{"id":2688,"date":"2018-01-23T00:29:03","date_gmt":"2018-01-23T05:29:03","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/admin.patheos.com\/blogs\/mormontherapist\/?p=2688"},"modified":"2018-01-24T17:23:28","modified_gmt":"2018-01-24T22:23:28","slug":"notes-of-intimacy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/mormontherapist\/2018\/01\/notes-of-intimacy.html","title":{"rendered":"Notes of Intimacy"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<\/head>

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I am always amazed at the work people are willing to do within the walls of my office. I especially love when couples come equipped to better their sex lives within the constructs of their experiences, their values, their hopes and their desires within their marriage. This takes extreme amounts of vulnerability, risk-taking and communication within a space that we take great efforts in making safe for each partner. From time to time I\u2019ll share an example of the types of work people do in hopes that it will motivate many of you readers to prioritize this important part of your lives and also give you ideas as to how to move forward in sex-positive ways.<\/p>\n

The following excerpt came from a writing assignment I gave to an LDS woman who is trying to be more present in regards to her body\u2019s arousal and desire responses. She felt like she had a lot of baggage getting in the way of being able to enjoy her husband and their sex life together. After several months of working together, this is what she came up with \u2013 which is phenomenal. This is relational and spiritual work in my book. I have permission to share this anonymously.<\/p>\n

Thinking of your breath behind me\u2026 on my neck\u2026 as you pull me closer\u2026<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

Thinking of your hands lightly brushing over my breasts\u2026 as you pull me closer\u2026\u00a0<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

And my nipples cannot help but react\u2026 and tighten\u2026 into pointed targets of pure pleasure\u2026<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

And then my core awakens\u2026 and reacts as well\u2026<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

My insides melting\u2026 and aching.. and complaining of the emptiness present\u2026<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

Wherein then my hips react\u2026 with movement.. circular movements\u2026 meant to draw you closer\u2026 with the effect of my backside arching up to meet you\u2026 meant to arouse you\u2026<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

And then feeling your arousal up against me\u2026\u00a0<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

Mmmmm\u2026. and the wetness that follows\u2026 prepared to meet you.. to let you\u2026\u00a0<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

All from a simple brush of your hand.<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

Please remember that this is one woman\u2019s experience. It is hers and not meant to be anyone else\u2019s. Your own work would look different and unique according to you. Please don\u2019t ever share anything like this to shame a spouse in regards to their own sexual journey.<\/p>\n

Natasha Helfer Parker, LCMFT, CST can be reached at\u00a0natashaparker.org<\/a>\u00a0and\u00a0runs an online practice,\u00a0Symmetry Solutions<\/em><\/a>, which focuses on helping families and individuals with faith concerns, sexuality and mental health. She hosts the\u00a0Mormon Mental Health<\/a>\u00a0and\u00a0Mormon Sex Info<\/a>\u00a0Podcasts, writes a regular column for\u00a0Sunstone Magazine<\/a>,\u00a0is the current president of the\u00a0Mormon Mental Health Association<\/a>\u00a0and runs a sex education program, Sex Talk with Natasha<\/a>. She has over 20 years of experience working with primarily an LDS\/Mormon clientele.<\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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