{"id":96,"date":"2015-02-14T20:18:24","date_gmt":"2015-02-15T00:18:24","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/admin.patheos.com\/blogs\/loveamongtheruins\/?p=96"},"modified":"2015-02-20T10:25:15","modified_gmt":"2015-02-20T14:25:15","slug":"fifty-shades-vs-lasting-intimacy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/loveamongtheruins\/2015\/02\/fifty-shades-vs-lasting-intimacy\/","title":{"rendered":"&#8220;Fifty Shades&#8221; vs. Lasting Intimacy"},"content":{"rendered":"<!DOCTYPE html PUBLIC \"-\/\/W3C\/\/DTD HTML 4.0 Transitional\/\/EN\" \"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/TR\/REC-html40\/loose.dtd\">\n<html><head><meta http-equiv=\"content-type\" content=\"text\/html; charset=utf-8\"><meta http-equiv=\"content-type\" content=\"text\/html; charset=utf-8\"><\/head><body><p><a href=\"https:\/\/wp-media.patheos.com\/blogs\/sites\/521\/2015\/02\/image.jpg\" class=\" decorated-link\" target=\"_blank\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-97 size-medium\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-media.patheos.com\/blogs\/sites\/521\/2015\/02\/image-300x225.jpg\" alt=\"image\" width=\"300\" height=\"225\"><\/a><\/p>\n<p>[Editor\u2019s<em> Note: Here\u2019s a very\u00a0<\/em>Love Among the Ruins-<em>themed post from Verily Magazine. 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