{"id":12991,"date":"2013-02-13T08:48:04","date_gmt":"2013-02-13T12:48:04","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/nakedpastor\/?p=12991"},"modified":"2013-02-13T08:48:04","modified_gmt":"2013-02-13T12:48:04","slug":"blind-and-deaf-to-spiritual-abuse","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/nakedpastor\/2013\/02\/blind-and-deaf-to-spiritual-abuse\/","title":{"rendered":"blind and deaf to spiritual abuse"},"content":{"rendered":"<!DOCTYPE html PUBLIC \"-\/\/W3C\/\/DTD HTML 4.0 Transitional\/\/EN\" \"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/TR\/REC-html40\/loose.dtd\">\n<html><head><meta http-equiv=\"content-type\" content=\"text\/html; charset=utf-8\"><meta http-equiv=\"content-type\" content=\"text\/html; charset=utf-8\"><\/head><body><p><figure id=\"attachment_12992\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-12992\" style=\"width: 550px\" class=\"wp-caption alignnone\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.etsy.com\/listing\/123514591\/blind-and-deaf-to-spiritual-abuse-print\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\" class=\" decorated-link\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-large wp-image-12992\" title=\"blind and deaf\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-media.patheos.com\/blogs\/sites\/328\/2013\/02\/blind-and-deaf-550x550.jpg\" alt=\"blind and deaf to spiritual abuse cartoon by nakedpastor david hayward\" width=\"550\" height=\"550\"><\/a><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-12992\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">\u201cBlind and Deaf to Spiritual Abuse\u201d by nakedpastor David Hayward<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/p><p><em>(Those receiving this in your inbox, click on either title \u201cBlind and Deaf\u201d and it will take you to the nakedpastor site.)<\/em><\/p>\n<p>I frequently get really sweet emails from really sweet people who say they\u2019ve been in a perfect church their whole lives and have never seen anything I talk about, nor have they experienced it. They usually believe that what I talk about is a very rare occurrence and that I\u2019m blowing it way out of proportion. Once in a while I believe them. But that\u2019s rarely. Usually I smell denial.<\/p>\n<p>Almost always the blindness and deafness is willful. Most people believe a certain amount of manipulation, control or coercion is necessary to make the machine we call church work. They believe that lording it over others is the only way organizations work efficiently and so the behavior of leaders is indisputable, unquestionable and excusable. It\u2019s just how things work. They learned this from their families and schools and their long history with the church and other institutions.<\/p>\n<p>And most people just can\u2019t handle suffering\u2026 their own or others\u2019. The problem is perniciously pervasive and seems overwhelmingly impossible to fix. There is also great fear of repercussion if they speak out and address it. Plus it is very difficult to expose when it is cloaked in what looks like love, care and what is called biblical discipline.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/nakedpastor.etsy.com\" class=\" decorated-link\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow\">SHOP<\/a><\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>(Those receiving this in your inbox, click on either title \u201cBlind and Deaf\u201d and it will take you to the nakedpastor site.) I frequently get really sweet emails from really sweet people who say they\u2019ve been in a perfect church their whole lives and have never seen anything I talk about, nor have they experienced [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":349,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[10],"tags":[2854,3003,603,722,2966],"class_list":["post-12991","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-cartoons","tag-abuse_cartoon","tag-blind_and_deaf","tag-david_hayward","tag-nakedpastor","tag-spiritual_abuse_cartoon"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v21.1 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>blind and deaf to spiritual abuse<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"(Those receiving this in your inbox, click on either title &quot;Blind and Deaf&quot; and it will take you to the nakedpastor site.) 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