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<\/a>Someone wrote this note to me yesterday:<\/p>\n
Your keen awareness of the more subtle abuses of the church, delivered to me in snippets each day on my news feed, has been so validating for me \u2013 it has been healing my soul a little.<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n
This is exactly what I do! I thanked that person for articulating it back to me so clearly and simply.<\/p>\n
You see, most people inside the abuse don\u2019t see it\u2026 neither the abuser or the abused. It has become so normalized that to even raise questions about it provokes rebuke in return. It\u2019s typical of abusive situations. When you suggest it\u2019s happening, the family comes back hard: \u201cKeep your nose out of our business! How dare you! You don\u2019t understand our family!\u201d<\/em>\u00a0I\u2019ve seen it thousands of times. I know cops who say that the most dangerous calls are intervening in domestic disputes.<\/p>\n
It\u2019s happening pervasively people. I have friends and family and know a lot<\/em> of people willingly participating in their own abuse\u2026 some subtle and some overt. But that\u2019s just how things are done.<\/p>\n
For many it\u2019s the tradeoff for belonging.<\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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