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Salaam Alaikum wa Rahmatullah<\/b><\/span><\/div>\n
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I was scrolling through my FB status updates and came across a posting regarding gossip. \u00a0It reminded me that I\u2019ve been meaning to mention something for a long time. \u00a0Now is as good a time as any:<\/b><\/span><\/div>\n
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For my dear brothers and sisters who are married, gossip is gossip even if it is between husband and wife. \u00a0It is gossip if you are talking about others in your family, it is gossip of you are talking about people at the masjid, it is gossip if you are talking about people at work.<\/b><\/span><\/div>\n
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So many people have a blind spot in regards to their spouses. \u00a0Due to the normal intimacy of the marital relationship, we have a tendency to want to share everything<\/i>. This results in us talking about things that we shouldn\u2019t. \u00a0This is damaging to everyone because once something is said it can\u2019t be unsaid.<\/b><\/span><\/div>\n
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Let\u2019s use a fictional example. \u00a0 Said comes home from the masjid, and says salaam to his wife Ameenah. \u00a0He is bursting with news. \u00a0Is he going to give her some naseehah and tell her what the khutbah was about? \u00a0Why, no, that\u2019s not news. \u00a0<\/i>\u00a0He wants to hurry up and tell her what he heard from Yusef, who heard from Ahmed, who works for Abdallah, that this guy he knows casually from the masjid, whose name is Ali, went and got secretly married when he took a vacation to his home country. \u00a0And the wife is jealous, and she is beautiful, and she wants to come to the US, and she wants him to divorce his first wife, and\u2026. and\u2026. and. \u00a0You get the idea. \u00a0Said shares all the news, all the juicy details, and forever changes his wife\u2019s impression of Ali, whom she\u2019s never even met but already dislikes. \u00a0They chew over the issue, with Ameenah clucking in disapproval and Said saying \u201cI know<\/i>\u201d as if he does <\/i>\u00a0know but of course he doesn\u2019t because he\u2019s getting this \u201cnews\u201d fourth hand. \u00a0\u201cOh, and by the way, the Imaam talked about surat al Kahf today\u201d, he says in passing before going to the den for a nap.<\/b><\/span><\/div>\n
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So, what has happened here? \u00a0Said has shared information that he does not even know is true, and even if it is, it\u2019s none of his business. \u00a0He\u2019s compromised the privacy of a brother and affected how his wife views him. \u00a0Now, imagine it\u2019s a couple of months later and Ameenah is in the masjid for a potluck dinner. \u00a0She\u2019s introduced to a lady who she realizes is the (possibly first) wife of the aforementioned Ali. \u00a0Now, instead of one sister greeting another with a pure heart, she has mental reservations because of the information she has. \u00a0<\/b><\/span><\/div>\n
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