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At first I was uncomfortable that my piece would be published on Easter morning. But then I thought about how much Easter symbolizes the epitome of doing hard things for the benefit of others. And how often scriptural Christ invites us to do similarly. Even when it means standing up to powers beyond one\u2019s capacity to reach. Or when it frightens you as to the consequences. Or when the bully is in a perfect position to pummel you too. In fact\u2026 especially then. I hope my intention is clear. I do not enjoy calling out my leaders for these things. I wish I could celebrate trauma-informed care in our congregations. As a Latter-day Saint I have been asked to \u201csustain\u201d my leaders. In fact not doing so can lead to the \u201capostasy\u201d mark so many within my ranks have been labeled and disciplined with\u2026 to the point of exclusion through excommunication (which in our doctrine means separation from your loved ones for eternity). Yet\u2026 the word \u201csustain\u201d denotes supporting AND bearing. And I am definitely bearing the weight of their words and actions. I support them by asking them to bear and be aware of the hurt they often cause upon so many. That is the expertise I can and will offer.<\/span><\/p>\nCommentary: LDS Church<\/a> has great power, which it has wielded irresponsibly<\/a><\/h1>\n\u00a0<\/p>\n
\nNatasha Helfer Parker, LCMFT, CST can be reached at\u00a0natashaparker.org<\/strong><\/a>\u00a0and\u00a0runs an online practice,\u00a0Symmetry Solutions<\/strong><\/em><\/a>, which focuses on helping families and individuals with faith concerns, sexuality and mental health. She hosts the\u00a0Mormon Mental Health<\/strong><\/a>\u00a0and\u00a0Mormon Sex Info<\/strong><\/a>\u00a0Podcasts, is the current past-president of the\u00a0Mormon Mental Health Association<\/strong><\/a>\u00a0and runs a sex education program,\u00a0Sex Talk with Natasha<\/strong><\/a>. She has over 20 years of experience working with primarily an LDS\/Mormon clientele.<\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"At first I was uncomfortable that my piece would be published on Easter morning. But then I thought about how much Easter symbolizes the epitome of doing hard things for the benefit of others. And how often scriptural Christ invites us to do similarly. Even when it means standing up to powers beyond one\u2019s capacity […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":766,"featured_media":5000,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[57,45,48,138,25,170,43],"tags":[104,46,92,139,47,100],"class_list":["post-4861","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-faith-crisisfaith-transition","category-gospel-teachings","category-mental-health","category-mindfulness","category-righteousness","category-spirituality","category-temple-issues","tag-latter-day-saint","tag-lds","tag-mental-health","tag-mindfulness","tag-mormonism","tag-spirituality"],"yoast_head":"\n
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At first I was uncomfortable that my piece would be published on Easter morning. But then I thought about how much Easter symbolizes the epitome of doing hard things for the benefit of others. And how often scriptural Christ invites us to do similarly. Even when it means standing up to powers beyond one\u2019s capacity […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":766,"featured_media":5000,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[57,45,48,138,25,170,43],"tags":[104,46,92,139,47,100],"class_list":["post-4861","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-faith-crisisfaith-transition","category-gospel-teachings","category-mental-health","category-mindfulness","category-righteousness","category-spirituality","category-temple-issues","tag-latter-day-saint","tag-lds","tag-mental-health","tag-mindfulness","tag-mormonism","tag-spirituality"],"yoast_head":"\n