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This is because the underlying assumption of the abuser is that it is necessary for you to be under some authority and you are incapable of being self-determining. We exacerbate this by believing these things. If we believe we need to be under some authority and we can\u2019t determine what\u2019s best for us, then the conditions are perfect for our abuse.<\/p>\n

Sometimes, like our Sophia<\/a>, you have to decide that you can make your own decisions for your own welfare. You need to break yourself away. You need to be confident that you know what is best for you. (You can get originals and prints of Sophia<\/em> here<\/a>.)<\/p>\n

This does not negate seeking advice or counsel or wisdom or guidance. But you seek these on your own terms and only voluntarily submit for a time when you absolutely know it is good for you.<\/p>\n

You can do it. You don\u2019t need someone with authority over you. You can decide and determine what is best for you. Yes, you can!<\/p>\n

If you haven\u2019t bought my book of cartoons, I invite you too. It addresses concerns such as this. <\/span> \u201cNakedpastor101: Cartoons by David Hayward<\/strong>\u201c, from amazon.com<\/a>, amazon.ca<\/a>, amazon.de<\/a>. Great for laughs and serious discussion!<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"