{"id":474,"date":"2009-06-25T00:02:00","date_gmt":"2009-06-25T00:02:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/mormontherapist\/2009\/06\/if-i-just-keep-trying-to-do-the-right-thing-will-i-feel-normal\/"},"modified":"2009-06-25T00:02:00","modified_gmt":"2009-06-25T00:02:00","slug":"if-i-just-keep-trying-to-do-the-right-thing-will-i-feel-normal","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/mormontherapist\/2009\/06\/if-i-just-keep-trying-to-do-the-right-thing-will-i-feel-normal.html","title":{"rendered":"If I just keep trying to do the right thing, will I feel normal?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<\/head>

I need to <\/span><\/span><\/span>exercise<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span>. I spent many years in a physical, sexual, verbal and emotional abusive <\/span><\/span><\/span>marriage<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span>. I work several jobs to support my children, including one on a mission. I have no family around. I feel like living this secret past doesn\u2019t allow me to fit in with others. I attend the Temple regularly, do my V.T., teach relief society, help and serve others as much as possible. I feel like I am doing my best to be a <\/span><\/span><\/span>valiant<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span> daughter of God. I\u2019ve tried <\/span><\/span><\/span>BYU<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span> <\/span><\/span><\/span>counseling<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span> services but didn\u2019t understand the purpose or wh<\/span><\/span>ere it was going. It seemed like all I did was explain what happened when my arm was broken, or hands burned, or how I was told my breasts were disgusting and after undergoing breast <\/span><\/span><\/span>reconstruction<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span> how much it <\/span><\/span><\/span>cost<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span>\u00a0to have sex with me each time. What does <\/span><\/span><\/span>counseling<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span>\u00a0do? Will it teach me to feel normal, to fit in? I have no medical insurance. I stress about <\/span><\/span><\/span>financially<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span> making it each month. I\u2019m <\/span><\/span><\/span>OK<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span> not feeling anything. I pretend. I love my children. I love the gospel. I just don\u2019t love me. Eventually if I just keep <\/span><\/span><\/span>trying<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span> to do the right thing will I feel normal?\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

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Yes, exercise can be a wonderful outlet to relieve stress and to help us through difficult times. \u00a0It is also a wonderful sleep inducer, for those who have trouble falling asleep due to anxiety, past trauma, etc.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/div>\n

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Counseling can also be a very useful tool for people who have been in situations like you describe. \u00a0The main purposes of most therapy styles are:<\/span><\/span><\/span>
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