October 21, 2024

Navigating relationships with emotionally immature people can feel like a rollercoaster ride, whether it’s with a parent, partner, or a close friend. I’ve realized that recognizing the signs of emotional immaturity—like when someone can’t respect boundaries, is emotionally unavailable, or always centers conversations around themselves—helps me understand why some interactions leave me feeling drained. It’s tough because my feelings often go unacknowledged, which can lead to a deep sense of invalidation. But here’s the good news: healing from these experiences... Read more

October 20, 2024

I want to dive into a topic that many of us have probably encountered in our relationships: emotional immaturity. This can make it tough to build meaningful connections with others, whether it’s with a partner, a friend, or even with ourselves. Emotional immaturity can manifest in different ways, and it can be helpful to recognize these patterns. I want to focus on three key qualities that can often signal emotional immaturity: emotional unavailability, trouble with boundaries, and difficulty being vulnerable.... Read more

October 20, 2024

Self-worth is all about having an internal sense that you are enough, that you are whole, and that you aren’t missing anything. This is different from the fleeting, external validation that might come from a compliment, an achievement, or praise. What’s powerful about true self-worth is that it’s unconditional; it’s not something that can be taken away by any event or person. It’s about knowing that, at your core, you are inherently valuable simply because you exist. When we think... Read more

August 28, 2024

So, I recently gave a talk on mindfulness, and at the end, I was hit with this tricky question about how to step away from your thinking. Honestly, I was a bit caught off guard. I mean, this is something people spend years learning through meditation and retreats, so trying to cover it in a short Q&A seemed nearly impossible. To break it down, I decided to record an episode explaining my approach. First off, it’s crucial to recognize when... Read more

August 28, 2024

Somatic healing might sound like a buzzword to some of us, but it’s actually a pretty cool approach to dealing with trauma. It focuses on healing from the bottom up, meaning it starts with soothing the body and nervous system rather than just talking through problems. You might have heard of top-down methods like cognitive behavioral therapy, where we try to change our thinking to feel better physically. Somatic healing, on the other hand, works by addressing physical sensations and... Read more

May 15, 2024

  A technique I use with my couples during coaching sessions is called CARE. “C” is for checking in. “A “is for awareness, “R” is for reflection, and “E” is for empathy or validation. Checking in is noticing that your partner is feeling a little off. You can check in with them, “How are you doing?” Awareness is being aware of what’s going on within yourself. For example, devaluing thinking about the other person. Or perhaps, putting pressure on yourself.... Read more

May 15, 2024

I invite you to think about all the people in the world. And there’s a certain number of people who have anxiety. Then, out of those people, there’s a certain number of people who have anxiety because of shame or self-devaluing. And then within that group of people, there are those who believe their accomplishments didn’t happen because of their own knowledge and their own skill, but happened because of luck or fate, something that is out of their control.... Read more

March 31, 2024

I challenged myself to meditate for 60 minutes a day, every single day, for as long as I could. And I did that for nine months, and it absolutely changed my life. Afterwards I was operating from a completely different place. Much more focused, centered, I had more gratitude, and more feeling of sense of support in my life. One of my biggest challenges in getting myself on the cushion to meditation is doubt that It will help, doubt that... Read more

March 31, 2024

When we sit with fear or insecurity in a healthy way, we liberate ourselves from the discomfort. It is amazing. This does not mean that you’ll never feel the discomfort that comes from the fear, again, but it means it won’t affect you in the same way. It doesn’t have as much power over you. We let go of thinking things such as, “This discomfort means that there’s something wrong with me.” Or “This discomfort means that something bad is... Read more

February 18, 2024

What are you motivating yourself to do in 2024? And how do you see that working out for you? The opposite to motivation is procrastination.  I’ve read recently in the Journal of Behavioral Medicine procrastination can cause headaches. digestive issues, colds, insomnia, hypertension and is linked to cardiovascular disease. Another interesting fact about procrastination is, in a twin study, it was found that it is 46 percent hereditary. The information out there about overcoming procrastination is geared towards decreasing the... Read more




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