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My little girl says \u201chi\u201d to everyone we pass on the street. And it\u2019s not just a motion, either. She turns, smiles, waves her hand, and practically shouts \u201chi,\u201d with happiness in her voice. She\u2019s happy to see new people, happy to make new friends, happy to be alive. And what\u2019s more, she doesn\u2019t judge. She says \u201chi\u201d to the homeless man with the same enthusiasm she exudes when she says \u201chi\u201d to the man in the business suit. Fat, thin, black, white, Hispanic, beautiful, homely, Christian, Muslim, Mormon, atheist, young, or old,<\/span> none of that matters to her<\/span>.<\/span><\/div>\n

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Why do we judge? Why do we stereotype? I know I do both, and more than I like. I see an incredibly obese woman waiting at a bus stop, and all I can think is <\/span>that woman has no self control. <\/span>I see a Muslim woman, veiled and wearing long clothes in the summer heat, and I think <\/span>that poor woman is so oppressed. <\/span>I see a college guy wearing a fraternity sweatshirt, and I think <\/span>that jerk, he must only care about sex and alcohol. <\/span>I judge. I stereotype. My little girl doesn\u2019t see what I see. She just sees people.<\/span> I want to see people the way she sees people. <\/span><\/div>\n
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Back when I was a Christian, I would have said that my little girl sees people the way Jesus sees them, and that this is why Jesus told his followers that they should become like little children. Today, though, I would simply say that my little girl sees people through eyes that are as yet unpolluted by the prejudices every human picks up as he or she goes through life. She is completely innocent, and doesn\u2019t understand the difference between the obese person and the athletic person, or between the homeless man and the wealthy business man. <\/span>To her they are all just interesting people in a fascinating world she longs to explore.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

This won\u2019t last. My little girl will learn to hold prejudices just like everyone else. I can try to prevent it, but even I will unintentionally pass on my prejudices to her, and she will also hear messages from the society we live in, from advertisements, friends at school, and the way she sees people treat each other. A turn of the head, a facial expression \u2013 it all means something. We use social cues to communicate all the time, and my little girl will eventually pick up on these cues.<\/span><\/p>\n

This sounds like the makings of a very sad story. Am I being too much of a pessimist? I think I am just being a realist. <\/span>I\u2019m not saying we should give in to the prejudices, just pointing out that they exist, and have always existed in human society. <\/strong><\/span>We can\u2019t escape them, but that doesn\u2019t mean that we shouldn\u2019t actively seek to work against them. <\/span><\/p>\n

What little children like my daughter remind us of is that these prejudices are something that we gain over time, not something that we are born with. <\/span>Watching my little girl interact with the people around her reminds me that regardless of their physical appearance, age, religion, or social status, people are, inside, just people.<\/strong><\/span> People like me. People like my little girl. And with that in mind, I should wave and say \u201chi\u201d with a genuine smile on my face.<\/span><\/p>\n

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