\u201cOnce upon a time, there was a girl who was pure, virtuous, an angel in a white dress, and most importantly, a virgin. Then, one day, she met a boy and fell in love. Although the girl was committed to remaining pure, the boy kept pressuring her for more than she was willing to give. Using lies and manipulation, he convinced her to come into his bed. The girl feels dirty and worthless. Her purity gone. But then she begs Jesus for forgiveness from her sin. She no longer has her virginity, but once she is forgiven she can be pure in God\u2019s eyes again.\u201d<\/p>\n
You\u2019ve heard this story before. It\u2019s far from original. Our society, and especially Christian culture,\u00a0loves <\/em>this narrative. It\u2019s on sitcoms, and in sermons, and in abstinence-only\u00a0curriculum. We hear it from our mothers and from our friends.\u00a0And many of us have lived it.<\/p>\n\u2026<\/p>\n
This story needs a new moral. One about what consent looks like and what healthy, consensual sex is. One about holding abusers accountable and about assuring victims that they do not need to feel at fault. One where goodness does not equal virginity. Where women are complex, sexual human beings who can have a sex drive (unless they are one of the 1 in 100 adults who are asexual) and still say \u201cNo,\u201d rather than glowing angels of light who would never even dream of wanting sex.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n
Trust me, my daughter will learn this story with a new and different moral. From me, at least. Unfortunately, I can\u2019t change what society will tell her.<\/p>\n
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