{"id":3800,"date":"2012-03-12T07:32:46","date_gmt":"2012-03-12T07:32:46","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/karenspearszacharias\/?p=3800"},"modified":"2012-03-12T07:43:56","modified_gmt":"2012-03-12T07:43:56","slug":"that-bright-red-fence","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/karenspearszacharias\/2012\/03\/12\/that-bright-red-fence\/","title":{"rendered":"Red Fence of Fundamentalism"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<\/head>

I wish there had been a specific Point of Demarcation.<\/p>\n

A bright red fence or something. \u00a0 $\"\"$ <\/a><\/p>\n

One that came with a warning sign that said: Cross over this and there\u2019s no return.<\/p>\n

Or: Don\u2019t cross and you\u2019ll never move forward.<\/p>\n

My girlfriend Susie and I had lunch last week. We had a lot of catching up to do. We haven\u2019t really spent any time together since 2002. A lot has happened in our lives in the past 10 years. Our kids grew up, and so did we.<\/p>\n

She told me how surprised she was to learn I wasn\u2019t a registered Republican. (For the record, I\u2019m not a registered Democrat either.)<\/p>\n

When Susie knew me best I was Sarah Palin without the boob job.<\/p>\n

I know you are howling and not about the boob joke. (Okay maybe about the boob joke). You just can\u2019t imagine me as Sarah Palin. Let me explain what I mean by that. Back in those years \u2014 the ones in which I was raising a family \u2014 I was, as my daughter likes to say, the kind of mother who not only hovered over their lives, I would come in for landings.<\/p>\n

Strict doesn\u2019t even begin to cover it.<\/p>\n

Fundamentalist comes close.<\/p>\n

My idea of \u00a0fun was driving around town praying over places \u2014 schools, churches, pregnancy crisis centers, etc.<\/p>\n

Okay. I think we only did that once but that was enough to convince my children to pray, \u201cMake me a bird, Lord, so I can fly far, far away.\u201d <\/em><\/p>\n<\/iframe>\n<p>Oh, I wasn\u2019t mean. I was just convinced that the world fell into two distinct groups \u2014 us and them.<\/p>\n<p>You were either Good.<\/p>\n<p>Or Bad.<\/p>\n<p>Right or<\/p>\n<p>Wrong.<\/p>\n<p>Republican and<\/p>\n<p>God-fearing<\/p>\n<p>Or Democrat<\/p>\n<p>and a Dumbass.<\/p>\n<p>Obviously, I overcame that. I never would have even whispered that last word in the former incarnation of myself. (You might just think I resorted back to my trailer park upbringing. Maybe I did.)<\/p>\n<p>Leaning over her salad, Susie lifted her fork to punctuate the air and said, \u201cIsn\u2019t it freeing not to be held hostage to a one-issue agenda in your life anymore?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u201cYes it is,\u201d I agreed.<\/p>\n<p>Every generation has its one issue agendas, it seems. For my generation it was abortion. For my children that issue is homosexuality.<\/p>\n<p>There are other issues, of course. If you are a Washed-in-the-Blood-of-the-Lamb believer, and I am, people of great intellect continue to debate the role of women in the church, or rather the lack thereof.<\/p>\n<p>Bert Montgomery has taken on that issue over the Burnside Writers in an essay titled<a href=\"http:\/\/burnsidewriters.com\/2012\/02\/27\/ode-to-being-unladylike\/\" class=\" decorated-link\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow\"> Ode to Being Unladylike. <\/a> And Rachel Held Evans has written an entire book about <a href=\"http:\/\/rachelheldevans.com\/womanhood-project\" class=\" decorated-link\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow\">Biblical Womanhood<\/a>. Rachel is smart as a whip. If I were a man, I\u2019d think twice before I got into a debate with Rachel about a man being the headship of the church and all that other stuff that I used to care so much about.<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s what I \u00a0mean about that line of demarcation.<\/p>\n<p>There\u2019s enough essence of my former righteous self that makes me wonder what is wrong with me. How can I not care whether you are pro-life or pro-choice? How can I not care whether you vote for Obama or Romney? How could I not care that a Mormon might be president for that matter? How could it be that I don\u2019t care whether women preach from the pulpit or whether Washington state passes a law allowing gay couples to marry?<\/p>\n<p>I keep telling myself I ought to feel guilty about my lacking of caring.<\/p>\n<p>But then I\u2019m reminded that I can\u2019t go back across that bright red fence because I already escaped it.<\/p>\n<p>The truth of the matter is that I\u2019ve come to realize that it\u2019s not when we argue over our differences that we change anyone\u2019s minds. It\u2019s only when we are able to agree upon our similarities that we are truly able to see the Spirit of God in one another.<\/p>\n<p>I feel pressed for time. Like I\u2019ve spent a goodly portion of my life fighting the wrong battle. That\u2019s not to say that I don\u2019t care about the role of women in the church, or the number of unborn children aborted every year, I do. I care deeply.<\/p>\n<p>I just care differently than I used to.<\/p>\n<p>And I care more widely than I used to.<\/p>\n<p>Whenever my kids used to ask who I loved the most I would always answer, \u201cI love you all the same but differently.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>I feel that way about the issues of war, homelessness, poverty, crime, abortion, abuse, trafficking, politics, and, yes, the role of women in the church.\u00a0I care about them all the same but differently.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m not sure when it happened, or even how it happened, but somewhere or another I crossed that line of demarcation from fundamentalist.<\/p>\n<p>I no longer hold my faith hostage to one issue.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cSo are you a liberal?\u201d someone asked me recently.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cI don\u2019t know,\u201d I said. \u201cIf caring for the homeless and the brokenhearted makes me a liberal then I guess so.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Whatever peg others attach to me, I pray God continues to enable me to love more liberally as I age.<\/p>\n<p>Knowing me the way I do, I\u2019m going to need it.<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I wish there had been a specific Point of Demarcation. A bright red fence or something. \u00a0 One that came with a warning sign that said: Cross over this and there\u2019s no return. Or: Don\u2019t cross and you\u2019ll never move forward. My girlfriend Susie and I had lunch last week. 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