{"id":12595,"date":"2013-02-01T15:17:51","date_gmt":"2013-02-01T19:17:51","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/lovejoyfeminism\/?p=12595"},"modified":"2013-02-01T15:17:51","modified_gmt":"2013-02-01T19:17:51","slug":"a-reader-asks-how-can-i-free-my-daughter-from-fundamentalist-fears","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/lovejoyfeminism\/2013\/02\/a-reader-asks-how-can-i-free-my-daughter-from-fundamentalist-fears.html","title":{"rendered":"A Reader Asks: How Can I Free My Daughter from Fundamentalist Fears?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<\/head>

I recently received a question from a reader, and I thought I would put it to all of you to help answer it:<\/p>\n

What resources are there for me to share with my thirteen year old daughter about coming out of the darkness of the culture you write about?<\/strong>\u00a0I grew up in an independent fundamentalist baptist church.\u00a0 My parents were completely into it.\u00a0 I didn\u2019t want to be, but got sucked into it.\u00a0 The whole \u201cyou\u2019re going to hell\u201d stuff, and \u201cGod will punish you\u201d is so powerful psychologically.\u00a0 Long story short, I got out.\u00a0 But when my life on my own fell apart, I went back and immersed myself and my two precious children completely into that culture.\u00a0 I finally broke away about three years ago, and haven\u2019t spoken to my family since.\u00a0 I haven\u2019t kept my children away from their grandparents, but that may not have been the smartest move.\u00a0 My daughter confided in me last night that even though she hasn\u2019t seen her in months, she can\u2019t get Grandma (and her twisted views of Christianity, behavior, sinfulness, etc.) out of her head.\u00a0 I want to give her some tools\u2013books, blogs, anything that is age appropriate to help her.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

What suggestions, including both resources and general advice, do you have for this reader? I came out of these beliefs as a young adult, over a period of years, and my children are still young. How would you suggest helping children or teens who are struggling with the lingering effects of fundamentalist teachings about sin and judgment?<\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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