{"id":288,"date":"2012-09-15T10:08:55","date_gmt":"2012-09-15T14:08:55","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/muslimahinprogress\/?p=288"},"modified":"2012-09-15T10:08:55","modified_gmt":"2012-09-15T14:08:55","slug":"my-brother-the-drug-dealer","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/muslimahinprogress\/2012\/09\/my-brother-the-drug-dealer.html","title":{"rendered":"My Brother the Drug Dealer"},"content":{"rendered":"<!DOCTYPE html PUBLIC \"-\/\/W3C\/\/DTD HTML 4.0 Transitional\/\/EN\" \"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/TR\/REC-html40\/loose.dtd\">\n<html><head><meta http-equiv=\"content-type\" content=\"text\/html; charset=utf-8\"><meta http-equiv=\"content-type\" content=\"text\/html; charset=utf-8\"><\/head><body><p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Every family has one. That relative who makes you cringe. The black sheep of the family. The trouble maker. The bad seed. The bum.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">When I became Muslim over nineteen years ago, I immediately became a sister to all the more than one billion Muslims on the planet. Quite lovely and touching, when you think of it. A black-skinned man in Sudan is my brother. A lady with straight black hair and pale skin in China is my sister. A nut-brown girl in a village in India, a flaming redhead in Ireland, an olive-complected fellow in Cairo. My brothers, my sisters. You can argue that with me they definitely got a sister who is, uh, different from the stereotypical picture of a Muslim. I\u2019m white. My ethnicity is American with roots in England and Germany, with some Native Choctaw and Cherokee thrown in. I love Nascar and American football. I eat biscuits and gravy. I watch Spongebob \u2013 the old Spongebob, back when it was good. But I like to think I\u2019m a nice person, not someone you\u2019d run away from or cross the street to avoid. Unfortunately, I can\u2019t say that about some of my brothers and sisters in the faith.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Let\u2019s take one brother. I don\u2019t know his name, but that\u2019s not important. When you have a billion siblings it\u2019s kind of hard to keep track. Anyway, this brother of mine lives in a little village in the Helmand province of Afghanistan. He is a drug dealer. I\u2019m not proud of it, not proud of him, but there it is. My brother the drug dealer. He has a little plot of land. On one tiny segment he grows food for his family, but on most of the land he grows opium poppies. The sap from these poppies is harvested and processed and ultimately turns into heroin. (Funny thing about that, I have another brother in Egypt who shoots this heroin into his arms. Ironic, huh?)\u00a0 I don\u2019t have a say in his career choice. He was forced into growing the poppies by the local warlord and if he doesn\u2019t make his quota they\u2019ll take his daughter and rape her or strangle his son. He\u2019s not a super happy guy, and he often uses his own opium to ease the hard edges of his life and take the pain away, if only for a while.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Family. Tough, huh? You can be a decent person, pray five times a day with all the sincerity in your heart, you can work an honest job and love your kids and never kick your cat, but the moment they show your brother\u2019s picture on TV you\u2019re guilty by association. MUSLIM, the TV says. RADICAL ISLAMIST GROUP FINANCED THROUGH DRUG SALES, reads the crawl at the bottom of the screen. And there\u2019s my brother standing in the middle of his poppy field with a gap-toothed grin on his face with his deadly crop waving gently in the breeze behind him.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Guilt by association. It\u2019s like having the last name Manson or Kaczynski or Dahmer. You introduce yourself at the PTA meeting as Mrs. Dahmer and most of the people in the room are thinking serial killer with body parts in the freezer. Show yourself as a Muslim and some, a lot, or even most of the people are thinking Osama bin Ladin. No way of getting around it. It\u2019s an uncomfortable truth that some people feel I have to apologize for the sins of my people, that because of our shared faith somehow I\u2019m responsible for that man growing poppies halfway across the world, or I\u2019m responsible for the hopeless young man who strapped a bomb to himself in Palestine, or the bearded radical wielding an RPG in Libya, or the protestor burning an American flag in Cairo. They\u2019re Muslim. I\u2019m Muslim. Muslim = Muslim like 1 = 1.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">\u00a0A logical person would see the fallacy of this argument, but logic often goes out the window when Islam is under discussion. Islam is the bugaboo, the monster in the closet, the Red Scare of our current time. People have been led to believe that Islam is some barbaric atavistic faith locked 1400 years in the past, and many Muslims are unfortunately doing nothing to disabuse people of that notion. That\u2019s where I come in<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">I chose to make my avocation the teaching of Islam.\u00a0 It\u2019s the focus of my writing.\u00a0 It occupies my mind for a good part of the day.\u00a0 When I\u2019m not posting a blurb on Twitter or Facebook, or writing a blog post here, I\u2019m teaching my children their Arabic letters or sharing a story of Prophet Muhammad\u2019s kindness.\u00a0 It\u2019s more than just what I do.\u00a0 It\u2019s who I am.<\/p>\n<p>Before I can even get to Islam itself, I have to spend time trying to explain that some things that you see supposed Muslims doing are totally forbidden by Islam.\u00a0 Islam does not allow terrorism. It does not allow suicide bombing. It does not allow the killing of innocent noncombatants. It does not allow protestors to smash windows and burn KFCs and overturn cars and run rampant through the streets. It does not allow the use of interest (usury or ribaa). It does not allow cheating in business, whether your boss or your customer is Muslim or non-Muslim. It does not allow the abuse of women. It does not allow infanticide. It does not allow the growing of poppies for opium.\u00a0 It does not allow a whole bunch of stuff that Muslims around the world are routinely doing. The fact that some Muslims are being bad Muslims, even engaging sins so heinous that it actually takes them outside the fold of Islam, is the sad reality of living in a messy, imperfect world, and I just have to put on my big girl pants (yes, I do wear pants under my long flowing robes \u2013 sometimes) and deal with it.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">But you have to deal with it too. If you want to have an honest discussion about Islam, you have to be, well, honest. You cannot blame Islam, or me, for the sins of my brothers or sisters. If you hear about Muslims behaving badly, you cannot ask me why Islam allows this behavior. You can ASK me <em>if<\/em>\u00a0 Islam allows this behavior, and when I tell you most emphatically <em>NO<\/em>, then you should believe it.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">I chose Islam 19 years ago. I chose it after I studied it. Studied the Qur\u2019an, studied the commentaries and the biography of Prophet Muhammad, may Allah\u2019s peace and blessings be upon him. Studied books of hadiths (prophetic traditions). I am not a scholar, but I am a skeptic, and I would not have accepted Islam if it were as it is portrayed in the media. I would not have accepted Islam if it were as it is lived by many Muslims. I would not have accepted Islam if it were a barbaric atavistic faith locked 1400 years in the past. I wouldn\u2019t expect you to, either.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">\u00a0So, put aside all my wayward siblings and remember that you probably have a few skeletons in your spiritual closet as well. If you want to know about Islam, ask me. <a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/MuslimahinProgress?ref=hl\" target=\"_blank\" class=\" decorated-link\" rel=\"nofollow\">Ask <em>me<\/em><\/a>. I will give you a truthful answer. It might even be the one you\u2019re looking for.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">\n<\/p><\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Every family has one. That relative who makes you cringe. The black sheep of the family. The trouble maker. The bad seed. The bum. When I became Muslim over nineteen years ago, I immediately became a sister to all the more than one billion Muslims on the planet. 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