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$\"Next-Steps\"$ <\/a>When we\u2019re hurt, we get angry. When we\u2019re angry, we can get bitter. When we get bitter, we can see our lives destroyed. Monday we talked about how to break the power of unforgiveness in your life<\/a>. Today I want to talk about what you\u2019re really saying when you forgive.<\/p>\n

When we\u2019re hurt deeply by others, we get angry because we feel like they (whoever \u201cthey\u201d is) owe us something: they owe us a childhood, they owe us being there as a parent, they owe us more time with them, they owe us the trust they broke, they owe us the money they stole, etc. We feel like they owe us something, and we know we\u2019ll never get it back, so we get angry.<\/p>\n

Jesus tells us a story about what it means to truly forgive:<\/p>\n

23\u00a0\u201cTherefore, the kingdom of heaven is like a king who wanted to settle accounts with his servants. 24\u00a0As he began the settlement, a man who owed him ten thousand bags of gold was brought to him. 25\u00a0Since he was not able to pay, the master ordered that he and his wife and his children and all that he had be sold to repay the debt.<\/em><\/p>\n

26\u00a0\u201cAt this the servant fell on his knees before him. \u2018Be patient with me,\u2019 he begged, \u2018and I will pay back everything.\u2019 27\u00a0The servant\u2019s master took pity on him, canceled the debt and let him go.<\/em><\/p>\n

28\u00a0\u201cBut when that servant went out, he found one of his fellow servants who owed him a hundred silver coins. He grabbed him and began to choke him. \u2018Pay back what you owe me!\u2019 he demanded.<\/em><\/p>\n

29\u00a0\u201cHis fellow servant fell to his knees and begged him, \u2018Be patient with me, and I will pay it back.\u2019<\/em><\/p>\n

30\u00a0\u201cBut he refused. Instead, he went off and had the man thrown into prison until he could pay the debt. 31\u00a0When the other servants saw what had happened, they were outraged and went and told their master everything that had happened.<\/em><\/p>\n

32\u00a0\u201cThen the master called the servant in. \u2018You wicked servant,\u2019 he said, \u2018I canceled all that debt of yours because you begged me to. 33\u00a0Shouldn\u2019t you have had mercy on your fellow servant just as I had on you?\u2019 34\u00a0In anger his master handed him over to the jailers to be tortured, until he should pay back all he owed.<\/em><\/p>\n

35\u00a0\u201cThis is how my heavenly Father will treat each of you unless you forgive your brother or sister from your heart.\u201d Matthew 18:23-35<\/em><\/p>\n

When you truly forgive someone, you\u2019re saying \u201cyou don\u2019t owe me anymore.\u201d<\/strong>\u00a0Whatever the offending person did to you, whatever you feel like they owe you, truly forgiving someone is coming to the point where you decide that they don\u2019t owe you anymore. That\u2019s how you break the power of unforgiveness in your life.<\/p>\n<\/body><\/html>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"