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So, yesterday I came across this blog post<\/a> about Katie Holmes<\/a> and an apparently\u00a0 \u201coverheard\u201d conversation (I can\u2019t find the link, by the way) regarding her (and Tom\u2019s?) decision to try for baby number two. Her reason for the second baby? \u201cSuri would love a brother or sister to play with. I think it would be good for her. It\u2019s hard to say no to her.\u201d<\/p>\n

First, I\u2019ll say this: Poor Katie. If all my overheard conversations with girlfriends were repeated and dissected on blog posts, I would look like the worst mother of all time. But, having said that, I can\u2019t help but feel fascinated with her line of reasoning.<\/p>\n

Jeanne Sager<\/a>\u2019s post on The Stir<\/em><\/a> is ruthless in its dissection of Holmes\u2019 reasoning. Sager hates the \u201cmy child wants a sibling\u201d approach to parenthood that she believes way too many families are taking these days.<\/p>\n

She wants to know why in the world parents would consider the idea of having another baby as \u201cgiving\u201d a sibling to a child. I\u2019ll quote:<\/p>\n

\u201cOur kids don\u2019t carry our babies. They don\u2019t breastfeed them. Or get up in the middle of the night with them, pay for their diapers and shoes and college. They don\u2019t bear the emotional burden of raising their siblings to adulthood. In short, they have nothing to do with the important issues upon which a decision to have a child<\/strong> are based.\u201d<\/p>\n

I can get behind what Sager is saying here. Obviously, I\u2019m not a fan of giving children everything they ask for. And I\u2019ve got serious issues with someone who would make massive life decisions based on an inability to say no to a child.<\/p>\n

But here\u2019s my question: Is it that crazy to take into account that a sibling would be really wonderful for your child? I\u2019m having a second child for several reasons, but one of them is that I love my brothers and I love the experience I had growing up with siblings. My husband would say the same. I love the idea of a house full of noise and messy teenage boys. I love the thought of my boys learning how to be compassionate, caring men because they\u2019ve been forced into sharing and playing together and interacting with one another constantly. I love the thought of my boys stuck sharing a room and whispering to each other from bunk beds in the dark at bedtime.<\/p>\n

So, I can\u2019t say that our love and dreams for August had nothing to do with our decision to go for baby number two. August was already a part of our future. Of course he affected our life decision in that way. But having another child is far more than simply offering your first a playmate. And if it\u2019s a result of your toddler\u2019s demands, you\u2019ve got troubles.<\/p>\n

All that to say, will you read the post<\/a> then let me know what you think? What\u2019s a legit reason? What\u2019s not? And do you still think Katie Holmes is the cutest ever<\/a>? Because, come on, she kind of is.<\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"