\u2013 Boys only think of sex. Always. No boy ever likes you, they just want to have sex with you. Don\u2019t be fooled into thinking anything else. You cannot trust them. They\u2019ll do and say anything they have to to get you into bed.<\/p>\n
\u2026<\/p>\n
\u2013 One day, someone will marry you, but only if you\u2019re untouched. Nobody wants something broken, and girls who have had sex are completely broken and worthless. Didn\u2019t you read the car thing above? Marriage is just the price men pay for the privilege of tearing through your hymen, and if yours is already broken, well, you\u2019re a worthless slut and can\u2019t expect anyone to treat you with respect.<\/p>\n
\u2013 COVER THAT BODY. Seriously. What is wrong with you? If you wear stuff like that and someone fucks you and dumps you, don\u2019t come crying and complain that I didn\u2019t say so. Boys value girls who wear lots of clothes and no slutty make-up. You know, because of the mystery and the way the girls respect themselves. \u201cIf you dress like a piece of meat, you\u2019re gonna get thrown on the BBQ.\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n
Yes, yes, and YES. These are the same messages I and so many other girls growing up in the purity culture\u00a0received\u00a0almost daily. And then there is this particularly beautiful part, something I also experienced as well:<\/p>\n
I only realized how much all of this was still part of me when I slept with my boyfriend for the first time. I trusted him, and I believed that he really liked me (not just my body) and wanted to be together with me.Yet in the weeks afterwards, I felt like a burden had been lifted from me \u2013 we had done it, and he hadn\u2019t left me. He was still at my side, as sweet and loving as ever, treated me with no less respect than before and showed no sign of waning interest now that he had \u201cexplored the mystery\u201d (yes, you may thank me for this new euphemism).<\/p><\/blockquote>\n
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