmt":"2012-05-24T15:30:01","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/jesuscreed\/?p=27524"},"modified":"2012-05-23T05:49:26","modified_gmt":"2012-05-23T10:49:26","slug":"alone-together","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/jesuscreed\/2012\/05\/24\/alone-together\/","title":{"rendered":"Alone Together"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<\/head>

Sherry Turkle<\/a><\/strong> has written a very good book, called Alone Together<\/em><\/a><\/strong>, and this clip from a NYTimes article gives a good feel for where her book takes us in depth:<\/p>\n

Think of it as \u201cI share, therefore I am.\u201d We use technology to define ourselves by sharing our thoughts and feelings as we\u2019re having them. We used to think, \u201cI have a feeling; I want to make a call.\u201d Now our impulse is, \u201cI want to have a feeling; I need to send a text.\u201d<\/p>\n

So, in order to feel more, and to feel more like ourselves, we connect. But in our rush to connect, we flee from solitude, our ability to be separate and gather ourselves. Lacking the capacity for solitude, we turn to other people but don\u2019t experience them as they are. It is as though we use them, need them as spare parts to support our increasingly fragile selves.<\/p>\n

We think constant connection will make us feel less lonely. The opposite is true. If we are unable to be alone, we are far more likely to be lonely. If we don\u2019t teach our children to be alone, they will know only how to be lonely.<\/p>\n

I am a partisan for conversation. To make room for it, I see some first, deliberate steps. At home, we can create sacred spaces: the kitchen, the dining room. We can make our cars \u201cdevice-free zones.\u201d We can demonstrate the value of conversation to our children. And we can do the same thing at work. There we are so busy communicating that we often don\u2019t have time to talk to one another about what really matters. Employees asked for casual Fridays; perhaps managers should introduce conversational Thursdays. Most of all, we need to remember \u2014 in between texts and e-mails and Facebook posts \u2014 to listen to one another, even to the boring bits, because it is often in unedited moments, moments in which we hesitate and stutter and go silent, that we reveal ourselves to one another.<\/p>\n

I spend the summers at a cottage on Cape Cod, and for decades I walked the same dunes that Thoreau once walked. Not too long ago, people walked with their heads up, looking at the water, the sky, the sand and at one another, talking. Now they often walk with their heads down, typing. Even when they are with friends, partners, children, everyone is on their own devices.<\/p>\n

So I say, look up, look at one another, and let\u2019s start the conversation.<\/p>\n

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Sherry Turkle has written a very good book, called Alone Together, and this clip from a NYTimes article gives a good feel for where her book takes us in depth: Think of it as \u201cI share, therefore I am.\u201d We use technology to define ourselves by sharing our thoughts and feelings as we\u2019re having them. 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