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Comment #1:<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/div>\n
If she is comfortable responding, I would be interested to hear what the <\/span><\/span>original poster of the question thinks of this response<\/span><\/span><\/a> and what she decided to do regarding the exercises.\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n

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Comment #2:<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/div>\n
I am the original poster and first of all want to thank Natasha for the effort she puts in to so thoroughly answer our questions.\n

My first concern was the moral view of this and weather it was a necessity to see the bishop for total clearance even in the event that it is intentional (as in trying to exercise again knowing this happens etc.) Between Natasha\u2019s comments and an actual bishop who commented on the FMH site, where I also posted the question, the answer is no \u2013 it is not needed as part of repentance. That was a big relief because I seriously did not want to have this conversation with the bishop or the stake president.<\/p>\n

As for the exercises, the process went as follows. The first few days after it happened, I felt extremely sexually charged all the time what from this event, reading about it, obsessing over it, thinking the wrong things, and very likely the hormonal state I was in \u2013 so much so that probably 2 of those leg lifts would have done it at that point. I decided not to exercise at all last week and just continued reading the comments in order to come to some conclusion.<\/p>\n

When the sexual tension finally went away (which took several days), I started doing the exercises again this week and could get through the whole 5 Tibetan routine without an incident, though continuing on with some additional leg exercises does bring it up again but in a much milder form. It is evident that thoughts, hormones and other factors contribute and so I feel like I have control over it now. I don\u2019t have to avoid the exercises all together, rather be more in tune with my body and cycle and adjust them at those certain times. I was also able to regain my confidence before God, return to the temple and feel like we can resolve this between the two of us. I no longer feel guilty about what happened and I thanked Him for my healthy body.<\/p>\n

It was interesting that you quoted the following, \u201cWhen that happens, usually it\u2019s women who already have very strong pelvic muscles.\u201d Very true. I\u2019ve been on really long transoceanic flights without ever getting up to use the bathroom.<\/p>\n

I can\u2019t speak for others and the psyche with which they view sex. For me it\u2019s more a matter of perfectionism in some areas of life, such as obedience to commandments because I want to make sure I qualify for all the blessings. I feel that I will just as easily (or more easily) embrace the commandment to have sex when I am married as I obey the commandment to not have it now. For me it\u2019s merely an issue of obeying the law rather than having a negative or positive association with a certain action.<\/p>\n

This has been a useful learning experience in many ways. I would never have come across these blogs if it hadn\u2019t happened and now I know I can openly discuss things that may be uncomfortable to discuss in person. Thank you!\u00a0<\/p><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/div>\n


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I\u2019m glad you found this site useful in finding an answer to your question. \u00a0I am also glad that guilt has dissipated for you regarding this situation. \u00a0I am not surprised that as you relaxed, educated yourself and continued to exercise that you also found your body relaxing and responding less intensely. \u00a0My only concern yet is to make sure you do not see this physical reaction your body had from these exercises as \u201csex\u201d or even close to bringing you to the term of being \u201csexually active.\u201d \u00a0I know we are all striving for perfection. \u00a0However, Heavenly Father knows we will never achieve perfection in this lifetime, and yet pours down blessings on us regardless. \u00a0Although an equation does exist (the more we strive to live the gospel, the more we put ourselves in a position to lead blessed lives), it will always be skewed towards Heavenly Father\u2019s side. \u00a0This is what the terms grace and mercy denote. \u00a0We will always receive more than we deserve because we are loved and cherished more than we will ever understand. \u00a0I think you have a lot to look forward to and wish you the very best. \u00a0 \u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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