{"id":29876,"date":"2016-08-01T18:49:15","date_gmt":"2016-08-01T22:49:15","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/admin.patheos.com\/blogs\/lovejoyfeminism\/?p=29876"},"modified":"2016-08-02T06:56:13","modified_gmt":"2016-08-02T10:56:13","slug":"new-website-tackles-josh-harriss-i-kissed-dating-goodbye-with-powerful-message","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/lovejoyfeminism\/2016\/08\/new-website-tackles-josh-harriss-i-kissed-dating-goodbye-with-powerful-message.html","title":{"rendered":"New Website Tackles Josh Harris&#8217;s &#8220;I Kissed Dating Goodbye&#8221; with Powerful Message"},"content":{"rendered":"<!DOCTYPE html PUBLIC \"-\/\/W3C\/\/DTD HTML 4.0 Transitional\/\/EN\" \"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/TR\/REC-html40\/loose.dtd\">\n<html><head><meta http-equiv=\"content-type\" content=\"text\/html; charset=utf-8\"><meta http-equiv=\"content-type\" content=\"text\/html; charset=utf-8\"><\/head><body><p>As a teen, Joshua Harris\u2019 1997 book, I Kissed Dating Goodbye, played a fundamental role in shaping my perception toward dating, love, and romance. Today, several of my blogger friends have launched a website, titled\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/www.lifeafterikdg.com\" class=\" decorated-link\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow\">Life After \u2018I Kissed Dating Goodbye\u2019<\/a>,\u00a0to highlight the stories of others whose relationships and life trajectories were fundamentally altered by Josh\u2019s book. They are asking for submissions, including both posts on personal blogs, which they can link up, and original essays. If your life, too, was changed by I Kissed Dating Goodbye, I\u2019d encourage you to consider participating!<\/p>\n<p>Why now? Why a website\u00a0of collected\u00a0stories? The answer is simple! As my regular readers will know, several months ago Josh <a href=\"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/lovejoyfeminism\/2016\/05\/josh-harris-apologizes.html\" class=\" decorated-link\" target=\"_blank\">apologized on twitter<\/a> to Elizabeth Esther, another blogger, for the harm his book caused her. Last month, he appeared on NPR, walking back his book in ways that were promising but not all the way there. The <a href=\"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/lovejoyfeminism\/2016\/07\/is-josh-harris-actually-taking-responsibility.html\" class=\" decorated-link\" target=\"_blank\">question I asked then<\/a> was this: Has Josh actually changed his mind on any of the positions he laid out in his book? Or has Josh\u00a0decided that bloggers like myself have so strongly turned the climate\u00a0against his book that he needs\u00a0to reclaim the narrative\u00a0by repackaging his original teachings under the guise of reform?<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m not the only one asking these questions.\u00a0Here\u2019s an intro from the Life After \u2018I Kissed Dating Goodbye\u2019 website:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>Joshua Harris, author of\u00a0<em>I Kissed Dating Goodbye<\/em>, is currently taking submissions from people who were affected by his book and his teachings on Christian \u201csexual purity.\u201d However, in taking these submissions, he is asking for several things:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>for the stories to be kept under 750 words<\/li>\n<li>permission to share the stories anonymously online<\/li>\n<li>volunteers to share their stories in a video format<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>While we think that actually taking the time to listen is a good start for Harris, many of us are deeply uncomfortable with his chosen format. By giving Harris permission to share these stories, they are being licensed to him for use in whatever way he sees fit\u2014in whole in or in part, censored or uncensored, in service of whatever conclusions he comes to about the impact of his work.<\/p>\n<p><strong>But the reality is that the impact of his work is not his to decide.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>This week, we\u2019re inviting you to share your stories\u2014uncut and uncensored. We want to curate these stories in the hopes of preventing more damage from being done and to provide an alternative narrative to the rigid and narrow thinking that IKDG and Harris\u2019 other work espouses.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.lifeafterikdg.com\" class=\" decorated-link\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow\">Click through<\/a> to learn more about how you can participate, and to read the stories already submitted! I love the idea of reclaiming narratives and owning our stories in powerful ways. Our words\u2014our voices\u2014can make a difference.<\/p>\n<p>Samantha Field <a href=\"http:\/\/www.lifeafterikdg.com\/kissing-dating-goodbye-kissing-abuse-hello\/\" class=\" decorated-link\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow\">has already posted<\/a> her own story, and\u00a0it does not make for easy reading. But then, true stories\u2014the stories we own and guard\u2014often don\u2019t.<\/p>\n<p><b>I have a <\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.patreon.com\/lovejoyfeminism\" class=\" decorated-link\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow\"><b>Patreon<\/b><\/a><b>! Please support my writing!<\/b><\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>As a teen, Joshua Harris&#8217; 1997 book, I Kissed Dating Goodbye, played a fundamental role in shaping me perception toward dating, love, and romance. 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If your life, too, was changed by I Kissed Dating Goodbye, I&#8217;d encourage you to consider participating! <\/p>\n<p>Click through to read more!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":845,"featured_media":29879,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[40,12],"tags":[600,484,271],"class_list":["post-29876","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-evangelicalism-fundamentalism","category-purity","tag-i-kissed-dating-goodbye","tag-josh-harris","tag-joshua-harris"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v21.1 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>New Website Tackles Josh Harris&#039;s &quot;I Kissed Dating Goodbye&quot; with Powerful Message<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"As a teen, Joshua Harris&#039; 1997 book, I Kissed Dating Goodbye, played a fundamental role in shaping me perception toward dating, love, and romance. 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