Chapter 8 opens with Cooper visiting Suskins\u2019 office to participate in the depositions of Jody Easler and Nora Stoddard. This means Cooper gets to ask them questions, on the record, and it will be recorded.<\/p>\n
The tall mahogany doors swung open slowly.\u00a0Solid construction\u2014no hollow-core here,\u00a0<\/em>Cooper thought. \u201cBaxter, Connolly and Suskins\u201d was embalmed in gold leaf on the frosted glass wall that ran for thirty-five feet to the right of the reception desk. A variety of letter seating choices were strategically placed throughout the ample waiting area.<\/p><\/blockquote>\nI can only assume that Farris included this section in case we missed that Suskins\u2019 office is one of those really<\/em> posh, upscale ones the first thirty-two times he signaled it. He does this throughout.<\/p>\nThere\u2019s also this weird bit:<\/p>\n
\u201cGood morning, sir, may I help you?\u201d<\/p>\n
Cooper had seen blond receptionists before. And he had seen perfect smiles before. But being greeted by a smiling, blond receptionist who just happened to be male was a new experience.<\/p>\n
\u201cI\u2019m Cooper Stone\u2014here for some depositions with Mr. Suskins,\u201d he answered.<\/p>\n
\u201cOh yes, Mr. Stone. You are a little early,\u201d the young man with the smile said.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n
This signifies \u2026. what, exactly?<\/p>\n
I reread the whole book before starting the review series, and I don\u2019t think the male blond receptionist comes up again. Perhaps Farris is simply trying to highlight the difference between Suskins\u2019 upscale, D.C. office with its female partners and male receptionists, and Cooper\u2019s wholesome, small town office with its male partners and female receptionists, maintaining the natural order of things.<\/p>\n
It\u2019s interesting that Farris is seemingly so blas\u00e9 about the idea of female receptionists. Growing up in his milieux, the stigma around women working frequently centered just as much on a concern about women tempting men in the workplace as it did on women needing to be home for their kids. Female receptionists could easily be framed as potential temptresses\u2014making male receptionists a safer option.<\/p>\n
That\u2019s assuming, of course, that Farris isn\u2019t intending to suggest that Suskins is gay, or that the smiling blond receptionist is some partner\u2019s boy toy and I\u2019m just missing it. But given that this is\u2014I think\u2014his only mention, I don\u2019t think that\u2019s it.<\/p>\n
Regardless, blond male receptionist points Cooper to a room.<\/p>\n
He placed his notebook, legal pad, and pen in position on the massive wooden table, which gave the glow of a professional administered shine.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n
Cooper is ready for the depositions.\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\nWhen the room fills with the rest of the parties involved, Cooper is surprised at the large number of people in the room\u2014half a dozen or so. At last, Suskins enters with two women.<\/p>\n
\u201cGood morning, Mr. Stone,\u201d Suskins said, with a courteous smile and an extended hand.<\/p>\n
Cooper recognized one of the two women with Suskins as Melissa VanLandingham, who had sat with the senior lawyer at counsel table in their first hearing. The attractive brunette in a formfitting, pale blue business suit on Suskins\u2019 left was new to him.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cHello, Mr. Suskins,\u201d Cooper replied.<\/p>\n
\u201cPlease be seated, and let\u2019s begin,\u201d Suskins replied.<\/p>\n
\u201cIs our witness here?\u201d Cooper asked. \u201cI am sorry, but I don\u2019t know who is in the rooms and I haven\u2019t met Ambassador Easler before.\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n
This whole section is painfully awkward<\/em>. I suspect that this is at least partially Farris\u2019 intent\u2014Cooper is feeling awkward and out of place. He wants us to feel his awkwardness. And here, at least, he succeeds.<\/p>\nThe woman in the blue suit, of course, is Jody Easler.<\/p>\n
Suskins wants this whole thing over with as quickly as possible. He launched straight into the proceedings without introducing any of his associates, which upsets Cooper. I don\u2019t know enough about legal etiquette in situations like this to know whether this is the misstep\u2014or snub?\u2014that Farris makes it out to be.<\/p>\n
\u201cWell, shall we begin?\u201d Suskins asked again.<\/p>\n
Cooper took his seat, realizing that Suskins had no intentions of engaging in any preliminary small talk, nor of making any introductions of the other three women and two men seated around the table.<\/p>\n
\u201cFine,\u201d the young lawyer answered. He turned to the court reporter on his left. \u201cCan you swear in Ambassador Easler as the witness, please?\u201d<\/p>\n
When that was done, with an oath that omitted any reference to God, the reporter nodded silently at Cooper.<\/p>\n
\u201cPlease state your name and position for the record,\u201d he began.<\/p>\n
\u201cJody Easler. Dr. Jody Easler, I guess I should add, since this seems relatively formal. I am the United States ambassador to the United Nations delegation in Geneva.\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n
First, note that three out of five of Suskins associates\u2014as well as VanLandingham\u2014are women. This should perhaps be read alongside Farris\u2019 emphasis on Suskins\u2019 office having a male<\/em> secretary.\u00a0Second, note Farris\u2019 emphasis on the fact that the oath did not reference God. Once again, he\u2019s signaling something.<\/p>\nThird, what exactly is going on with Jody\u2019s introduction?\u00a0The U.S. has a delegation to the United Nations. Jody stating that she is the \u201cUnited Nations ambassador to the United Nations delegation in Geneva<\/em>\u201d is (if I\u2019m not terribly wrong) gobbledy goop. The correct way? She is a part of the U.S. delegation to the U.N.<\/p>\nThat said, there is only one U.S. ambassador to the U.N.\u2014and it\u2019s a very prestigious position. Thus far, Farris has treated Jody as ambassador for the purposes of the UN Convention on the Rights of the Child\u2014she\u2019s a child psychologist focused on children\u2019s rights\u2014but that isn\u2019t a position that exists.<\/p>\n
Back several chapters, Farris introduced both Jody and Nora separately as \u201cthe director of the National Commission on Children in the United States.\u201d He also stated that Nora reports to Jody, and that Jody \u201cholds the title of deputy secretary of state as well as the rank of ambassador here in Geneva.\u201d<\/p>\n
It does not work like that.<\/p>\n
If you\u2019re confused about who Jody and Nora are, exactly, you\u2019re not alone. We all are. As best I can tell, reading between the lines, Jody is a well-known and well-connected children\u2019s rights activist in the U.S. who has been made part of the U.S. delegation to the U.N. specifically to deal with the implementation of the U.N. Commission on the Rights of the Child. Nora runs the nation-level office in charge of implementing the treaty, but ultimately reports to Jody, who reports to the UN Committee on the Rights of the Child.<\/p>\n
Anyway, Cooper, as you remember, is questioning Jody.<\/p>\n
\u201cMadam Ambassador, my first question is this: Who are all the people with you here in the room? Since no one has introduced them to me, I ask you who is who for the record.\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n
Suskins rolls his eyes and informs Cooper the they\u2019re his<\/em> associates, and not Jody\u2019s. Since they filed in separately from Jody\u2014and separately from Suskins too, but this is Suskins\u2019 office\u2014I would guess Cooper probably knew this. Whether or not he knew this when asking Jody, his question is passive aggressive.<\/p>\nCooper asks Suskins for his associates names, again for the record. Suskins hems and haws and\u2014it seems\u2014doesn\u2019t know their names. No really, that\u2019s what Farris tells us:<\/p>\n
\u201c\u2026because you seem intent on knowing the names of our associates, well, no, Melissa, why don\u2019t you tell Mr. Stone which associates are here this morning?\u201d<\/p>\n
Cooper noticed a slight reddening of embarrassment on the cheeks of one of the young female lawyers on Suskins\u2019 right. He suspected that the senior partner didn\u2019t know their names well enough to introduce them.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n
I\u2019m assuming we\u2019re supposed to think only worse of Suskins now. Personally, I\u2019m annoyed with Cooper. When Suskins was pushing him to start the deposition quickly, he should have stated directly that he\u2019d like to have everyone in the room introduced. He didn\u2019t. Instead, he headed in, and went passive aggressive.<\/p>\n
And so we\u2019re introduced to Nicholas Drake, Sarah Henderson, Tracy Thornton, Mason Higgins, and Christina Cooke, none of whom, if I remember correctly, matter at all to the rest of the book.<\/p>\n
But you\u2019re probably thinking that this is very boring. You\u2019re right. It is very boring. You\u2019re in luck! Farris does not detail the depositions themselves. He doesn\u2019t even say what Cooper asked. Not a word. He only says that they were very well coached\u2014perfectly<\/em> coached\u2014and then, once Cooper is gone, he reveals that someone<\/em> fed Cooper\u2019s questions to them in advance. VanLundingham is all wink wink nod nod<\/em>\u00a0about it.<\/p>\n\u201cYou both did very well,\u201d the attorney [VanLundingham] said with a knowing smile. \u201cSo well, one would think that you had been given the questions in advance.\u201d<\/p>\n
Nora looked nervously at Dr. Easler and then back at her.<\/p>\n
\u201cRest easy, Ms. Stoddard,\u201d Melissa replied. \u201cNo one knows.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cToo bad Mr. Stone is on the other side,\u201d Dr. Easler intervened. \u201cI kind of like the way he looks and conducts himself.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cWell, I\u2019ll leave that observation alone,\u201d the lawyer replied. \u201cBut I do agree that he was well prepared and ad-libbed quite professionally form his script on a few occasions. He is not a bad lawyer for a small-town, small-office practitioner.\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n
Farris started out as a small-town, small-office practitioner, yes? If so, passages like these read like what Farris hopes people saying about him\u2014a good, upstanding, Christian lawyer, an underdog fighting the big, wealthy well-connected bad guys while maintaining upstanding morals\u2014when he was out of earshot.<\/p>\n
Scene change!<\/p>\n
That evening, after the depositions, Cooper goes to Rick and Deanna\u2019s house to debrief then and the Garvises on the state of the case, and to prepare them for their own depositions the next day. Laura the-ambiguously-taken-Sunday-school-teacher is there too, of course. We\u2019ll get to that in a moment.<\/p>\n
Cooper starts with a conversation outside with Rick, who is worried about money and \u201cafraid for our country.\u201d He\u2019s scared\u2014really<\/em> scared\u2014but he doesn\u2019t want the womenfolk to know, of course.<\/p>\n\u201cI don\u2019t want Deanna to hear how I am feeling,\u201d Rick answered quickly. \u201cI have to be strong in front of her. She is so afraid and angry that she is about to lose any semblance of rational control. So please don\u2019t go anywhere with these comments from me. If others raise their own fears, so be it. But I am going to pretend not to be bothered. I just wanted you to know that, in reality, I am scared to death. OK?\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n
Cool. Great plan!<\/p>\n
I mean, so much for being able to confide in your partner. And he\u2019s not even giving Deanna the opportunity to support him here, because he\u2019s hiding how he\u2019s feeling from her completely.<\/p>\n
Deanna Troi<\/em> would have some things to say about this.<\/p>\nIn my own experience, I\u2019ve found that fear doesn\u2019t always feed off of fear, or anxiety off of anxiety. Sometimes, learning that a thing is really upsetting my partner too goads me to work through my own worry more productively. And sometimes, when I\u2019m really worried about something, learning that my partner is worried too lets me know that he understands how I feel\u2014that I don\u2019t have to keep verbalizing everything in an effort to explain my worry, that we can simply be a team, together\u2014and knowing this helps.<\/p>\n
Rick isn\u2019t even giving Deanna a chance<\/em> at any of this. In some sense, he\u2019s setting her up<\/em> to continue obsessively freaking out. She is given no opportunity too channel her energy into supporting him, because she doesn\u2019t know he\u2019s upset. She\u2019s given extra incentive to continue verbalizing her fears, because she thinks he doesn\u2019t understand them (given that he is claiming not to be bothered by the case).<\/p>\nAnd I\u2019m going to stop here, because I am not a psychologist, but I get the feeling there\u2019s a lot going on here that is gendered and would be fascinating to explore. There\u2019s an interesting relationship going on here between gender and coping within relationships in high-stress environments.<\/p>\n
As the evening winds down, Cooper steps outside. Laura follows him.<\/p>\n
\u201cCooper?\u201d He turned around to see Laura facing him on the darkened porch.<\/p>\n
\u201cYes, Laura,\u201d he replied, feeling suddenly energetic again.<\/p>\n
\u201cI just want to tell you that I really admire what you are doing for these families,\u201d she said softly.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n
Cooper says it\u2019s nothing\u2014he\u2019s just doing what any lawyer would do. Laura says that\u2019s not true. This is one problem with affecting modesty, whether real or not\u2014it puts others in a position of having to insist that no, really<\/em>, what you\u2019re doing really is amazing\u2014thus amplifying their praise. A simple thank-you would suffice.<\/p>\nAfter they go back and forth on this for a while, things move in a more \u2026 intimate \u2026 direction.<\/p>\n
Laura smiled and looked at Cooper with an expression that was totally unguarded. Cooper began to lose the battle with his arms, which ached to reach out and bring her into his embrace.\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n
He starts to embrace her. She freaks out. He drops his arms and feels like crap. How fun! So then they start talking about Terry Pipkin, Laura\u2019s boyfriend. Cooper wants to know if they\u2019re engaged.<\/p>\n
Smooth, Cooper.<\/p>\n
\u201cNo, not really,\u201d Laura said, shaking her head. \u201cOh, we\u2019ve talked about marriage since we were sixteen or seventy, but he has never really asked me to marry him.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cIs he waiting on something in particular?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cI wish I knew.\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n
Laura explains that at first they were waiting for him to finish college, but he kept switching majors and taking time off for missions work, so he graduated late. As a result, this is the end of his first year in his chosen career field\u2014he\u2019s an American history teacher at a local high school. The problem is that he wants to earn more than Laura before they get married, and she\u2019s got three years of teaching on him.<\/p>\n
Can we pause and appreciate the fact that Laura is an elementary school teacher while Terry is a high school teacher? Okay, enough time spent on that.<\/p>\n
Cooper asks Laura if she still wants to marry Terry. This is a rather intimate conversation for people who haven\u2019t known each other for very long, and that only in a professional capacity. But then, these sorts of conversations are sometimes best held with someone with more distance from a situation anyway.<\/p>\n
So, does she want to marry Terry? Sort of?<\/p>\n
\u201cIt\u2019s just that I gave him my heart so many years ago that I don\u2019t even know how to think in any other ways. So, yes, I have wanted to marry him for years and I still do. In fact, I feel really guilty every time I\u2019m with you.\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n
At this point, Rick comes out and interrupts their conversation.<\/p>\n
Farris published this book in 2002. He published his previous book, Anonymous Tip, in 1996. Josh Harris published\u00a0I Kissed Dating Goodbye\u00a0<\/em>in 1997. Much changed in six short years.<\/p>\nTo a certain extent, the love story Farris narrates in this book is actually a critique of Harris\u2019 teachings. In some ways, it\u2019s a surprisingly direct<\/em> critique. In other ways, it could be read as a critique of the way some leaders in the homeschool community interpreted Harris\u2019 work, and not Harris\u2019 work itself.<\/p>\nTo understand what is going on here, it is perhaps important to note that Farris is included in Harris\u2019 book. Harris\u2019 father, Greg Harris, knew Farris. They all swam in the same pool, as early Christian homeschool leaders. Josh Harris included a story about Farris\u2014or, in particular, how Farris handled his teenage daughter\u2019s love affair with a fellow homeschool student\u2014in his book.<\/p>\n
In the story, Farris\u2019 daughter Christy was romantically engaged with another homeschooled teen she knew while in high school. Farris did not approve\u2014he felt they were too young. He ordered the two to break it off and forbade contact between them well into college. Ultimately, the two got back together, but only after Farris gave his blessing, deciding that they were old enough and mature enough to pursue a relationship.<\/p>\n
Farris appears to have something against early relationships. In this book\u2014as we\u2019ll see as the story continues\u2014the message he sends is that staying with a guy you don\u2019t fit with because you got together when you were too young isn\u2019t worth it, even if leaving means you come into a new relationship with a prior.<\/p>\n
This perhaps isn\u2019t surprising\u2014in his first book, dashing lawyer Peter marries Gwen, a divorce. The problem in that case was that she had divorced for unbiblical reasons and her ex was still alive. The fact that having been married before would mean she\u2019d already \u201cgiven away a piece of her heart\u201d never comes up.<\/p>\n
Reading between the lines, Farris doesn\u2019t seem to be all that sold on the idea of emotional purity, a concept that was promoted heavily in Harris\u2019 book and took the evangelical homeschool world by storm.<\/p>\n
Rick can see what\u2019s going on between Cooper and Laura. He and Cooper talk money\u2014Cooper suggests that they may want to reach out to Concerned Women for America for funding\u2014and Rick jokingly asks how much Cooper would charge \u201cif I could clear a path for you and Laura.\u201d \u201cA buck and a half,\u201d Cooper responds.<\/p>\n
And that\u2019s the end of chapter 8.<\/p>\n
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