{"id":548,"date":"2012-12-31T14:55:23","date_gmt":"2012-12-31T22:55:23","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/lisahendey\/?p=548"},"modified":"2015-03-12T16:51:36","modified_gmt":"2015-03-12T23:51:36","slug":"our-own-versions-of-the-holy-family","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/lisahendey\/2012\/12\/our-own-versions-of-the-holy-family\/","title":{"rendered":"Our Own Versions of the Holy Family"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<\/head>

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Old St. Mary\u2019s Cathedral, San Francisco<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/p>

First off, let me thank you for tolerating the week of silence here on A Good Measure<\/a>. Like most of you, I took the past week off to celebrate Christmas with my family and am now dragging myself, kicking and screaming, back to my keyboard. I hope the Octave of Christmas has been as beautiful for you as it has been in our home!<\/p>\n

I want to write a bit today about what I heard at yesterday\u2019s Mass for the Feast of the Holy Family of Jesus, Mary and Joseph. The day found my husband Greg, our son Eric and me celebrating at Old St. Mary\u2019s Cathedral in San Francisco<\/a>. The photo you see here shows the beauty of this church, California\u2019s first Cathedral<\/a>, all dressed up for the holidays. From my vantage point on Sunday morning at 11:00 am Mass, I witnessed a parish that works overtime to provide a welcoming, sacred worship environment.<\/p>\n

We were treated to a Mass celebrated by Father Daniel McCotter, CSP, who is also the pastor of Holy Family Chinese Mission based at Old St. Mary\u2019s. In a lovely homily, Father McCotter broke open the messages contained in yesterday\u2019s Liturgy of the Word<\/a>. These are some of my favorite readings \u2014 I can recall vividly as a child watching my parents lovingly chide one another as our pastor read the mandate from\u00a0Colossians:<\/p>\n

Wives, be subordinate to your husbands,<\/em>
\nas is proper in the Lord.<\/em>
\nHusbands, love your wives,<\/em>
\nand avoid any bitterness toward them.<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

And of course, we children always got the all-knowing look from our mom and dad as the words of Sirach\u2019s first reading were proclaimed:<\/p>\n

God sets a father in honor over his children;<\/em>
\na mother\u2019s authority he confirms over her sons.<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

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Francesco Vecellio\u2019s Madonna and Child with Sts. Joseph and John the Baptist<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

I found myself yesterday, glancing down the pew at my twenty-one year old Eric with the same look my own mom has given me so many times on the Feast of the Holy Family \u2014 that, \u201cAre you paying attention to this?<\/em>\u201d smile and wink.<\/p>\n

In his homily, Father McCotter acknowledged the challenges faced by today\u2019s families. The disintegration of family units, or even their redefinition with changing cultural mores, leaves our children to grow up in a society which is vastly different from the one we knew in our own childhood. And yet the fathers and mothers of today\u2019s families still strive \u2014 as Mary and Joseph did in yesterday\u2019s passage from Luke \u2014 to keep our families intact amidst the many challenges presented by a society rife with economic and social pitfalls.<\/p>\n

To pause and to focus upon and celebrate the Holy Family and their example to us as we venture into a New Year is a lovely reminder to us about what matters most. I find myself parenting in an environment that challenges my former assumptions about the meaning of the word \u201cfamily<\/strong><\/em>\u201c. With one college-aged son who drops in these days for extended breaks from school and another teen who has one foot out the door, I\u2019m learning still how being a mom of young adults works and what my role can be in these next few years of our family\u2019s history. It\u2019s easy to get caught up in wishing back those \u201cgood old days\u201d and missing out on the opportunities I have in the present<\/em> to serve my family in new and creative ways. Some things remain constant: the need for me to set a good example for my Domestic Church, the need for me to lovingly subordinate my desires to those of my husband in partnership and love, and the need for me to pray \u2014 without ceasing \u2014 for the members of our extended family, including our aging parents.<\/p>\n

In closing, I urge you to take a few moments and meditate upon Pope Benedict XVI\u2019s Angelus Message from the Feast of the Holy Family<\/a>, which contains so much wisdom \u2014 including this pearl:<\/p>\n

The love, loyalty and dedication of Mary and Joseph are an example for all Christian couples who are neither the friends nor masters of their children\u2019s lives, but the guardians of this incomparable gift from God.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

What do the Feast of the Holy Family and the readings proclaimed at yesterday\u2019s Mass mean to you at this point in your family\u2019s history? How do you want the nature of your family life to change or stay the same in 2013?<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

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