{"id":416,"date":"2009-09-02T09:00:00","date_gmt":"2009-09-02T09:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/mormontherapist\/2009\/09\/regrettably-i-had-sex-before-i-was-married\/"},"modified":"2009-09-02T09:00:00","modified_gmt":"2009-09-02T09:00:00","slug":"regrettably-i-had-sex-before-i-was-married","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/mormontherapist\/2009\/09\/regrettably-i-had-sex-before-i-was-married.html","title":{"rendered":"Regrettably, I had sex before I was married&#8230;"},"content":{"rendered":"<!DOCTYPE html PUBLIC \"-\/\/W3C\/\/DTD HTML 4.0 Transitional\/\/EN\" \"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/TR\/REC-html40\/loose.dtd\">\n<html><head><meta http-equiv=\"content-type\" content=\"text\/html; charset=utf-8\"><meta http-equiv=\"content-type\" content=\"text\/html; charset=utf-8\"><\/head><body><p><span class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-family:Helvetica;font-size:medium\"><span class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-family:'times new roman'\"><span class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size:small\"><span class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"color:#336666\"><span class=\"blsp-spelling-corrected\">Regrettably<\/span>, I had sex before I was married. However, I have never once compared my intimate relationship with my wife to my <span class=\"blsp-spelling-error\">pre<\/span>-marital experiences, not even in my mind.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p>We have still very much discovered the joy of sex together, simply <span class=\"blsp-spelling-corrected\">because<\/span> our emotional closeness is so very different to <span class=\"blsp-spelling-error\">pre<\/span>-marital intimacy, where it was simply a physical act. We have discovered what pleases each other, and our physical relationship is unique to us. We have tried many different things, some only once and others regularly \u2013 but even where those physical acts may have been tried before with another partner, there is still a completely different level of enjoyment and <span class=\"blsp-spelling-corrected\">fulfillment<\/span> that comes in an eternal marriage relationship.<\/p>\n<p>So, to those who worry about being married to someone with more sexual experience, don\u2019t! Your sexual relationship can be yours together, and should be unique to you. <br><\/p>\n<div><span class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-family:'times new roman', fantasy;color:#336666\"><span class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size:small\"><br><\/span><\/span><\/div>\n<div><span class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-family:'times new roman', -webkit-fantasy\"><span class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size:small\">I want to thank you so much for taking the time to share these very personal and helpful feelings!  I hope others follow in your example.  It can be so useful for some to hear exactly these types of sentiments.  And I couldn\u2019t agree with you more with everything you\u2019ve stated.  I hope others can enjoy the success you and your wife seem to have.    <\/span><\/span><\/div>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Regrettably, I had sex before I was married. However, I have never once compared my intimate relationship with my wife to my pre-marital experiences, not even in my mind. 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