What are the qualities we generally associate with maturity? The ability to see things from others\u2019 perspectives? The ability to accept that the world doesn\u2019t revolve around you, and that things don\u2019t always go the way you want them to, and that you just have to deal with that?\u00a0The ability to cooperate with others, to communicate and find compromises that everyone can be happy with?<\/p>\n
Yeah, under Christian Patriarchy, a man doesn\u2019t have to do any of that. Because he\u2019s the head of the family, dammit!<\/p>\n
What he says goes! God speaks to him, <\/em>after all,\u00a0and everyone else should listen and heed what God tells him! He\u2019s the one who gets to make the decisions for the family, and for the children! Period!\u00a0In other words, a man is allowed to act like a willful, spoiled child who always expects to get his own way. And if he doesn\u2019t get his own way? Expect a reaction of confusion mixed with anger and righteous indignation.<\/p>\n It\u2019s incredibly ironic that the movement insists on training any sort of willfulness out of children completely, but turns around and fosters it in its men.\u00a0The truth is that in Christian Patriarchy men are allowed to act like spoiled children while women and children are expected to just roll over and acquiesce.<\/p>\n While not every man following the teachings of Christian Patriarchy will respond in the same way \u2013 there is a good deal of variation based on personality \u2013 these teachings, quite simply, are the perfect recipe for amplifying every bit of willfulness, selfishness, and inability to compromise a man might have. They amplifying all of a man\u2019s bad qualities, and the more of these qualities a man has to start with the worse the amplification will be. A man whose tendency toward wanting his own way might have been balanced by an assertive wife will suddenly morph into a micromanaging dictator.<\/p>\n And the worst part is that there is no check on this.<\/p>\n If a woman goes to her pastor and complains that her husband is being an unreasonable dictator, she will be told that it\u2019s her role to submit even if her husband seems unreasonable. In fact, in some cases this is what she will be told even if she goes to her parents for help.<\/p>\n By telling men that they are to be in charge and make the final decisions, and that God has mandated that their wives must submit and follow their lead, Christian Patriarchy creates a situation where men have no need to communicate, cooperate, or compromise. Or, you know, grow up.<\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" What are the qualities we generally associate with maturity? The ability to see things from others\u2019 perspectives? The ability to accept that the world doesn\u2019t revolve around you, and that things don\u2019t always go the way you want them to, and that you just have to deal with that?\u00a0The ability to cooperate with others, to […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":845,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[25],"tags":[124,125,106,114],"class_list":["post-6361","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-christian-patriarchy","tag-conformity","tag-control","tag-marriage-2","tag-sexism"],"yoast_head":"\n