{"id":5078,"date":"2019-05-25T17:22:51","date_gmt":"2019-05-25T22:22:51","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/admin.patheos.com\/blogs\/mormontherapist\/?p=5078"},"modified":"2019-05-23T17:23:59","modified_gmt":"2019-05-23T22:23:59","slug":"some-boundaries-are-meant-to-be-broken","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/mormontherapist\/2019\/05\/some-boundaries-are-meant-to-be-broken.html","title":{"rendered":"Some Boundaries are meant to be Broken"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<\/head>

\"\"This was recently shared with me.\u00a0 It was given to Mormon youth, as young as 11 in the Austin, TX area, during a presentation on celestial marriage by a therapist.<\/p>\n

No better way to create all the problems we want to avoid.<\/p>\n

Great tool for sexual shame.<\/p>\n

Great tool for increased anxiety.<\/p>\n

Great tool to increase, instead of decrease unwanted behavior.<\/p>\n

Great way to make sure every single kid will fail at something on this list. <\/span><\/p>\n

And great way to make young people feel dirty, wrong and \u201csinful\u201d for stuff that is normal, developmentally appropriate and that they should be exploring to some level.<\/span><\/p>\n

I hope my kids \u201cmake out,\u201d masturbate, date without thinking about marriage for a long time, get lots of French kissing action, enjoy sexual fantasy, feel the right to keep certain things private, not ever read a daily list of \u201crules\u201d and never, ever see a \u201cprofessional\u201d that would cause this type of harm by coming up with non-evidence based and religiously biased interventions that are total crap!<\/span><\/p>\n

Parents\u2026. please protect your children from these kinds of tactics. We do know how sexual shame hurts people. Plenty of research to support that.<\/p>\n

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Overcoming Religious Sexual Shame<\/a> is an article published by Psychology Today on this subject.<\/p>\n

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Natasha Helfer Parker, LCMFT, CST can be reached at\u00a0natashaparker.org<\/strong><\/a>\u00a0and\u00a0runs an online practice,\u00a0Symmetry Solutions<\/strong><\/em><\/a>, which focuses on helping families and individuals with faith concerns, sexuality and mental health. She hosts the\u00a0Mormon Mental Health<\/strong><\/a>\u00a0and\u00a0Mormon Sex Info<\/strong><\/a>\u00a0Podcasts, is the current past-president of the\u00a0Mormon Mental Health Association<\/strong><\/a>\u00a0and runs a sex education program,\u00a0Sex Talk with Natasha<\/strong><\/a>. She has over 20 years of experience working with primarily an LDS\/Mormon clientele.<\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

This was recently shared with me.\u00a0 It was given to Mormon youth, as young as 11 in the Austin, TX area, during a presentation on celestial marriage by a therapist. No better way to create all the problems we want to avoid. Great tool for sexual shame. Great tool for increased anxiety. Great tool to […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":766,"featured_media":5090,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[28,71,87,27,154,20,45,138,26,25,16,170,43],"tags":[34,88,33,199,139,29,32,30],"class_list":["post-5078","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-adolescents","category-body-image","category-boundaries","category-children","category-consent","category-emotional-abuse","category-gospel-teachings","category-mindfulness","category-parenting","category-righteousness","category-sexuality","category-spirituality","category-temple-issues","tag-adolescents-2","tag-boundaries-2","tag-children-2","tag-family","tag-mindfulness","tag-mormon","tag-parenting-2","tag-sexuality-2"],"yoast_head":"\nSome Boundaries are meant to be Broken<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"This was recently shared with me.\u00a0 It was given to 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