{"id":4729,"date":"2019-04-17T22:26:46","date_gmt":"2019-04-18T03:26:46","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/admin.patheos.com\/blogs\/mormontherapist\/?p=4729"},"modified":"2019-04-15T22:28:43","modified_gmt":"2019-04-16T03:28:43","slug":"i-am-not-defined-by-the-declaring-or-rescinding-of-policy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/mormontherapist\/2019\/04\/i-am-not-defined-by-the-declaring-or-rescinding-of-policy.html","title":{"rendered":"“I am not defined by the declaring or rescinding of policy.”"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<\/head>

Today\u2019s guest post\u00a0 was written by Nathan R. Kitchen.\u00a0 Opinions shared on guest posts may not completely reflect the positions of the blog\u2019s author.<\/em><\/p>\n

\"\"Elected as Affirmation President in 2018, Nathan Kitchen<\/strong> (he\/him\/his) grew up in Orem, Utah. <\/em>He served a two-year mission in Alabama, where on a lonely Tuscaloosa country road, he had a tooth knocked out during a head-on collision. The dentist who saved his tooth was so cool that Nathan decided right then and there to become one himself. He received his BS from BYU Provo and a Doctor of Dental Medicine degree from Southern Illinois University. After a residency at the University of Iowa Hospitals and Clinics, he moved to Arizona and opened his private practice in Mesa. Nathan is the proud father of five remarkable children who are the pride and joy of his life.\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n

I am not defined by the declaring or rescinding of policy.<\/span>
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\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\nA BIRD IS NOT AN <\/em><\/span>ORNITHOLOGIST<\/i><\/span>\r\n\r\nIT JUST IS<\/em><\/span>\r\n\r\nLIVING LIFE AS ITSELF<\/em><\/span>\r\n\r\nBASKING IN THE SUN<\/em><\/span>\r\n\r\nAND EATING A MORNING MEAL<\/em><\/span>\r\n\r\nAND SINGING<\/em><\/span>\r\n\r\nOH, THE SINGING!<\/em><\/span>\r\n\r\nBEING<\/em><\/span>\r\n\r\nDESPITE BOOK, PROCLAMATION, AND POLICY<\/em><\/span>\r\n\r\nBEING!<\/em><\/span>\r\n\r\nNAMING DOES NOT CONFINE NOR WORDS CONTROL<\/em><\/span>\r\n\r\nNEITHER TWO FARTHINGS.<\/em><\/span>\r\n\r\nFOR THE THING JOTTED IN A FIELD NOTEBOOK<\/em><\/span>\r\n\r\nIS NOTHING FOR THE BIRD IN THE FIELD.<\/em><\/span>\r\n\r\nBOTH MAN AND GOD WATCH THE SPARROW FALL<\/em><\/span>\r\n\r\nBUT IN THE WATCHING<\/em><\/span>\r\n\r\nIT IS STILL A SPARROW.\r\n<\/em><\/span><\/pre>\n<\/blockquote>\n
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Natasha Helfer Parker, LCMFT, CST can be reached at\u00a0natashaparker.org<\/strong><\/a>\u00a0and\u00a0runs an online practice,\u00a0Symmetry Solutions<\/strong><\/em><\/a>, which focuses on helping families and individuals with faith concerns, sexuality and mental health. She hosts the\u00a0Mormon Mental Health<\/strong><\/a>\u00a0and\u00a0Mormon Sex Info<\/strong><\/a>\u00a0Podcasts, is the current past-president of the\u00a0Mormon Mental Health Association<\/strong><\/a>\u00a0and runs a sex education program,\u00a0Sex Talk with Natasha<\/strong><\/a>. She has over 20 years of experience working with primarily an LDS\/Mormon clientele.<\/p>\n
natashaparker.org<\/p>\n
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