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I Don\u2019t Own My Child\u2019s Body<\/a>, on CNN<\/p>\n

\u201cWhen we force children to submit to unwanted affection in order not to offend a relative or hurt a friend\u2019s feelings, we teach them that their bodies do not really belong to them because they have to push aside their own feelings about what feels right to them,\u201d said Irene van der Zande, co-founder and executive director of\u00a0Kidpower Teenpower Fullpower International<\/a>, a nonprofit specializing in teaching personal safety and violence prevention. \u201cThis leads to children getting sexually abused, teen girls submitting to sexual behavior so \u2018he\u2019ll like me\u2019 and kids enduring bullying because everyone is \u2018having fun.\u2019 \u201c<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Happiness Isn\u2019t the Only Acceptable Emotion<\/a>, by Dulce<\/p>\n

After years of refusing to let my children cry it out, though, I realized that I was falling into my own version of seeing happiness as the only acceptable emotion.\u00a0 I didn\u2019t want them to cry or be upset, and I felt as though\u00a0allowing<\/em> them to cry was wrong somehow.\u00a0 I wanted them to be happy all the time.\u00a0 It was so ingrained that I began to inadvertently communicate the idea to them that they *had* to be happy, even when that was unrealistic and inauthentic.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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