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$\"Vows.jpg\"$ <\/span>David Blankenhorn, in a column in 1997 (and anthologized in a book my class is reading \u2014\u00a0 Wing to Wing, Oar to Oar: Readings on Courting and Marrying (The Ethics of Everyday Life)<\/a> $\"\"$ \u00a0<\/strong><\/em>), discusses the potential symbolic value of marriage vows. He speaks of two changes in marriage vows today:<\/p>\n

1. Modern vows routinely omit or downplay a pledge of permanence in marriage.
2. Modern vows are composed by the couple. <\/p>\n

What do you think of these two changes? Do you think either of them matters? Do you think they embody a theory or a theology or a view of marriage? How do they matter (if they do)? I\u2019m wondering what pastors are seeing? Marriage planners? Pre-marriage counselors?<\/b><\/p>\n

Here is what Blankenhorn thinks:<\/p>\n

\nThe traditional view handed on to a couple an existing vow and it implied a view of marriage. The more typical form today is to compose the vow, make it personal, and create their own view of marriage as a result.<\/p>\n

\u201cIn one view, the vow is prior to the couple. \u2026 In the new view, the couple is prior to the promise.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cA reality in which the marriage is larger than the couple is replaced by a reality in which the couple is larger than the marriage.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"