{"id":53,"date":"2011-01-06T17:40:00","date_gmt":"2011-01-06T17:40:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/muslimahinprogress\/2011\/01\/06\/prophet-muhammad-asked-his-wives-permission\/"},"modified":"2011-01-06T17:40:00","modified_gmt":"2011-01-06T17:40:00","slug":"prophet-muhammad-asked-his-wives-permission","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/muslimahinprogress\/2011\/01\/prophet-muhammad-asked-his-wives-permission.html","title":{"rendered":"Prophet Muhammad asked his wives’ permission"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<\/head>
Bismillahi Rahmani Rahim<\/span><\/b><\/div>\n

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Salaam Alaikum wa Rahmtullah.<\/span><\/b><\/div>\n

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I was taking care of some simple household task, thinking of nothing in particular, when I remembered an incident that happened towards the end of the life of our beloved Prophet Muhammad, may Allah\u2019s peace and blessings be upon him. \u00a0He was ill, what turned out to be his final illness, and he was in the house of his wife Maymoonah, may Allah be pleased with her. \u00a0He asked her to call all his wives to him, and when they assembled \u00a0he asked their permission to stay with his wife Aisha, may Allah be pleased with her, during his illness. \u00a0Let me repeat that: \u00a0He asked permission of his wives to stay in the house of his wife Aisha during his illness.<\/span><\/b><\/div>\n

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If you know much about polygyny in Islam, you know that it has strict rules. \u00a0The husband may have up to four wives (Allah allowed Prophet Muhammad, pbuh, to exceed this number but no one else may) and the husband must divide his resources equitably and divide his time in an equal manner. \u00a0If he sets up a schedule where he spends two nights at one wife\u2019s home, then he must spend two nights at each of the other wives\u2019 homes as well. \u00a0A man who does not treat his wives fairly will come leaning on the Day of Judgment, so this is a fair warning against any man who takes such things lightly.<\/span><\/b><\/div>\n

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So, think about this. \u00a0Prophet Muhammad, pbuh, was at that time the leader of all the Muslims. \u00a0He had political power as head of state, so to speak, along with his spiritual leadership. It would have been easy for him to pronounce that he would stay with Aisha while he was sick. \u00a0No one would have disagreed with him or gainsaid said him. \u00a0It would have been considered reasonable, as he was ill and it would be difficult for him to move from house to house. \u00a0Yet, he did not merely declare that he was making this move; \u00a0he assembled his wives and asked them. \u00a0They all agreed, and he stayed with Aisha, ra, and breathed his last in her house.<\/span><\/b><\/div>\n

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So, brothers \u2013 and sisters too \u2013 think about this whenever you are about to make a decision that short-circuits the rights of others, be that your wife or wives, your employees, your family, your coworkers, or your brothers and sisters in faith. \u00a0If Allah\u2019s Messenger, pbuh, was so strict about observing the rights of his wives, how can you excuse yourself from doing the same? \u00a0Just a thought that came to me in a free moment\u2026. \u00a0And Allah knows best.<\/span><\/b><\/div>\n
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