[As we go through this somewhat intellectual material, try to make it real for yourself by relating it to your own everyday feelings of inadequacy or guilt.]<\/p>\n
Have you ever scolded a dog and seen him or her look guilty?<\/p>\n
Obviously, animals do not have the elaborated textures of thoughts and feelings that humans do. But our emotions, even the subtlest ones, have their roots in our ancient evolutionary history. By understanding that history better, we do not reduce our feelings to animal instincts, but instead find illuminations from our past that paradoxically give us more choices in manifesting ourselves as fully human.<\/p>\n
We can find two sources of shame spectrum emotions in our evolutionary history.<\/p>\n
First, many animal species live in social groups with clear dominance hierarchies. Once those pecking orders are established, it can be lethal to challenge them. Consequently, many species have developed ways of signaling submission to the established order of alpha-males and \u2013females. Consider how dogs losing a fight will bare their throat, or chimpanzees will display gestures of deference.<\/p>\n
Birds, and especially mammals, have rudimentary forms of the brain circuitry that produces emotion in humans. Those circuits would not have developed, consuming lots of metabolic resources, if they did not produce reproductive benefits.<\/p>\n
Emotions function in the brain to motivate and guide behavior. We can\u2019t read the mind of a chicken, sure, or that of a dog or an ape, but it seems like a very efficient way to keep these animals in line if they are experiencing emotions or attitudes that are the equivalent of feeling less than the Big Dog of the pack.<\/p>\n
Second, taking this one step further, pack animals evolved cooperative behavior. Think penguins huddling together in the Antarctic winter, and cattle circling around their calves in response to wolves hunting in packs. But in most cases, their cooperation does not involve personal sacrifice for the good of others.<\/p>\n
That comes in, big time, with primates, who appeared around the middle of the Cretaceous period, roughly 80 million years ago \u2013 so they had lots of time to evolve altruistic behaviors such as food sharing. And the full flowering of altruism \u2013 giving to others with no immediate tangible reward \u2013 is really seen in humans.<\/p>\n
But how could altruism evolve when it would seem to confer reproductive disadvantages on the one who was altruistic? This has been a thorny question in sociobiology, with some interesting answers.<\/p>\n
What they have found is that altruism makes sense from an evolutionary perspective when three conditions are present:<\/p>\n
- \n
- People (including our hominid ancestors several million years ago) lived and predominantly bred within social groups (typically around 20 \u2013 200 members). Consequently, even if a person\u2019s altruism led to her not passing on her genes, close relatives would live and pass on their own, and would be more likely to do so, given her sacrifice.<\/li>\n
- Social groups competed intensely with each other for scarce resources in the wild, so ones that worked well together \u2013 including because of personal, altruistic sacrifices of some group members \u2013 would have their reproductive advantages make a big difference.<\/li>\n
- The reputation of individuals would be known to others. So if someone became known as a non-reciprocator \u2013 a taker, not a giver \u2013 then he risked others no longer sharing food, shelter, etc. So people developed a natural interest in their reputation, in what others thought of them.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
An unpleasant emotion that punished individual tribe members for not stepping up for the tribe in fights with other tribes, and for not reciprocating today for help offered yesterday, would help a tribe succeed in its brutal competition with other tribes. And as a variant on that theme, an unpleasant emotion that enabled tribe members to train their young quickly in proper behavior \u2013 proper in central Africa, a million years ago, or during the last Ice Age, say 15,000 years ago \u2013 would also confer advantages to that tribe.<\/p>\n
Thus the origins of shame and guilt in the long slow grind of evolutionary history.<\/p>\n
Exercise: \u201cLetting Go of Shame\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n
Here are the instructions for the exercise, which you can adapt freely:<\/p>\n
Imagine that you are sitting beside a powerful river on a beautiful sunny day. You feel safe and contented and strong.<\/p>\n
Imagine that sitting with you is a wise and supportive being. Perhaps someone you know personally, perhaps a historical figure, perhaps a guardian angel, etc. Know in your heart that this is a very wise and honest and caring being.<\/p>\n
Imagine a small boat tied to the bank of the river, there near you. Imagine an empty and open box in the boat that you can reach easily. Now, continuing to be centered in feelings of worth and well-being, bring to mind lightly<\/u> something you are ashamed of. Represent it, whatever it is, as a small object on the ground in front of you.<\/p>\n
Imagine that the being is telling you, or that you are telling the being, some of the many causes and conditions that led to that thing you are ashamed of. You don\u2019t need the whole story; often a few seconds in your imagination can summarize the heart of the matter.<\/p>\n
With that summary of the causes of the shame, see if you can feel a letting go inside.<\/p>\n
If you like, in your imagination, bow to the object representing the shame: it exists, it is what it is.<\/p>\n
Then put the object in the box, and let it go as much as you can.<\/p>\n
Now bring to mind, lightly<\/u>, something else you are ashamed of. Represent it, whatever it is, as a small object on the ground in front of you.<\/p>\n
Feel free to repeat this exercise, and to go at your own pace, slowing down to dwell on certain parts, or speeding up to get through them to additional things you\u2019d like to put in the boat.<\/p>\n
The post From Shame to Self-Worth: Evolutionary Neurobiology of Shame<\/a> appeared first on Dr. Rick Hanson<\/a>.<\/p>\n
\n<\/a>
<\/a>
<\/a>
<\/a>\n<\/div>\n
<\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
This week we will continue from last week’s introduction in the From Shame to Self-Worth series by gaining an understanding of the evolution of shame. [As we go through this somewhat intellectual material, try to make it real for yourself by relating it to your own everyday feelings of inadequacy or guilt.] Have you ever scolded <\/p>\n
The post From Shame to Self-Worth: Evolutionary Neurobiology of Shame<\/a> appeared first on Dr. Rick Hanson<\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":270,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[258,257,226,253,227,256,231],"tags":[25,87,119,136,174],"class_list":["post-748","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-brain-change","category-forgive-yourself","category-inner-peace","category-let-go","category-letting-go","category-mindful-presence","category-release","tag-blog","tag-happiness","tag-mindfulness","tag-neurology","tag-rick-hanson"],"yoast_head":"\n
From Shame to Self-Worth: Evolutionary Neurobiology of Shame<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"This week we will continue from last week’s introduction in the From Shame to Self-Worth series by gaining an understanding of the evolution of shame. Have you ever scolded The post From Shame to Self-Worth: Evolutionary Neurobiology of Shame appeared first on Dr. Rick Hanson.\" \/>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/justonething\/2015\/06\/from-shame-to-self-worth-evolutionary-neurobiology-of-shame\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"From Shame to Self-Worth: Evolutionary Neurobiology of Shame\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"This week we will continue from last week’s introduction in the From Shame to Self-Worth series by gaining an understanding of the evolution of shame. Have you ever scolded The post From Shame to Self-Worth: Evolutionary Neurobiology of Shame appeared first on Dr. Rick Hanson.\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:url\" content=\"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/justonething\/2015\/06\/from-shame-to-self-worth-evolutionary-neurobiology-of-shame\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:site_name\" content=\"Just One Thing\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:published_time\" content=\"2015-06-22T20:59:05+00:00\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:image\" content=\"http:\/\/feeds.feedburner.com\/~ff\/rickhanson\/blog?d=yIl2AUoC8zA\" \/>\n<meta name=\"author\" content=\"Rick Hanson\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:card\" content=\"summary_large_image\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:label1\" content=\"Written by\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:data1\" content=\"Rick Hanson\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:label2\" content=\"Est. reading time\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:data2\" content=\"5 minutes\" \/>\n<script type=\"application\/ld+json\" class=\"yoast-schema-graph\">{\"@context\":\"https:\/\/schema.org\",\"@graph\":[{\"@type\":\"WebPage\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/justonething\/2015\/06\/from-shame-to-self-worth-evolutionary-neurobiology-of-shame\/\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/justonething\/2015\/06\/from-shame-to-self-worth-evolutionary-neurobiology-of-shame\/\",\"name\":\"From Shame to Self-Worth: Evolutionary Neurobiology of Shame\",\"isPartOf\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/justonething\/#website\"},\"datePublished\":\"2015-06-22T20:59:05+00:00\",\"dateModified\":\"2015-06-22T20:59:05+00:00\",\"author\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/justonething\/#\/schema\/person\/6c4a42e3aacc51103aa26076d2828bd2\"},\"description\":\"This week we will continue from last week’s introduction in the From Shame to Self-Worth series by gaining an understanding of the evolution of shame. Have you ever scolded The post From Shame to Self-Worth: Evolutionary Neurobiology of Shame appeared first on Dr. Rick Hanson.\",\"breadcrumb\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/justonething\/2015\/06\/from-shame-to-self-worth-evolutionary-neurobiology-of-shame\/#breadcrumb\"},\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\",\"potentialAction\":[{\"@type\":\"ReadAction\",\"target\":[\"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/justonething\/2015\/06\/from-shame-to-self-worth-evolutionary-neurobiology-of-shame\/\"]}]},{\"@type\":\"BreadcrumbList\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/justonething\/2015\/06\/from-shame-to-self-worth-evolutionary-neurobiology-of-shame\/#breadcrumb\",\"itemListElement\":[{\"@type\":\"ListItem\",\"position\":1,\"name\":\"Home\",\"item\":\"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/justonething\/\"},{\"@type\":\"ListItem\",\"position\":2,\"name\":\"From Shame to Self-Worth: Evolutionary Neurobiology of Shame\"}]},{\"@type\":\"WebSite\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/justonething\/#website\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/justonething\/\",\"name\":\"Just One Thing\",\"description\":\"Simple practices to bring more joy, more fulfilling relationships, and more peace of mind.\",\"potentialAction\":[{\"@type\":\"SearchAction\",\"target\":{\"@type\":\"EntryPoint\",\"urlTemplate\":\"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/justonething\/?s={search_term_string}\"},\"query-input\":\"required name=search_term_string\"}],\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\"},{\"@type\":\"Person\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/justonething\/#\/schema\/person\/6c4a42e3aacc51103aa26076d2828bd2\",\"name\":\"Rick Hanson\",\"image\":{\"@type\":\"ImageObject\",\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/justonething\/#\/schema\/person\/image\/\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/8201f7e1d266eeed178076f097d922a7?s=96&d=mm&r=g\",\"contentUrl\":\"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/8201f7e1d266eeed178076f097d922a7?s=96&d=mm&r=g\",\"caption\":\"Rick Hanson\"},\"url\":\"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/justonething\/author\/buddhasbrain\/\"}]}<\/script>\n<!-- \/ Yoast SEO plugin. -->","yoast_head_json":{"title":"From Shame to Self-Worth: Evolutionary Neurobiology of Shame","description":"This week we will continue from last week’s introduction in the From Shame to Self-Worth series by gaining an understanding of the evolution of shame. Have you ever scolded The post From Shame to Self-Worth: Evolutionary Neurobiology of Shame appeared first on Dr. Rick Hanson.","robots":{"index":"index","follow":"follow","max-snippet":"max-snippet:-1","max-image-preview":"max-image-preview:large","max-video-preview":"max-video-preview:-1"},"canonical":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/justonething\/2015\/06\/from-shame-to-self-worth-evolutionary-neurobiology-of-shame\/","og_locale":"en_US","og_type":"article","og_title":"From Shame to Self-Worth: Evolutionary Neurobiology of Shame","og_description":"This week we will continue from last week’s introduction in the From Shame to Self-Worth series by gaining an understanding of the evolution of shame. Have you ever scolded The post From Shame to Self-Worth: Evolutionary Neurobiology of Shame appeared first on Dr. Rick Hanson.","og_url":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/justonething\/2015\/06\/from-shame-to-self-worth-evolutionary-neurobiology-of-shame\/","og_site_name":"Just One Thing","article_published_time":"2015-06-22T20:59:05+00:00","og_image":[{"url":"http:\/\/feeds.feedburner.com\/~ff\/rickhanson\/blog?d=yIl2AUoC8zA"}],"author":"Rick Hanson","twitter_card":"summary_large_image","twitter_misc":{"Written by":"Rick Hanson","Est. reading time":"5 minutes"},"schema":{"@context":"https:\/\/schema.org","@graph":[{"@type":"WebPage","@id":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/justonething\/2015\/06\/from-shame-to-self-worth-evolutionary-neurobiology-of-shame\/","url":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/justonething\/2015\/06\/from-shame-to-self-worth-evolutionary-neurobiology-of-shame\/","name":"From Shame to Self-Worth: Evolutionary Neurobiology of Shame","isPartOf":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/justonething\/#website"},"datePublished":"2015-06-22T20:59:05+00:00","dateModified":"2015-06-22T20:59:05+00:00","author":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/justonething\/#\/schema\/person\/6c4a42e3aacc51103aa26076d2828bd2"},"description":"This week we will continue from last week’s introduction in the From Shame to Self-Worth series by gaining an understanding of the evolution of shame. Have you ever scolded The post From Shame to Self-Worth: Evolutionary Neurobiology of Shame appeared first on Dr. Rick Hanson.","breadcrumb":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/justonething\/2015\/06\/from-shame-to-self-worth-evolutionary-neurobiology-of-shame\/#breadcrumb"},"inLanguage":"en-US","potentialAction":[{"@type":"ReadAction","target":["https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/justonething\/2015\/06\/from-shame-to-self-worth-evolutionary-neurobiology-of-shame\/"]}]},{"@type":"BreadcrumbList","@id":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/justonething\/2015\/06\/from-shame-to-self-worth-evolutionary-neurobiology-of-shame\/#breadcrumb","itemListElement":[{"@type":"ListItem","position":1,"name":"Home","item":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/justonething\/"},{"@type":"ListItem","position":2,"name":"From Shame to Self-Worth: Evolutionary Neurobiology of Shame"}]},{"@type":"WebSite","@id":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/justonething\/#website","url":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/justonething\/","name":"Just One Thing","description":"Simple practices to bring more joy, more fulfilling relationships, and more peace of mind.","potentialAction":[{"@type":"SearchAction","target":{"@type":"EntryPoint","urlTemplate":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/justonething\/?s={search_term_string}"},"query-input":"required name=search_term_string"}],"inLanguage":"en-US"},{"@type":"Person","@id":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/justonething\/#\/schema\/person\/6c4a42e3aacc51103aa26076d2828bd2","name":"Rick Hanson","image":{"@type":"ImageObject","inLanguage":"en-US","@id":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/justonething\/#\/schema\/person\/image\/","url":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/8201f7e1d266eeed178076f097d922a7?s=96&d=mm&r=g","contentUrl":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/8201f7e1d266eeed178076f097d922a7?s=96&d=mm&r=g","caption":"Rick Hanson"},"url":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/justonething\/author\/buddhasbrain\/"}]}},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/justonething\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/748","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/justonething\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/justonething\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/justonething\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/270"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/justonething\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=748"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/justonething\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/748\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/justonething\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=748"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/justonething\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=748"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/justonething\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=748"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}