{"id":3250,"date":"2015-08-26T11:13:25","date_gmt":"2015-08-26T16:13:25","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/admin.patheos.com\/blogs\/moniqueocampowrites\/?p=3250"},"modified":"2015-08-26T12:11:56","modified_gmt":"2015-08-26T17:11:56","slug":"anxiety-avoidance-issues-and-the-beauty-of-reconciliation","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/moniqueocampowrites\/2015\/08\/26\/anxiety-avoidance-issues-and-the-beauty-of-reconciliation\/","title":{"rendered":"Anxiety, Avoidance Issues, and the Beauty of Reconciliation"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<\/head>

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<\/iframe><script src=\"\/\/storify.com\/AMoniqueOcampo\/anxiety-and-avoidance-issues.js?header=false&border=false\"><\/script><noscript>[<a href=\"\/\/storify.com\/AMoniqueOcampo\/anxiety-and-avoidance-issues\" target=\"_blank\" class=\" decorated-link\">View the story \u201cAnxiety and Avoidance Issues\u201d on Storify<\/a>]<\/noscript><\/div>\n<p>Jasmin Marsters is the wife of James Marsters AKA Spike on\u00a0<em>Buffy<\/em>. She\u2019s an actress\/model\/musician who also does some writing and production for independent films. I like what she shares on her Twitter and Instagram, even though we may not always agree.<\/p>\n<p>My avoidance issue had to do with the fact that when I was having a mini-meltdown, I did everything but turn to God. It wasn\u2019t until I put pen to paper and wrote a letter to God that the anxiety finally left me. I often try to avoid my negative feelings and said avoidance only makes things worse. What happened to me reminded me that in good times and in bad, I have to turn to Him for help.<\/p>\n<p>I also feel like what Jasmin\u00a0said relates to the nature of how we react to our problems as well. Granted, there are some things that need to be avoided. There are things we aren\u2019t ready to face yet. However, there\u2019s also a time where we need to act like the bigger person and act kind towards someone we may not feel deserve it. It also applies to when we put off little things like doing the laundry or paying the bills. The problem won\u2019t go away if you keep avoiding it. When it comes to being a person of faith, avoiding the things we struggle with isn\u2019t going to help us.<\/p>\n<p>One thing I love about being Catholic is the Sacrament of Reconciliation also known as Confession or Penance. Despite what some people may think about what Confession is, the truth\u00a0is that Confession is there to help us face the problems we face. \u00a0Confession isn\u2019t a \u201cCatholic guilt\u201d thing. It\u2019s more of a reality check. We often have problems in our lives that feel out of our hands, so we ask people for help. Confession deals with the interior issues that we have to work on in order to become better people. \u00a0Matthew Kelly compares it to cleaning your car while Rachel and Kateri compared it to cleaning your room.<\/p>\n<p>1 Corinthians 6:19 says \u201cD<span style=\"color: #000000;\">o you not know that your body is a temple\u00a0<\/span><span style=\"color: #000000;\">of the Holy Spirit within you, which you have from God, and that you are not your own?\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p>When we go to Confession, we clean out the temples of our souls. We learn humility and receive grace and healing. 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