{"id":36106,"date":"2013-01-04T10:02:44","date_gmt":"2013-01-04T16:02:44","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/jesuscreed\/?p=36106"},"modified":"2013-01-04T10:52:40","modified_gmt":"2013-01-04T16:52:40","slug":"men-and-women-can-they-be-friends","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/jesuscreed\/2013\/01\/04\/men-and-women-can-they-be-friends\/","title":{"rendered":"Men and Women, Can they be Friends?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<\/head>

Adrian F. Ward<\/strong><\/a>, weighing on some recent important research<\/strong><\/a> on how men and women relate as friends, and how they perceive that relationship:<\/p>\n

What do you think? Friends or not? Any guidelines?<\/strong><\/p>\n

These results suggest that men, relative to women, have a particularly hard time being \u201cjust friends.\u201d What makes these results particularly interesting is that they were found within\u00a0particular<\/em>\u00a0friendships (remember, each participant was only asked about the specific, platonic, friend with whom they entered the lab). This is not just a bit of confirmation for stereotypes about sex-hungry males and na\u00efve females; it is direct proof that two people can experience the exact same relationship in radically different ways. Men seem to see myriad opportunities for romance in their supposedly platonic opposite-sex friendships. The women in these friendships, however, seem to have a completely different orientation\u2014one that is actually platonic\u2026.<\/p>\n

In a follow-up study, 249 adults (many of whom were married) were asked to list the positive and negative aspects of being friends with a specific member of the opposite sex. Variables related to romantic attraction (e.g., \u201cour relationship could lead to romantic feelings\u201d) were five times more likely to be listed as negative aspects of the friendship than as positive ones. However, the differences between men and women appeared here as well. Males were significantly more likely than females to list romantic attraction as a benefit of opposite-sex friendships, and this discrepancy increased as men aged\u2014males on the younger end of the spectrum were four times more likely than females to report romantic attraction as a benefit of opposite-sex friendships, whereas those on the older end of the spectrum were ten times more likely to do the same.<\/p>\n

Taken together, these studies suggest that men and women have vastly different views of what it means to be \u201cjust friends\u201d\u2014and that these differing views have the potential to lead to trouble. Although women seem to be genuine in their belief that opposite-sex friendships are platonic, men seem unable to turn off their desire for something more.<\/p>\n

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