{"id":9604,"date":"2012-10-12T12:34:23","date_gmt":"2012-10-12T16:34:23","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/lovejoyfeminism\/?page_id=9604"},"modified":"2016-01-26T22:31:48","modified_gmt":"2016-01-27T02:31:48","slug":"created-to-be-his-help-meet","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/lovejoyfeminism\/created-to-be-his-help-meet","title":{"rendered":"Created To Be His Help Meet,<\/i> by Debi Pearl"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<\/head>

I write a lot about what I have termed \u201cChristian Patriarchy.\u201d The basic idea is that women are to always be under male authority, and that women were created not as equals to men but rather to be helpers to their husbands. There are numerous Christian marriage manuals, usually written by women, on the market instructing women on how to be proper wives, submissive to their husbands\u2019 commands and supportive of their husbands\u2019 goals.\u00a0Created to Be His Help Meet<\/a>\"\"<\/em>, by author Debi Pearl, is one of these marriage manuals, and is especially popular in fundamentalist and Christian homeschool circles.<\/p>\n

I started reviewing Created To Be His Help Meet,<\/em> going through it page by page, in September 2012, and I continue to publish a new installment each Friday. My goal is to shed light on the negative messages promoted in this book and to examine the thought process behind them. You can view my reviews\u00a0here<\/a>\u00a0or click on the links below.<\/p>\n

Michael Pearl\u2019s Stamp of Approval<\/a>, p. 13<\/p>\n

Michael and Debi Pearl\u2019s Whirlwind Romance<\/a>, pp. 13-15<\/p>\n

Debi Knows \u201cGod\u2019s Plan\u201d<\/a>, pp. 15-17<\/p>\n

The Jezebel Type<\/a>, pp. 19-20<\/p>\n

Women\u2019s Created Purpose<\/a>, p. 21<\/p>\n

In Which Debi Twists Scripture<\/a>, pp. 21-23<\/p>\n

Subordinate, But Not Inferior<\/a>, pp. 23-24<\/p>\n

What Is a Help Meet? (in the KJV)<\/a>, pp. 24<\/p>\n

In Which Debi Almost Gets Something Right<\/a>, pp. 26-27<\/p>\n

One Ugly Hillbilly<\/a>, pp. 27-28<\/p>\n

Smile, Giggle, and Simper<\/a>, pp. 28-32<\/p>\n

Contentment Is All That Matters<\/a>, pp. 35-38<\/p>\n

In Which Mike Spills the Garbage<\/a>, pp. 40-42<\/p>\n

On Being Your Husband\u2019s \u201cPlaymate,<\/a>\u201d pp. 42-44<\/p>\n

Remember, It Could Be Worse!<\/a> pp. 45-47<\/p>\n

In Which Debi Poisons the Well<\/a>, pp. 49-51<\/p>\n

In Which Debi Reveals Her Mandate<\/a>, pp. 51-53<\/p>\n

How To Be An Abused Woman<\/a>, pp. 54-55<\/p>\n

Be Afraid, Very Afraid<\/em><\/a>, pp. 57-58<\/p>\n

Disappointed Old Failures<\/a>, pp. 58-59<\/p>\n

Else God Will Drive You Mad (Literally)<\/a>, pp. 59-63<\/p>\n

Debi Pearl and the Sex-Obsessed Babysitter<\/a>, pp. 65-67<\/p>\n

Single Moms Turned Lesbian<\/a>, pp. 67-72<\/p>\n

Michael\u2019s Meat, Sit Down and Shut Up, and It\u2019s All in Your Head<\/a>, pp. 72-73<\/p>\n

Created in the Image of Man<\/a>, pp. 75-76<\/p>\n

The Command Man Tames the Shrew<\/a>, pp. 77-80<\/p>\n

My Mr. Visionary<\/a>, pp. 80-85<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t Take Your Mr. Steady for Granted<\/a>, pp. 86-92<\/p>\n

Debi\u2019s Abuse Meter Is Broken<\/a><\/p>\n

The Butter Churn, the Carrot, and the Stick<\/a><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t Resist, Confront, or Challenge<\/a><\/p>\n

Taming Wild Horses and Lassoing Bears<\/a><\/p>\n

The Woman Was Deceived<\/a><\/p>\n

You Only\u00a0Think<\/em>\u00a0You\u2019re Spiritual!<\/a><\/p>\n

Adam Knew (But It\u2019s Eve\u2019s Fault)<\/a><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t Take Your Husband to Church<\/a><\/p>\n

The Proverbs 31 Woman Served Her Husband<\/a><\/p>\n

An Army of Two<\/a><\/p>\n

In Which Debi Can\u2019t Read Genesis<\/a><\/p>\n

Women Can Be Effective Leaders\u2014So What?<\/a><\/p>\n

In Which Debi Has Scientific Proof<\/a><\/p>\n

The (Proxy) Bride of (an Abusive) Christ<\/a><\/p>\n

Only Ever Think Good<\/a><\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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