{"id":3894,"date":"2018-12-14T10:00:19","date_gmt":"2018-12-14T15:00:19","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/admin.patheos.com\/blogs\/mormontherapist\/?p=3894"},"modified":"2018-12-13T23:36:46","modified_gmt":"2018-12-14T04:36:46","slug":"witnessing-for-our-kiwi-mormon-page-4","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/mormontherapist\/2018\/12\/witnessing-for-our-kiwi-mormon-page-4.html","title":{"rendered":"Witnessing for Our Kiwi Mormon &#8211; Page 4"},"content":{"rendered":"<!DOCTYPE html PUBLIC \"-\/\/W3C\/\/DTD HTML 4.0 Transitional\/\/EN\" \"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/TR\/REC-html40\/loose.dtd\">\n<html><head><meta http-equiv=\"content-type\" content=\"text\/html; charset=utf-8\"><meta http-equiv=\"content-type\" content=\"text\/html; charset=utf-8\"><\/head><body><div dir=\"auto\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignright size-medium wp-image-3885\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-media.patheos.com\/blogs\/sites\/153\/2018\/12\/16142565_10208856387903211_6182886108978802473_n-300x225.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"225\">Continued\u2026<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">The following are the \u201cwitnesses\u201d that have been written in behalf of Gina Colvin, who is being summoned to a disciplinary court on December 20, 2018. If you\u2019re interested in submitting a witness\u2026 please share with me at nhelferparker@gmail.com. I will continue to update\u2026 or create further posts as I receive them. I will keep blog posts to about 1500 words\u2026 that\u2019s why there will be more than one \u201cpage.\u201d<\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\"><\/div>\n<p dir=\"ltr\"><span style=\"color: #666699;\">Dear Bishop Shaw and President Ormsby,<\/span><\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\"><span style=\"color: #666699;\">I am writing to stand as a witness on behalf of my friend, Gina Colvin and her family. I met Gina in person for the first time in 2015. She agreed to meet with my family and me for brekkie (and taught me the word \u201cbrekkie\u201d) knowing nothing about us other than we were bound together by <a href='https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/library\/mormonism' target='_blank'>Mormonism<\/a>. Gina did not know that I had spent my entire life as a faithful member of the Church and was reeling from the recent excommunication of my husband. \u00a0I was hoping to spare our family the incredible shame and hurt that came from knowing a group of men, most of whom were friends and neighbors, chose to \u201cex\u201d my husband from our tight knit \u201ccommunity\u201d, despite my pleas that I could see the harm it would cause to him, my children, and me. My ward felt like my family. Being told that my husband was not allowed to participate in a discussion, a prayer, or even accompany me as I sang in a sacrament meeting was devastating. Even after his excommunication, I attempted to attend with my children, and with the loving support of my husband. However, the church no longer felt like home to me. A family does not excommunicate its members. In those excruciating months and years when I was trying to navigate the pain and devastation I felt from my husband\u2019s excommunication and still acknowledge the love and good I had learned from the Church, Gina\u2019s way of seeing Mormonism was so important to me. I was so grateful for the way she ministered to those of us on the borders \u2013 those of us who knew the history, were aware of the messiness, had felt the pain, yet found incredible love and support among the community. I am aware that the way Gina ministers makes the core of the church uncomfortable, but for those of us on the borders, she is so vital. Please prayerfully consider my perspective as you move forward. And consider what this means to Nathan. Please.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #666699;\">Did not want to share name publicly for confidential reasons.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #0000ff;\">My name is Brent Searle. I live in Idaho, a very conservative corner of it, and I\u2019ll claim the pathway of nuance and uncertainty, doubt and faith, repulsion and love of the LDS theology, history, and doctrine. Lifelong member, etc., etc.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #0000ff;\">Dr. Gina Colvin, Sister Colvin, or Gina, whatever is preferred, has garnered my attention and appreciation more than once over the past several years. I appreciate her voice for native peoples, the downtrodden, voices that are unvoiced. She is so articulate, and just gets to the heart of matters. Acknowledging her affiliation with another faith, we must also acknowledge that Joseph Smith joined another faith just prior to his forming the Church of Jesus Christ; later adding \u201cof Latter-day Saints\u201d, among other titles. Religion is messy. There are few black and white lines. Gina has helped so many in and out of the LDS faith. She has held to the fire the feet of those who hold authority and power, and how they wield it. For this, she is pronounced unfit to belong as a member to that body by those who wield the power. So sad. We need more voices like hers, not less. She, like many others in recent years, has voiced uncomfortable truths. She has spoken truth to power. And for this she is shushed, told to quiet down, to back off, to be more diplomatic. And, dear Gina, cannot hold her tongue. She speaks truth and it hits cords of discontent and she is shunned as is custom of those in power to punish those that dare raise uncomfortable, even ugly, issues. To me, Gina is brave; remarkably so. She is honest; uncomfortably so. She is brilliant; unappreciatedly so. I give her my thanks and appreciation for helping me and so many others along paths of uncertainty, unfamiliarity, and dissonance. Thanks Sis. Colvin! God bless.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #666699;\">As I encountered troubling information about the church, A Thoughtful Faith and Gina Colvin gave me the soft landing, emotional outlet to talk and be comforted by others who were facing the same and actually gave me reasons to remain positively engaged with the church. While she is outspoken about thorny topics and speaks the hard truth, I can think of no more passionate shepherd to thousands of struggling <a href='https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/library\/mormonism' target='_blank'>Mormons<\/a>. Her excommunication would send a very negative message to many many thousands of Mormons who are hanging on despite feeling lied to or even betrayed by the church. Rather than excommunication, I recommend a strong listening session, a mourning session with Gina on behalf of everyone else who has and is suffering the trauma the church has created by inaccurately portraying its history. This would send a much more positive message that the church has compassion and is willing to engage with members who have been placed on the fringes by changing policies, doctrines and history.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #666699;\">Larry Daugherty<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #0000ff;\">During my last two years of activity in the church it was finding women like Gina who gave me a sense of, if she can carve out a space and be in the church so can I. This woman is fire, and a spiritual powerhouse. Listening to her expound scripture and explore ideas around the feminine divine woke me up to a deeper sense of my own spirituality. She inspired confidence in me to explore my own faith in a more meaningful way. She was the female role model I looked for but could never find in church leadership. Silencing a voice such as Gina\u2019s sends a clear message of get in line, bow your head and say yes regardless of whether it aligns with your morality or there\u2019s the door.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #0000ff;\">Ashley Ruttan<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #666699;\">All I can say is that Gina has been a source of light and faith in my life.\u00a0 She does have a critical mind, and she uses it sometimes to offer a critique of the practices of church leaders.\u00a0 But every such offering has been, in my honest judgment, truly constructive and thought-provoking.\u00a0 Undoubtedly, as well, Gina holds views that are unorthodox.\u00a0 I am not sure that as a bishopric member\u2013which I was for five years\u2013I would have been prompted to call her to teach Gospel Doctrine in Sunday School.\u00a0 But Paul is still right, that we all bring different gifts to a common enterprise.\u00a0 Do know that I love Gina and consider her and her views as most welcome ingredients in my life.\u00a0 Whatever this council does, that will not change.\u00a0 If we adopt a doctrinal litmus test when considering who retains their membership, we will lose too many good people.\u00a0 Please think long and hard about this decision.<\/span><\/p>\n<div class=\"gmail_signature\" dir=\"ltr\" data-smartmail=\"gmail_signature\">\n<div dir=\"ltr\"><span style=\"color: #666699;\">Thomas B. McAffee<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Natasha Helfer Parker, LCMFT, CST can be reached at\u00a0<a class=\"ext-link decorated-link decorated-link\" title=\"\" href=\"http:\/\/www.natashaparker.org\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" data-wpel-target=\"_blank\" target=\"_blank\">natashaparker.org<\/a>\u00a0and\u00a0runs an online practice,\u00a0<a class=\"ext-link decorated-link decorated-link\" title=\"\" href=\"http:\/\/www.symmetrysols.com\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" data-wpel-target=\"_blank\" target=\"_blank\"><em>Symmetry Solutions<\/em><\/a>, which focuses on helping families and individuals with faith concerns, sexuality and mental health. She hosts the\u00a0<a class=\"ext-link decorated-link decorated-link\" title=\"\" href=\"http:\/\/www.mormonmentalhealth.org\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" data-wpel-target=\"_blank\" target=\"_blank\">Mormon Mental Health<\/a>\u00a0and\u00a0<a class=\"ext-link decorated-link decorated-link\" title=\"\" href=\"http:\/\/www.mormonsexinfo.com\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" data-wpel-target=\"_blank\" target=\"_blank\">Mormon Sex Info<\/a>\u00a0Podcasts,\u00a0is the current president of the\u00a0<a class=\"ext-link decorated-link decorated-link\" title=\"\" href=\"http:\/\/www.mormonmentalhealthassoc.org\/\" rel=\"nofollow\" data-wpel-target=\"_blank\" target=\"_blank\">Mormon Mental Health Association<\/a>\u00a0and runs a sex education program, <a class=\"decorated-link decorated-link\" href=\"https:\/\/www.patreon.com\/sextalkwithnatasha\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow\">Sex Talk with Natasha<\/a>. She has over 20 years of experience working with primarily an LDS\/Mormon clientele.<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">\n<\/p><\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Continued\u2026 The following are the \u201cwitnesses\u201d that have been written in behalf of Gina Colvin, who is being summoned to a disciplinary court on December 20, 2018. If you\u2019re interested in submitting a witness\u2026 please share with me at nhelferparker@gmail.com. I will continue to update\u2026 or create further posts as I receive them. 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