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At\u00a0Medium<\/em>, YA\u00a0author\u00a0Sara Zarr writes about\u00a0learning to acknowledge one\u2019s own woundedness:<\/p>\n

For the last year I\u2019ve been sporadically part of a twelve-step group for adult children of alcoholics. We\u2019re all different but the same\u2014unique stories and past experiences, current symptoms in common. We\u2019re addicts and codependents and perfectionists and procrastinators and controllers and balls of anxiety and need.<\/p>\n

When I go there, when I read the materials during the week and write in my journal, when I ponder the behavior and pain of my adult life I realize how distorted my sense of self became after getting off to a dysfunctional start in childhood, in a home of generational addiction and codependence. It can be shocking, how much I still need to do to keep working my way toward emotional health.<\/p>\n

My sporadic attendance is not only due to the fact that the meeting is on the same night as\u00a0MasterChef<\/em>; it\u2019s also because it\u2019s hard. Sometimes I just don\u2019t want to think about it that much, I don\u2019t want to \u201cwork the steps.\u201d This kind of recovery project can feel like it\u2019s taking over your life. It\u2019s certainly taken me off my planned trajectory. It\u2019s affected my work. (I realized halfway into writing my current book that I\u2019m writing about these issues through my characters\u2014duh<\/em>\u2014and it\u2019s slowed me down, way down, causing me to miss a deadline for the first time in my seven-year career.)<\/p>\n

Read the whole thing here.<\/a><\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"