{"id":2969,"date":"2016-05-13T01:17:26","date_gmt":"2016-05-12T21:17:26","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/admin.patheos.com\/blogs\/kimberlyknight\/?p=2969"},"modified":"2017-10-30T15:53:16","modified_gmt":"2017-10-30T11:53:16","slug":"the-rainbow-flag-on-main-street-guest-blogger-jonathan-chapman","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/kimberlyknight\/2016\/05\/the-rainbow-flag-on-main-street-guest-blogger-jonathan-chapman\/","title":{"rendered":"The Rainbow Flag on Main Street: Guest blogger Jonathan Chapman"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<\/head>

Friends, it is my honor to share this post from friend and seminary colleague, Rev. Jonathan Chapman.<\/p>\n

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Two days ago, I dragged the stepladder through our front door and set it up at the base of one of the wooden columns that line the front our our 1850s home. The house that we\u2019re renting (mobility is a valuable commodity for pastors these days!) sits on the corner of a major intersection in our little town in Northeastern Connecticut. The elementary school is directly across Main Street from our little white house. We\u2019re steps away from the library and local pizza joint and just down the street from the town green and the towering steeple of the church I serve. Every morning I wake up to the bell in my church\u2019s steeple chiming the hour. It\u2019s usually the last thing I remember hearing before I drift off to sleep. Our town isn\u2019t perfect by any stretch of the imagination, but to visitors it\u2019s quaint and quintessential. And for now, it\u2019s home.<\/p>\n

But it\u2019s not the home I grew up in\u2013that was a small town outside Atlanta. It wasn\u2019t particularly rural (although it was markedly more country than city), but it was a place where you knew where people stood. There were some pretty clear lines drawn in the religious and political sands of the day. And one of those lines was homosexuality.<\/p>\n

Growing up, before I came out, I remember riding in the back seat with my parents up front and looking out the window. I was searching for a sign\u2013a sign that I could belong, that there were other people like me. There weren\u2019t many signs like that in the little town I grew up in outside of Atlanta. But every once and while, I\u2019d see a bumper sticker. Or, if we were in the city, a flag. I remember just one time riding by Piedmont Park in midtown Atlanta and glimpsing two men holding hands. I lived for those signs\u2013reminders that there was more to my future than what society and the church were telling me.<\/p>\n

We live in what\u2019s called the Quiet Corner of the state. Some call it that pejoratively\u2013others, lovingly. But either way, it\u2019s an accurate name. Idyllic country roads are lined with centuries old stone walls made from the rocks farmers once cleared out of their fields. Not much happens here. It isn\u2019t some grand, political crossroads where remarkable and earth shattering statements of justice are made.<\/p>\n

And in that way, it\u2019s just like the place I grew up: quiet, unassuming. Once I realized that I was living in the same town of my childhood, just nine states north, it became clear to me that someone riding down this quiet, unassuming Main Street was looking for the same signs I was so many years ago.<\/p>\n

New Englanders are a curious breed. They\u2019re overly pragmatic and fiercely loyal. They are at once progressive on some issues (LGBT rights, for instance) and conservative on others (in my neck of the woods, it\u2019s gun control!). And they are also folks who don\u2019t like being told what to believe. And so, when I drive down Connecticut back roads during election season, I see lots of candidate signs, but virtually no issue-based signs. The prevailing mentality is simple: you believe your way; I\u2019ll believe mine\u2013which makes things in this Southern New England state that\u2019s allowed gay marriage since late 2008 seem great. Everybody\u2019s on board here. Right?<\/p>\n

Kind of. Until they aren\u2019t.<\/p>\n

My church, Westfield Congregational Church, United Church of Christ<\/a> has taken to making unique statements about our belief in the breadth of God\u2019s welcome. It started with six doors which lead to wreaths and banners, all with the same message\u2013you\u2019re welcome here.<\/p>\n

\"WestfieldWreaths\"<\/a>One Sunday night during December, before one of our beloved Victorian Christmas<\/a> services, a woman approached one of my church members ranting. \u201cWhat do those wreaths mean?,\u201d the woman asked. \u201cOh,\u201d my church member started, \u201cwell, they mean we welcome everyone here\u2014any race, creed, color, age, gay, straight\u2014everyone.\u201d That last bit seemed to be exactly what the woman was afraid of. She then proceeded to get more and more agitated with my member, who calmly responded to the woman\u2019s anxious condemnations. \u201cYou\u2019re not a Christian!\u201d the woman railed. The woman left, and we thought the worst was over. We were wrong. She came back, this time with a Bible pulled up on her phone. She marched right up to my member. \u201cIt\u2019s says right here it\u2019s a sin. You\u2019re not Christian!,\u201d she shouted. \u201cYour church isn\u2019t Christian!\u201d<\/p>\n

For the next two weeks, the United Methodist Church of my childhood is discussing what would mean to be a fully inclusive church\u2013fully inclusive, that is, of people like me. The conversation (which, let\u2019s be honest, can feel more like a fight than a conversation) seems like the one we experienced on Westfield\u2019s steps that December night. The question isn\u2019t just about LGBTQ inclusion in the United Methodist Church. At it\u2019s heart, the question is this: \u201cwhat does it mean to be Christian?\u201d I think about the anger and the hurt this conversation has created, and I realize what a gift it is to serve the church I do\u2013a church that loves and welcomes me and my husband for who we are and the work we\u2019ve been called to do.<\/p>\n

Five months ago, that experience on the steps of my church left me reeling. Was I putting my church in harms way? How many people in our little town felt that way? More importantly, how many of them felt that way strongly enough to have that kind of reaction?<\/p>\n

And why was I willing to let my church be so boldly affirming, yet lived with my husband (who I am legally married to) just blocks away completely silent on the issue?<\/p>\n

I wish we could just go about our lives, day to day, as Greg and Jon, the family that lives on the corner of Westcott and Main. But the truth is that in the back seat of some car sitting at the stoplight just outside our door is a kid looking for a sign that they aren\u2019t alone, a sign there are others like them, a sign that they belong. We\u2019re closer than we were to being a place where people are loved and affirmed for who they are and who they love. But we aren\u2019t there yet. We just<\/em><\/strong> aren\u2019t there yet.<\/p>\n

\"TheRainbowFlagonMainSt\"<\/a>So two days ago, I pulled out our stepladder and set it up at the base of one of the wooden columns that lines the front our the 1850s house we rent. I climbed it and marked where the bracket would go. And as I worked, I thought how much it meant to me so many years ago to see those six bright colors waving in the wind. I hoisted the flag pole into place and took a couple of steps back. And it looked like it always should\u2019ve been there. And in a moment, the house we had been renting became our home.<\/p>\n

It won\u2019t be there forever, the rainbow flag on the house on Main Street. But it will be there for now\u2013to stand with those in the church of my childhood who stayed for the fight to welcome everyone, everyone, everyone, to claim for myself what the church I serve has been telling me all along, and for the kid, like me so many years ago, who hears the ranting of people on church steps and just wants to know they aren\u2019t alone. They aren\u2019t. They never have been.<\/p>\n

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\"headshot\"<\/a>The Rev. Jonathan Chapman graduated from Candler School of Theology, Emory University, in May 2010. Jonathan joined Westfield Congregational Church, United Church of Christ as Pastor and Teacher in October of 2012 .He was selected to be a part of the Next Generation Leadership Initiative, a program sponsored by the Pension Boards of the United Church of Christ that works with young clergy committed to parish ministry through a decade-long relationship. He has a passion for visual worship, a topic he blogs regularly about at revjonchapman.com.<\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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